Yesetsani kuyesa kotero: lembani mu ndime imodzi mawu omwe amasonyeza maganizo abwino (chimwemwe, kumwetulira, thanzi ...), ndi zina - zoipa (chisoni, mkwiyo, mkwiyo, kudziimba mlandu). Ndipo tsopano yang'anani momwe gawo lachiwiri lidzakhalira lalikulu. Mwinamwake - kawiri kapena katatu. Asayansi atulukira kuti 80 peresenti ya zomwe munthu akuganiza kuti ndizolakwika. Tsiku lililonse ambiri a ife timapukuta pamutu wa maganizo olakwika oposa 45,000. Pankhaniyi, nthawi zambiri sitidziwa kuti timaganiza za zoipa. Maganizo awa anangokhala okha.
Kupulumuka nkhawa?
Nthawi zamapanga, munthu amayenera kumvetsera zochitika zoipa kuposa zabwino. Anapulumutsidwa okha omwe adalimbikitsidwanso, omwe adanyengerera njovu kumalo. Anthu omwe anali omasuka komanso osasamala za moyo analibe nthawi yokhala ndi ana - chifukwa anali kudyedwa ndi nyama. Kotero ife tonse tiri mbadwa za anthu oopsa kwambiri.
Lerolino palibe akambuku a saber-toothed ndipo mapiri athu saopsezedwa ndi kuphulika kwa mapiri. Koma tikupitirizabe kuganizira kwambiri zolakwika kuposa zabwino. Tangoganizani: munabwera kudzagwira ntchito yatsopano. Ambiri mwa anzanu akuyamikirani. Ndipo mmodzi yekha woipa ananena chinachake monga: "Kodi mulibe tipchik?" Kodi mungaganize bwanji za ndemanga zabwino zambiri kapena za chinthu chimodzi choipa? Mwinamwake, oipa adzawononga mizimu yonse. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amatcha "zosasangalatsa" izi: zinthu zonse zoipa zimamatira, ndipo zabwino zimachokapo.
Zomwe zimachitika tsiku ndi tsiku zimapangitsa munthu kukhala ndi mahomoni "kumenyana kapena kuthaŵa." Koma mosiyana ndi kholo lathu lokalamba, sitingakwanitse kulimbana kapena kuthawa. Chotsatira chake, mankhwala opanikizika amaphatikizidwa m'thupi, kuchititsa kutopa ndi matenda.
Wodala kukhala kapena kubadwa?
Akatswiri a zamaganizo a ku America anachita phunziro lochititsa chidwi: adaphunzira za anthu omwe adapeza ndalama zambiri mu lottery. Inde, pachiyambi chisangalalo cha anthu osowa mwayi chinali chosatheka. Koma patatha chaka chimodzi iwo sanamve bwino kuposa kupambana. Ndizodabwitsa, koma chinthu chomwecho chinachitika kwa anthu omwe anali olumala. Pafupifupi chaka chimodzi pambuyo pake, ambiri mwa iwo adasinthidwa ndi matenda awo ndipo sanamvere bwino maganizo kuposa kale matendawa. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, aliyense wa ife ali ndi msinkhu winawake wachimwemwe, zochitika zilizonse zomwe zimachitika m'moyo wathu. Asayansi akulimbana ndi vutoli apeza kuti 50 peresenti ya kuthekera kwathu kumverera chimwemwe kumadalira chikhalidwe. 10% ndi chifukwa cha zochitika (msinkhu wa ubwino, moyo waumwini, kudzizindikira). Ndipo otsala 40% akudalira malingaliro athu a tsiku ndi tsiku, malingaliro ndi zochita. Izi zikutanthauza kuti aliyense wa ife akhoza kukhala wokondwa kawiri, posintha njira yoganiza. Ndipo sitepe yoyamba yopita ku izi ndikuchotsa maganizo oipa.
