Momwe ubale wanu ndi iwo udzakhalira makamaka zimadalira ngati mutha kukhala mwamtendere ndi apongozi anu. Koma bwanji? Pambuyo pake, iye anaika mphamvu zochuluka kuti akule, kubweretsa, kuvala mapazi a mwamuna wako, ndi mwana wake wamwamuna. Iye ndi mayi. Chikondi cha mayi chimakhala chopanda pake. Nthawi zina kuchokera kwa atsikana mungamve kuti apongozi anu sanakhazikitse maubwenzi, kuti apongozi anu asokoneze, ndikuyesera kuyika maganizo anu ndi malamulo anu. Inde, apongozi awo ndi osiyana: oleza mtima ndi osaphunzira, anzeru ndi opusa, opepuka ndi osasamala, obwereranso ndi amamalonda amakono. Koma, mosasamala za izi, onse amafunikira kuzindikira ndi kuyanjidwa, chidwi ndi chisangalalo. Za momwe mungakhalire mwamtendere ndi apongozi anu, ndipo lero tidzakamba.
Choyamba, tiyeni tiwone mtundu womwe apongozi anu ali nawo.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amasiyanitsa mitundu 7 ya apongozi awo.
- Mkazi wa munthu. Ichi ndi mtundu wa apongozi ake omwe akhala m'banja logwirizana, komwe mwamuna amagawana gawo la mavuto a banja, amathandizira mu chirichonse, ndipo amamutsata iye, monga "kumbuyo kwa khoma lamwala." Ndi zophweka kukhala mwamtendere ndi apongozi awo. Lamulo lalikulu siliyenera kukana thandizo limene makolo a bambo ake amapereka, komanso kuti asapitirire mavuto onsewa. Kupatsa mwayi kwa makolo a mwamuna wake osati kungoona kuti ndiwe wofunikira m'moyo wanu, komanso mwayi wodzitamandira ndi zomwe apambana ndi mwana wamwamuna ndi mpongozi wake - ichi ndi chinsinsi cha momwe amakhalira mwamtendere ndi apongozi awo m'mabanja oterowo.
- Mphunzitsi wa nyenyezi, wamkulu. Amayi apongozi awo, omwe mwamuna wawo - anawopa. Iye ndiye mutu wa banja, mphamvu yake yaikulu yoyendetsa galimoto, iye "ali ndi nyumba" pa iye. Kukhala ndi apongozi ake mnyumba imodzi kumakhala koopsa kuti banja likhale lamphamvu. Azimayi, ana, nthawi zambiri "ana aamayi", koma amawadzudzula - akusowa ndi amayi awo apongozi awo.
- Pa nthawi yomweyi komanso apongozi awo. Mlamu wake, amenenso ndi apongozi ake nthawi imodzi, adzakumverani chisoni ndikukondani, chifukwa amaona mavuto a mwana wake wamkazi ndi banja lake. Munthu uyu ndi wosakhwima ndipo amatha kunyengerera. Iye sangasokoneze zochitika za m'banja lanu. Ali ndi mgwirizano wazimayi kuposa chibadwa cha amayi. Pulumutsani dziko ndi apongozi anu athandize ubwenzi ndi apongozi ake (mlongo wa mwamuna wake), pazifukwa izi mgwirizano umatsimikiziridwa.
- Mayi wosakwatira. Mwana wamwamuna ndilo tanthauzo la moyo wake, amubweretsa yekha. Anali mayi ndi bambo. Amayi apongoziwa ali ndi nsanje kwambiri, zomwe zimawonekera pamakangano nthawi zonse ndi kukangana ndi apongozi awo. Kuti mukhale mwamtendere ndi apongozi anu, muyenera kulekerera ndi kuwaletsa. Funsani iye pa nthawi yochepa, funsani maganizo ake. Mulimonsemo musamatsutse mwamuna wanu ndipo musamutsutsane ndi apongozi ake - mumasokoneza mdaniyo.
- Wopweteka. Nthawi zonse amasamalira aliyense. Ngakhale mwanayo ali kale zaka khumi, amamuganizira, ngati mwana wosalingalira. Amavutika ndi mavuto a moyo. Koma palibe, m'maganizo mwake, amatha kupirira nawo, kotero muyenera kukokera zonse. Chisoni, kulekerera, kusamala ndizofunika kuti mukhale ndi mtendere ndi apongozi anu.
