Black and White
Kumbukirani pamene mudali nthawi yotsiriza yomwe mudamukwiyitsa wina. Kodi zotani? Ndibwino kuti muwaimbire zovuta. Izi sizosadabwitsa: timangokhalira kudana ndi zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri kwa ife. Kuwona ndi kumvetsa kuti wina ali ndi "zofunika" (foni yamtengo wapatali kwambiri, chiwerengero chabwino, ntchito yabwino), ndipo inu-ayi, ndithudi, zosasangalatsa. Nsanje ndikumverera mwachibadwa, ndipo simukuyenera kuchita manyazi. Pa nthawi yomweyi, zochitika zoipa ndizofunikira kwambiri pa kaduka. Nanga bwanji za nsanje yoyera? Sitikufuna kukukhumudwitsani, koma, mwachiwonekere, sichipezeka. Msungwanayo anali ndi mpumulo wopambana, ndipo pamene iwe uyang'ana pa zithunzi, iwe umati: "Super! Ndikukudandaula ndi nsanje yoyera! "" Kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani? " Iwe ndiwe wokondwa kwambiri chifukwa cha iye, ndipo mwinamwake tsiku lina ine ndikufuna kuti ndikhale nthawi yomweyo. Koma kodi kaduka n'chiyani? Nsanje yoyera - mawonekedwe oyamikira kapena_kodi mukuganiza? Moyenera, kusadzikweza kwa kaduka sikunali wakuda kapena wakuda. Chifukwa chake, sitidzakhala ndi nsanje chifukwa cha nsanje. Kaya mumasirira kapena ayi, sipangakhale njira zina.
Ndani ali wamphamvu?
Ndi "mitundu" ya nsanje, ife tinayisankha iyo. Koma kumverera uku kuli ndi mbali imodzi - mphamvu. N'zotheka kwa mphindi kufuna kukhala pamalo a winawake, ndipo mukhoza kulingalira za chaka chomwe simudzakhala nacho. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti kuchuluka kwa kaduka kwanu kumadalira zinthu ziwiri:
- Zimayambitsa kunja. Ganizirani, ndani amene mungamuchitire nsanje nthawi zambiri, movutikira kwambiri? Mwinamwake, yemwe ali ngati inu, ndi gawo la bwalo lanu loyankhulana tsiku ndi tsiku kapena ali ndi chikhalidwe chomwecho ndi inu. Mnansi wanu ndi Katy Perry akhoza kukhala ndi thumba lofanana, koma mwinamwake mumasirira woyamba, osati wachiwiri.
- Zomwe zimayambitsa mkati. Anthu omwe ali ndi makhalidwe ena ali ndi nsanje kuposa ena: odzikonda, opanda pake ndi olakalaka kwambiri. Kawirikawiri, izi sizosadabwitsa: Ife tikudziwa kale kuti magwero a kaduka ndi kufanana, kutanthauza kuti yemwe amadera nkhaŵa kwambiri za kupambana kwake ndi enawo adzakhala ndi nsanje kwambiri.
Kotero izo sizikuyenda bwino
Poyesa kuchotsa zochitika zawo, anthu achisoni amagwiritsa ntchito (nthawi zina ngakhale osadziŵa) njira zina zomwe zimabweretsa zotsatira zina, koma musakhale ndi kaduka. Iwo amatha ngakhale kuvulaza ena mwachindunji: kuchotsa choipa, munthu wachisanje "akutsikira" icho pa ena. Chikoka chawo si chophweka "kugwira" mu khalidwe lawo. Kodi njira izi ndi ziti?
- Kulekana kwenikweni chifukwa cha kaduka. "Sindikuchitira kaduka dontho," mumadziuza nokha (ndi mnzanu), kachisanu ndi chimodzi, kuyang'ana pazithunzi za phwando limene simunayitanidwe. Mnzanuyo, ndithudi, "sachita nsanje". Musanyengedwe.
- Kuchepetsa kufunika kwa chinthu choduka. Iyi ndi njira yofala kwambiri. Tiyeni tikumbukire woyandikana nawo okhala ndi thumba latsopano. Mukuyang'ana pafupi naye, mumadziuza nokha kuti chitsanzocho sichingapambane, khungu limakhala ndi zofooka (ndipo izi zimakhala ndi ndalama zotere!), Ndipo ndithudi ... zikhoza kukhala zabodza. Zowona zabodza.
