Nchiyani chimachitika ngati mwamuna atambasula dzanja lake pa mkazi, ndipo makamaka chifukwa chake? Choyamba, muyenera kusiyanitsa kamphindi kakang'ono kuti mumuthandize mkaziyo kuti asatengeke. Choncho, musachoke kwa munthu yemwe akungoyesayesa kuti asiye kumudziwa, ndipo musayesere kumutsutsa, ndikuyang'ana pagalasi pagalasi pansi pa maso.
Azimayi amamenyedwa ndi anthu ofooka komanso osapota omwe, motero, amadzidalira okha. Kawirikawiri, munthu woteroyo sadzamenyana ndi mnyamata wina. Amazindikira kuti sangathe kuima pamaso pa woimira mwamuna kapena mkazi wake. Koma, mkazi wotero amamenyedwa ndi mkazi wokondwera, ndipo, panthawi imodzimodziyo, amanena kuti ndi amene ali ndi mlandu.
Ndi zifukwa ziti zomwe anyamatawa ali nazo? Yoyamba ndi, nsanje, nsanje. Amuna oterewa ali ndi nsanje kwa aliyense ndi chirichonse. Nthawi zonse amafufuza foni ya mtsikana wawo, kuwerenga mauthenga onse, kulamulira ndi kutsutsa zochimwa zonse. Ngati mtsikanayo angoyang'ana kamnyamata wina, yemwe anali asanamuwonepo moyo wake, chifukwa munthuyu ali kale mwayi wapadera wochitira nsanje. Akhoza kumuimba mlandu chifukwa choti ali wokondedwa wake komanso kuyang'ana kwake kunali mtundu wachinsinsi komanso mawu achinsinsi. Ndipo, zitatha izi, zimakhala zikuwombedwa. Mwamunayo adzalongosola chochita chake mwa kulanga wokondedwa wake chifukwa cha zolakwa zake.
Ndipotu, zochitika zoterezi zimasonyeza kuti mnyamatayu ali ndi vuto linalake komanso amakhala ndi chizoloŵezi chosautsa. Ndipotu, zimawoneka kuti iwo amakonda kwenikweni. Mwina ichi ndi chikondi, koma chachilendo komanso chopotozedwa. Amuna awa amamuwona msungwanayo sali woyanjana naye, ndi katundu wake, omwe ayenera kukwaniritsa malamulo onse ndikuyamba kuitana. Msungwana sangathe kukhala ndi abwenzi, ndipo makamaka, abwenzi. Amuna awa amamuchitira nsanje onse mzere ndipo paliponse akuwona chiwembu. Kaŵirikaŵiri, amakakamiza kukwaniritsa kuti mkaziyo, pamapeto pake, alibe mabwenzi. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, khalidweli ndilo chifukwa chakuti ngati mtsikanayo sakhala ndi munthu aliyense. Izi zimakhala zofooka kwambiri ndipo sungapemphe chitetezo.
Mwa njira, ndiyenera kuzindikira kuti khalidweli silinayambe ndi chiyambi cha maubwenzi. Chaka choyamba ndi theka, mnyamatayo amachita bwino kwambiri. Aliyense amadabwa ndi momwe amamukondera komanso amamukonda. Amuna amenewa amatchula katatu patsiku, amawasamalira, amafunsa chilichonse. Inde, akaziwa amakonda izi molakwika. Koma, potsirizira pake, mafunso onse ndi chisamaliro zimasandulika kukhala paranoia wamba. Mwamunayo amagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri kwa mtsikanayo ndipo amamuyika ngati chinthu chake. Izi zimabweretsa kuwona kuti amachititsa zonse kukhala ake ndipo nthawi zonse amakhala pafupi. Mwa njira, pafupifupi anyamata onse m'derali akusintha atsikana awo nthawi zonse. Amafotokoza khalidwe lawo m'njira zosiyanasiyana kapena samalongosola konse, koma samavomereza kuti ali ndi mlandu. Chifukwa chake, ngati mutakumana ndi mnyamata wotere, nthawi yomweyo atangokweza dzanja lake kwa inu, nthawi yomweyo mumusiye. Mwina zidzakuwonekerani kuti adzasintha kapena simungathe kukhala ndi moyo popanda iye, khulupirirani ine, patapita nthawi, mudzalota ndikusiya inu, ndipo izi zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri. Mulimonsemo, kupatukana ndi mnyamata wotere kumapweteka kwambiri komanso kumatalika. Kawirikawiri, amayamba kutsatira msungwanayo, kupempha kuti abwerere, mwinamwake amayamba kufuula ndi misonzi. Izi zimakhudza amai ambiri - ndipo amabwerera, akulakwitsa kwakukulu. Mwamunayo amadziwa kuti sangamusiye ndikudzilola yekha kuchita chilichonse chimene akufuna. Choncho, muyenera kuchita chirichonse kuti musamusiye kuti akupezereni mphamvu. Ngati mwamunayo amakugwirani kamodzi, ndibwino kuganizira mozama za kusiyana. Kokha, yesani mkhalidwewu moyenera. Kawirikawiri, koma nthawi zina mtsikana angathe kumubweretsa mwamuna pa rabies. Chifukwa cha dziko lino ndi osakhulupirika nthawi zonse popanda chifukwa, chiwonongeko, kunyalanyaza maganizo ake. Pankhaniyi, mwamunayo, ndithudi, sizolondola, chifukwa munthu sangathe kumenyana ndi wina yemwe ali wofooka, komabe, mwanjira ina akhoza kulungamitsidwa. Koma ngati, mukudziwa bwino kuti palibe cholakwa, ndipo munthu wakugunda kwambiri, ndiye kuthawa kwa iye, chifukwa posakhalitsa ubalewu udzasandulika kumenyedwa nthawi zonse, maulendo kuchokera ku masitepe ndikuyesera kujambula amatsenga ndi maulendo afupipafupi.
Ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi uyenera kukhala wofanana ndi demokarase. Ngati mnyamata atambasula dzanja lake, amasonyeza kuti ali ndi mphamvu ndipo akufuna kukhala ndi mphamvu pa mtsikanayo. Ndipo kodi sakanakuuza chiyani, sindikanatha kutsogolera (ngakhale atapatsa maluwa ndi mphatso zodula), kugonana koteroko kumakhala moyo mu khola la golidi, ndiyeno, mwabwino, ndi golidi. Choipa kwambiri, ubale wotere umakhaladi ndende yomwe sitingathe kuthawa.
Ngati mwamuna atambasula dzanja lake pa mkazi, ndiye kuti ubalewo unabwera kumapeto. Musasowe kudziletsa nokha kuti mukhale ndi iwo omwe akukupwetekani. Nsembe mu nkhani iyi sizitsogolera pa zabwino zilizonse. Inu mumakhaladi wozunzidwa omwe sangathe kudziwona nokha. Nchifukwa chiyani mutembenuza moyo wanu kukhala wokhoza kuthamanga kwa nyama yothamangitsidwa? Mnyamata wamba samatha kufika pamtima ndipo amayesa kuchotsa mkwiyo wake ndikudzipempha yekha mothandizidwa ndi mtsikana yemwe ali wofooka kuposa iyeyo. Choncho, ngati muli mumkhalidwe pamene mnyamata amakulepheretsani ndi kukakamiza, funsani thandizo kwa anthu oyandikana nawo ndipo yesetsani kuchita chirichonse kuti munthu wotereyo akhalebe m'mbuyo mwanu ndipo musayambirenso moyo wanu.