Mu bukhuli, tikufuna kugwirizanitsa maganizo okhudza kugonana pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, kuchititsidwa manyazi. Ichi ndi vuto la anthu athu, omwe aliyense wa ife angakumane nawo.
Mitundu yodzichepetsa pa mkazi .
Kudzudzula ndi mtundu wa nkhanza zomwe zimaphatikizapo kunyozedwa komwe kumakhudza ulemu wa munthu, kuletsa moyo wathanzi (ntchito, kucheza ndi anzanu ndi zina zotero), kukakamizidwa kwachuma, kuwopseza ndi kupsinjika maganizo pa munthu. Tsoka ilo, ndi chodabwitsa ichi chikhalidwe chonse cha anthu chikuwombera, mosasamala kanthu za msinkhu wa ndalama kapena udindo pakati pa anthu.
Chithunzi cha wogwidwa manyazi .
Azimayi amene nthawi zonse amanyalanyazidwa, nthawi zambiri amadziona kuti ndi ofunika kwambiri, amalingaliro, osasamala komanso osatetezeka. Mkazi wotero nthawi zonse amayesera kudzilungamitsa yekha, kumangomva kuti ndi wolakwa. Ndipo zomwe zimawopsya kwambiri, amayi ambiri omwe amapezeka kuti ali mumkhalidwe wotero amakhulupirira kuti palibe amene angawathandize, ndipo iwowo amanyalanyaza ngati chilango cha zomwe amachitcha "kunyalanyaza". Ndipo mwachidziwikire, mzimayiyo amayamba kuganiza za ntchito yowonongeka ya kugonana kofooka osati m'banja lokha pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, komanso mdziko lonse.
Chithunzi cha mwamuna yemwe akhoza kunyalanyaza mkazi .
Izi nthawi zambiri zimakhala munthu - wachiwawa, yemwe, kuyambira ali mwana, mwiniwakeyo anachititsidwa manyazi mobwerezabwereza. Munthuyu amadziona kuti ndi wodzichepetsa (ndipo amayesera kuulitsa), ali ndi zovuta zambiri, amakhala omasuka kuti aziimba mlandu wina aliyense. Izi zimachitika kuti anthu oterewa amanyozedwa mosazindikira. Poyera, amuna awa, monga lamulo, ali ndi khalidwe labwino komanso momwe amadzikondera okha, ndi anthu ochepa omwe amadziwa. Mnyamata wotero nthawi zonse amakhala omasuka kupempha chikhululukiro pambuyo pa ntchitoyo, motero, mosavuta kulowa mu chikhulupiliro. Ichi ndi psychology ya ubale pakati pa nkhanza mwamuna ndi mkazi wozunzidwa. Ndicho chifukwa chake amayi ambiri, kukhululukira mwamuna wawo, "amapitanso pa zomwezo".
Zowonongeka ndi zifukwa za mtumiki .
Chikhalidwe chachikulu cha lingaliro loti "kunyalanyazidwa m'banja" chimakhala ndi maziko ovuta kwambiri a maganizo a chiyanjano cha mwamuna ndi mkazi wake. Kuonongeka, ngati chisonyezero chowonekera cha nkhanza, kukhoza kuwuka mu banja lirilonse, ndipo izi sizidzangodalira momwe zimakhalira. Omwe akukumana ndi vutoli nthawi zambiri amadzimadzi okhaokha, omwe poyamba amamulola munthuyo kuti azichita mwanjira imeneyi. Ndipo izi ndi nthawi yomwe mungathe kupeŵa ubale woterewu. Koma ngati mwalandira kale maganizo amenewa, simungapereke ufulu kwa munthu kuti azichita mwanjira imeneyi.
Psycholoji ya amayi ambiri inalinganizidwa m'njira yoti ikhale chete kwa zaka zambiri za chirichonse chomwe chimawachitikira popanda kuchotsa "zinyalala m'nyumba." Mwamuna, "chete" uyu ukuwoneka ngati chizindikiro cha kuvomereza komanso chitsimikizo chakuti mkaziyo adzapirira zonse ndikukhululukiranso. Koma, monga mukudziwira, ubale wotere pakati pa anthu suwatsogolera ku zabwino. Muzochitika izi, njira yothetsera yothetsera mavuto ndizosiyana, koma amayi amakonda kukhululukira "okhulupirika" mobwerezabwereza. Ndipo zonsezi, monga psychology imanena, chifukwa cha mantha oopsya a dona kuti akhale yekha. Kuwonjezera apo, kudalira ndalama pa mwamuna, vuto la nyumba ndi ana, pamene chisudzulo cha makolo chingasokoneze, chikuwonekera. Komanso pano mukhoza kutchula mwachikondi chikondi ndi chikondi cha mkazi kwa mwamuna. Mwazinthu zina, kusatetezeka kwa mkazi mwa iyemwini kumabweretsa kumverera kwachilakolako pamaso pa munthu ndi khalidwe lake amaonedwa ngati woyenera.
Mmene mungachitire ndi kuthetsa manyazi m'banja ?
Nanga bwanji, kuthetsa manyazi ku banja, ngati mukuwopa kuti, ngati mumanena za mavuto anu, kodi iwo angakuganizireni kuti ndinu ofooka? Nthawi zonse ndi koyenera kukumbukira kuti munthu yemwe amanyoza mkazi (kaya pagulu kapena m'banja) si mwamuna. Choyamba, munthu wotero sangathe kudziletsa yekha, ndipo ali ndi zovuta zambiri zamaganizo. Popanda kuyang'ana kumbuyo, thonyani munthu woteroyo. Chabwino, ngati mukufunabe kukhala ndi ubale pakati panu, ndiye kuti muyesetse kulankhula ndi mwamuna ndikumufotokozera kuti akulakwitsa. Muyeneranso kupewa zonse zomwe zingamuchititse manyazi. Kumbukirani kuti pansi pazimenezi muli wodzipulumutsa nokha. Funsani katswiri wa zamaganizo kapena, chabwinobe, pitani ndi mnzako kuti mukamuwone. Werengani mabuku pa "psychology ndi manyazi" ndipo phunzirani momwe mungathetsere vutoli ndi chithandizo chawo. Mwa njira, pali mabuku ambiri otere ndipo amanyamula zambiri zothandiza komanso zothandiza.
Chabwino, ngati mutabwerabe paziganizo zomwe muyenera kugawira, mungagwiritse ntchito pazinthu zothandizira zapadera, komwe mungapereke uphungu wothandiza kuti mungachite bwanji izi mopanda ululu. Musamuopseze munthu yemwe amuponyera iye. Izi mungamupangitse kuchita zinthu zowonjezereka. Uzani banja lanu za izi, zomwe zikuyenera kukuthandizani ndikukutetezani panthawiyi.
Kumbukirani kuti kunyozetsedwa ndi njira imodzi ya chiwawa. Choncho, mawu onse, mwakhalidwe, mwakakamiza ndi matemberero sayenera kukuopsezani ndikukuthamangitsani ku "kona yakhungu". Ndipotu, kunyozetsa mawu nthawi zonse kumatha kukwapulidwa, ndipo izi zimaipiraipira. Choncho musayambe kuchita zinthu mopitirira malire ndipo nthawizonse mukhalebe wolimba komanso wolimba mtima yemwe, chifukwa cha moyo wake wokha, ali wokonzeka kuthetsa chirichonse ndikusintha moyo wake wonse.