- Chiwawa ndi chilakolako chochititsa manyazi chinthucho. Ndikuganiza momveka bwino chomwe chiri kumbuyo kwake, Mwachitsanzo, ngati simungaleke kukambirana pa ndime 2 ndikuonjezerani kuti zinthu zoterezi zimagulidwa ndi opusa okha. Kapena atsikana omwe sali odziwa mafashoni, chifukwa anali opanda fashoni nyengo yatha. Ndipo panjira, ndi ndalama zotani zomwe anagula?
Ndipo osati konse mokhumudwitsa ...
Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti kaduka kwanu ndi wina kapena chinthu chochuluka kapena cholimba kwambiri, ndi nthawi yomenyana nayo. Mwina sizingatheke mosavuta ndipo nthawi yomweyo: khalidweli silingasinthe usiku wonse. Komabe, ndibwino kuyesa. Kotero, mungatani kuti muchotse kaduka kapena kuwonetsa zovutazi? Kaŵirikaŵiri amasirira chifukwa chofanizira. Choncho, pochita nsanje pang'ono, muyenera kuyerekezera pang'ono. Kuti muthe kuchotsa vutoli, muyenera, poyamba, kumvetsetsa zomwe mumasowa. Izi ndizokhala ndi zolinga zanu. Ndikofunika kuti aliyense wa iwo "adziphatikize" ndondomeko kuti akwaniritse ndi zotsatira zake zoyambirira. Mukamayenda m'njira yanu, simusamala za wina aliyense. Zindikirani zomwe mukuchitira nsanje si ntchito yosavuta. Mwachitsanzo, mukufuna kulemera, ndipo zithunzi zazithunzi zochepa zimapangitsa nsanje mwa inu - palibe malo ambiri akuda. Koma ... ndi chifukwa chake ndendende mu chiwerengerocho? Mwinamwake simukuchitira nsanje pazokha, koma moona mtima zomwe amapereka kwa mwiniwake? Kapena kupambana kwake kwa amuna kapena akazi? Kapena mpumulo umene angatenge zovala zake? Kapena? .. Ngati mutha kumvetsa chifukwa choyambirira cha kaduka, ndiye mutha kuganiza kuti simungathe kumverera. Mwinamwake, funso ili liwoneka lodabwitsa, komabe: ndi chiyani chomwe chiri chofunikira kwa inu - kuchitira kaduka? Psycheka yathu imayikidwa bwino komanso momveka bwino, ndipo njira zonse zomwe zili mmenemo zili ndi chifukwa chake. Chizoloŵezi cha kaduka chimakhala champhamvu kwambiri. Ndipotu, munthu wansanje amakhala ndi moyo wa wina. Nchiyani chomwe chimayambitsa zosowa izi? Mwina, kuopa zofuna zanu ndi kusadziŵa zosowa. Dziyang'anirani nokha, zomwe zimabweretsa chisangalalo kwa inu nokha - mosasamala kanthu kuti zikutsutsana bwanji ndi miyezo yolandiridwa.
Nsanje kwabwinoko
Ngakhale kaduka sichiyamba kugonjetsa malingaliro anu onse ndi malingaliro anu, ndi gawo lofunikira la psyche yanu. Nsanje, ndithudi, imatipangitsa ife kulingalira ndi kupanga zosankha zomwe sizikanachitika popanda izo. Nthawi zina ntchitoyi imakhala yokhazikika chifukwa cha nsanje yoyera pamutu wakuti "winayo ali wabwino - ndine wokondwa - ngakhale iwenso ndikufuna." Zochitika zoipa ("zina ndi zabwino - sindine wokondwa - ndiyenera kukhala bwino!") Amatha kutisokoneza kwambiri. Zonsezi amatchedwa ntchito yogwira mtima - ndipo, ndithudi, kukhudzika kwa kaduka kumatha kulimbikitsa kwambiri, kwambiri. Chabwino, potsiriza, kaduka ndi kofunikira ... chifukwa munthu ali ndi chofunikira chokhalira ndi nsanje.