Ngakhale zilizonse, pali zizindikiro zofanana: ngati mumakondwera ndi dzina lanu, zaka, momwe mumadzuka mmawa, zomwe mumaganiza m'maganizo mwanu, pali anthu omwe ndibwino kuti mutseke, khalani pamodzi, muli ndi zilakolako zilizonse. Ngati chilakolako chikusowa - ichi ndi chifukwa chokhalira kusintha.
Chizindikiro china chofunika cha moyo wa munthu - sitepe yofunika - ndi kuvutika maganizo. Katswiri wina wa ku Germany anapereka chithunzi chosangalatsa cha kuvutika maganizo monga momwe mayi wachikulire yemwe anabwera, anapita ku gome ndipo amafuna kunena chinachake, koma ali chete. Indedi, kupweteka kotero sikukuwuka. Izi ndizo momwe timachitira ndi malingaliro olakwika, zochita, njira ya moyo yomwe ndi yachilendo kwa ife. Ngati mumamvetsera kuvutika maganizo, kumvetsetsa zomwe zikuchitika, ndizotheka kusintha chinachake. Koma kusintha kumeneku kuyenera kukhala kofatsa komanso kosamala - kusintha kwambiri ntchito, kusiya banja, kukana zomwe mumadalira, mudziko lino n'kosatheka.
Muyenera kumvetsetsa ndi kumva zizindikiro za moyo wa munthu - siteji yofunika - kuti muwone yemwe muli naye - mu sitolo, sitima, mumzere. Pambuyo pake, munthu uyu akhoza kusintha moyo wanu. Musataye zopereka, maulendo. Chizindikiro china chofunika ndi matenda. Ngati munthu akuyenda molakwika, sakwaniritsa ntchito yake, nthawi zambiri amadwala matenda - kukonza, kupereka mpata woganiza ndi kusinkhasinkha moyo wa munthu ndi sitepe yofunikira.
Mwa njira, anthu kawirikawiri amafunika "kudwala" kapena "kukhala ndi vuto lalikulu" kuti "ayambirenso" - kenako zinthu zofunika mwadzidzidzi zimasintha. Munthu amadziwa kuti mfundo zake zonse, mantha, malingaliro ndizochabechabe ndipo ndi nthawi yosintha kanthu. Wodwala wina wa ine adatha kupulumuka ku khansa pogwiritsa ntchito kusintha, koma pazinthu izi adayenera kunena kuti: "Sindidzachita zoposa mphindi imodzi ya moyo zomwe sindikufuna, ndipo sindingathe kukhala nawo muubwenzi umene sindikufuna."
Ndipo iye anachitadi zambiri - anasintha ntchito, banja ndipo posakhalitsa anachiritsidwa.
Nchiyani chingalepheretse kusintha kwa moyo?
Mdani woopsa kwambiri sakhulupirira mwaiye mwini komanso mwa iyeyekha. Izi zimanena kuti akatswiri a zamaganizo amachititsa masewera a sabata "Sabotage" ("si nthawi yokha, choncho bwanji osintha chinachake") ndi "Pessimist" ("Sindinachipeze"). Anthu omwe amakonda kusewera akulangizidwa kukumbukira chilankhulo cha kampani ("Ingochitani!").
Nthawi zambiri timaletsedwa ndi chilakolako cha kukhazikika kwa pulayimale. Ndipotu, dzikoli likuyendayenda mofulumira, timakakamizidwa kuti tigwirizane ndi zinthu zatsopano. Ndipo gulu laling'ono la anthu omwe adalandira kale batali, akuwopa kutaya. Choyimitsa china ndi mantha oyamba pa terra incognito, kumene simunakhaleko, ndipo kuti musadziwe, kuti mukumane ndi maganizo omwe simunakayikirepo. Kusintha kokha kumaphatikizapo kusintha kwa dongosolo lonse. Iye amatsutsa, chifukwa, atayamba kusintha, iye akhoza kutha mu mawonekedwe ake akale. Choncho munthu amaopa kutaya khalidwe lake, asiye kukhala yekha. N'chifukwa chiyani zimakhala zovuta kusintha makhalidwe? Chifukwa popanda kusuta (opanda khofi, opanda khalidwe lovuta), sikuti ife sitingathe. Kusiya kusuta, kutaya thupi, munthu sadzakhalanso ndi zifukwa zilizonse. Adzayenera kukhala ndi udindo pa moyo wake, kugwiritsidwa ntchito ndi maubwenzi ena, kusintha chilengedwe.