- Wosokoneza. Ngati apongozi ake a mchipatala, omwe amachititsa zinthu zonse kulamuliridwa m'banja, amazizira komanso amatsutsa, amakhala osamala ndipo samalola munthu kuti ayende yekha, mwatuluka mwaufulu. Khalani kutali ndi apongozi awo apatali kwambiri, izi zokha zidzakuthandizani kuti musayambe kupita ku warpath, ngakhale kuti sizowona kuti apongozi anu enieni sangayambe kuchita zinthu zonyansa.
- Mkazi wamalonda. Ndiwe mwayi, mosakayikira! Ntchito ndi tanthauzo la moyo wake, iye sali pabanja. Sadzaona fumbi pamasalefu ndi furiji yopanda kanthu. Iye ali pamwamba pa zovuta zoterozo. Ali ndi mavuto okwanira. Koma ngati mumagwiranso ntchito kumalo omwewo, idyll ndi otetezedwa. Udzakhala wonyada ndi apongozi ako, monga mpongozi wako!
Malangizo ena omwe amafala
Muyenera kumvetsa kuti mulimonsemo, ziribe kanthu zomwe apongozi anu akukhala, si mdani wanu. Pambuyo pake, munayamba kukondana ndi mwana wake - chuma chake, chipatso cha moyo wake, munthu wamtengo wapatali kwambiri. Kondwerani kwambiri ndi amene amapereka chuma chamtengo wapatali kwambiri kwa inu. Munavomereza mnzako monga momwe alili, ndi ubwino ndi zovuta zonse. Tengani moyo wanu ndi amene mumamukonda pang'ono, kudzichepetsera ku zofooka zake. Kumvetsa chinthu chimodzi - si mdani wanu.
Nthawi zina mumatha kumva za kusafuna kwa ana aakazi aang'ono kuti awatchule apongozi awo. Mwachabe, chifukwa timatsatira cholinga chimodzi, kukhala mwamtendere ndi apongozi athu. Choyamba, ndi msonkho kwa miyambo, ndipo kachiwiri, ngati mkazi amva mawu amatsenga, nthawi yomweyo amadzutsa malingaliro a amayi ake chifukwa cha aliyense amene adanena, chilakolako choteteza ndi kuteteza. Musadziteteze nokha zachinsinsi ichi chagolide ku mtima wake! "Ng'ombe yomvera ya abambo awiri imamwa," - kotero zikuwonetsa nzeru za anthu. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, usaiwale kuti posachedwapa udzakhala apongozi ako. Ndipo kukhala apongozi awo sizowonjezereka kusiyana ndi kukhala mpongozi wanu. Kuwononga maubwenzi ndi osavuta, koma kupulumutsa, kukwaniritsa malo, kukhazikitsa kukhudzana - ntchito zambiri. Ngati mwasankha kukhala bwenzi la amai ake, yesetsani kuchita pang'ono pa izi.
- Yesetsani kupeza chinenero chofanana ndi iye, nenani zambiri.
- Musanyoze ndikudandaula za mwamuna wanu, musamubweretse pamaso pa makolo ake.
- Musamayerekezere apongozi anu ndi amayi anu, sangakhale ofanana, iwo ndi anthu osiyana.
- Perekani mphatso za apongozi anu ndikudziwa momwe mungavomere mphatso za kuyamikira kuchokera kwa iye.
- Mverani malangizo a apongozi anu, musamaope kufunsa, funsani kuphunzitsa - izo zidzakhala zosangalatsa kwa iye.
- Khalani mosiyana, koma musamachepetse mwamuna ndi ana anu pokambirana ndi apongozi anu.
- Gawani zofuna zake, muwonetsere chidwi ndi ulemu.
Kuti musadabwe: "Kodi mungakhale bwanji mwamtendere ndi apongozi anu?" - khalani ololera ndi anzeru, kumbukirani kuti nthawi zina ndi bwino kutenga nthawi kuti mutsimikizire mlandu wanu. Pambuyo pa zonse, choonadi chiri ndi mbali ziwiri.