Kodi mungayambe bwanji kusintha?
Kuti mupite ku chinthu chatsopano, pamene zakale sizinathe, ndizovuta. Mavuto osatha ali ngati mawindo otseguka pazitsulo zomwe sizigwiritsidwe ntchito. Ndipo yotseguka kwambiri, makompyutawo amatha kupitirizabe. N'chimodzimodzinso ndi anthu - zochitika zoterezi zimatulutsa mphamvu - timayamba "kupachika." Choncho, kuti mukhale ndi chosowa chatsopano mukamaliza ndi chakale. Pachifukwa ichi, munthu angaganizire poganiza kuti chipinda chosaloledwa chimasungidwa, ndipo chimasinthidwa. Anthu amene anamwalira ayenera kulekerera. Zina zimakhala zotentha, mukhoza kugwira nawo ntchito, yesetsani kumvetsetsa zomwe akuchita. Kufufuza koteroko kungathandize kuzindikira chinthu chimodzi chofunika pa izi. Nthaŵi zina ndimaphunzitsa makasitomala papepala kuti atenge moyo wa munthu - gawo lofunika kufikira lero komanso mtsogolomu. Ndipo pa gawo la mtsogolo ndikuwonetsa zomwe ndikufuna kuti ndikhale nayo nthawi. Gawo lotsatira ndikukhala ndi udindo pa moyo wanu, kumvetsetsa ndi kuvomereza kuti kusintha kwina kumaphatikizapo ena. Pambuyo pake, yambani kuchita, chifukwa moyo ulibe malire. Choncho, mutasankha kuchita chinachake, chitanipo kanthu. Mutasankha kusintha, muyenera kudzifunsa mafunso atatu:
Kodi ndikufunika chiyani ndipo ndingasinthe? Kodi ndikufuna kuti ndichite chiyani? Ndi njira ziti, ndizochita ziti ndi tsiku liti?
Atayankha kwa iwo, pitirizani kukonza ndondomeko ya ntchito ndikutsatira bwino. Pamene cholinga chikufotokozedwa nthawi ndi zochita zinazake, ndiye kuti zimakulimbikitsani komanso kukulamulirani, osati inuyo. Pali njira ziwiri zowunikira kusintha. Choyamba ndi pamene iwo akutsatiridwa mu magawo. Gwirizanani, ndivuta kuti wina adye njovu yaikulu. Koma izi sizikutanthawuza kuti simuyenera kudziyika nokha ntchito yodyera - kungoidula tsiku lililonse, ndipo sipadzakhala phokoso kwa chaka.
Koma sikuti kusintha kulikonse kungatheke motere - sikutheka kudumphira pambali pa nthawiyi. Choncho, muyenera kuganizira ndi kudumpha pa imodzi. Palibe lamulo lachikhalidwe momwe mungasiyanitse wina ndi mzake. Muyenera kuzindikira kuti pali kusintha kotere ndipo, malinga ndi izi, chitanipo kanthu. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukufuna kusintha malingaliro, muyenera kudya njovu m'magulu, ndipo ngati mutasweka - konzekerani kulumphira kuphompho.
Thandizo kunja - katswiri wa zamaganizo, kuphunzitsidwa kungakuthandizeni kumvetsetsa nokha ndikusintha moyo wanu kuti ukhale wabwino?
Nthawi zambiri zimathandiza - osati chifukwa chakuti anthu amawoneka kuti alibe thandizo. Mwachidule, ambiri a ife timafuna kutsitsimula kunja, chothandizira. Kuchokera kwondichitikira kwanga ndikudziwa kuti nditaphunzitsidwa ku utsogoleri ndi kukula kwaumwini, kudumpha kwakukulu kwambiri ndikusintha kwa ophunzira. Ngati chilakolako cha kusintha chikubwera mwa inu, koma simungathe kugwiritsira ntchito zomwe muyenera kuyamba, katswiri angathandize kuchita izi. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukumbukira kuti akatswiri a maganizo ndi njira ndizosiyana kwambiri. Kotero, ngati wina wa iwo sanakuthandizeni, onetsetsani kuti mupeze wina. Ganizirani, makamaka choyamba, kwa akatswiri enieni omwe ali ndi ntchito zambiri. Apanso, kwa aliyense wa ife, njira zathu ndi njira zathu ndi zabwino. Chithandizo chamakono chidzachita chinthu chimodzi, kukambirana kwa wina.
Ena amakhulupirira kuti zatha kusintha masewera, ndipo zonse zidzasintha mwakamodzi.
Kodi zikuchotseratu zinyalala ndi bungwe loyenera la malo omwe angabweretse kusintha kwakukulu pamoyo wa munthu - siteji yofunikira? Chirichonse chiri chokha. Zikugwiranso ntchito ngati munthuyo mwiniyo amakhulupirira mwatsatanetsatane zotsatira zake. Ngakhale kuti mulibe malingaliro a maganizo komanso opanda ntchito pa nokha sikokwanira. Ndikofunika kuti mumvetsere nokha. Ngati mukufuna kukonza njira zoti mupite patsogolo - chitani.
Malo opatulika sakhala opanda kanthu. Choncho, wina ayenera kuthetsa zinthu zakale, kuzichotsa nthawi. Pambuyo pa zonse, amafunikira chisamaliro, chichitike. Koma osati kokha. Podziwa kutaya zinyalala m'kupita kwa nthawi, mukhoza kudzidziwa nokha ndi kuchotsa zilakolako zosafunika, zizoloŵezi, kugwirizana nthawi yake. Pambuyo pake, chizoloŵezi cha izi sichikhoza kukhazikitsidwa pa msinkhu wa maganizo - kokha pazochitika zoyambirira.
Pankhani yolumikiza malo ndi malo otchuka a feng shui, kuimirira kumachita mbali yofunikira pano. Mwachitsanzo, pokhala ndi chophiphiritsira chomwe chimakopetsa chuma, ndikuchiika pambali yoyenera, munthu amakhala wovuta kwambiri ndipo amatha kulandira chizindikiro kuchokera kunja. Mdziko lino, ndithudi sadzaphonya mwayi umene umulonjezera phindu. Chizindikiro chimatithandiza kutseguka, ngati kutsegula maso athu ku zomwe zikuchitika.
Kodi kusinthika kwa fano kumasonyezedwa motani m'kati lathu?
Popanda kuzindikira, palibe kusintha kwakunja komwe kungakupangitseni kusiyana.
Pano tikhoza kulankhula za chifaniziro. Kwa wina, kukonzanso tsitsi ndizochitika, kwa wina - chizindikiro cha moyo watsopano. Aliyense amasankha yekha. Indedi, munthu watsopano mphuno sangathe kusangalala. Koma zimakhalanso kuti mwatsatanetsatane wazinthu zambiri, mwachitsanzo, mankhwala atsopano kapena malaya odula, amasintha maganizo a mwiniwake: ali ndi maganizo osiyana, osatembenuza mutu wake, amayenda. Ndipo kuzungulira kwapadera kukugwira kusintha uku, werengani zizindikiro za thupi. Ndipo apo siri kutali ndi kusintha kosangalatsa.