Chizolowezi chodandaula za moyo
Asayansi apeza kuti munthu wamba amadandaula mpaka 70 pa tsiku! Sitikusangalala ndi ntchito, nyengo, ana ndi makolo, boma ndi dziko limene tikukhalamo. Ndipo nthawi zonse amafunafuna wina kuti afotokoze maganizo awo okhumudwitsa. Zonsezi zimayendetsa dongosolo la manjenje ndipo sizimatsogolera kulikonse. Ngati mphamvu izi ndi zolinga zamtendere! Ayi, ndithudi, mungathe kugawana ndi munthu wina zakukhosi kwanu - ngakhale zoipa - ndipo potero mumachepetsa nkhawa. Koma inu mumavomereza, nthawi zambiri, mukamayankhula ndi kumalankhula nthawi zonse za momwe mudakhumudwitsidwa, momwe zinthu zilili zoyipa pozungulira, mumangodzikweza nokha. Ndipo vutoli limakula kufika poyerekezera ndi tsoka ladziko. Chotsatira chake, simukumva kuti mukuvutika maganizo, koma mumakopanso zochitika zatsopano. Kodi mukudandaula za kusowa kwa ndalama, kusungulumwa, kuukira kwa abwana? Izi ndi zomwe zidzawonjezeke m'moyo wanu. Komabe, chizoloŵezi chilichonse cholimba chingasinthidwe masiku 21.
Kodi mungatani kuti muthane ndi mavuto ?
- Nthawi iliyonse yomwe mumadzimva nokha mukulira kwa wina mu chovalacho, putsani 1 ruble mu bokosi la ndalama. Ndalamazo zasonkhanitsidwa masiku 21, perekani zopereka.
- Njirayi idatchulidwa ndi m'busa wa ku America Will Bowen. Anapatsa aliyense wa mpingo wake nsapato zofiirira ndipo adafunsa nthawi iliyonse, ngati akukhumba, akudandaula za moyo kuti awutenge ndikuwuyika. Choncho, munthu amatha kuona momwe akudandaulira nthawi zambiri, ndikuletsa maganizo ake.
- Ganizirani kuthetsa vutoli. Ganizilani: ndizingati pa mfundo khumi zomwe simukukondwera nazo? Kodi ndi zizindikiro zotani zomwe zikusintha? Fotokozani njira zochepetsetsa zomwe mungatenge kuti musinthe. Ndipo yambani kuchita.
Mtendere ukhale nanu
Gulu lachiwiri la malingaliro, lomwe limangopangitsa kuti tisakhale wosangalala, ndiko kufunafuna wolakwa. Mu 1999, ofufuza ochokera ku mayunivesite awiri a ku America adapeza kuti anthu omwe adawombera ena chifukwa cha ngozi zomwe zachitika kwa iwo miyezi 8-10 yapitayo, anapeza pang'onopang'ono kusiyana ndi omwe adayambitsa mphamvu zonse. Mwamwayi, kwambiri m'moyo wathu amatikakamiza kuti tiyang'anire olakwa. Ngakhale akatswiri a zamaganizo omwe amanena za zolakwitsa za makolo athu, aphunzitsi, okwatirana, omwe athandizira kwambiri tsogolo lathu. Komabe, izi sizikupangitsa moyo wathu kukhala wabwino. Pokhapokha ngati munthu atenga udindo wake kuti athetse mavuto ake, zaka zake zabwino zimabwera.
Kodi mungatani kuti moyo wanu ukhale wabwino?
- Chilichonse chomwe chachitika m'moyo, taganizirani ngati kusintha kwabwinoko. Kumbukirani miyambi: "Zimene Mulungu amachita ndi zabwino", "Padzakhala palibe chimwemwe, koma tsoka linathandiza." Kaya muli pamalo ati, dzifunseni nokha: "Mwinamwake tsopano sindikuwona kuphatikiza. Koma iwo ali ndithudi. Ndipo posachedwapa ine ndipeza za izo. "
- Ngati wina wakukhumudwitsani, khalani pamalo opanda phokoso, mutseke maso anu, ganizirani zonse zomwe zachitika, monga pawunivesi. Ganizilani za mtundu wanji wa zochitika zimene mungakhale nazo. Mwinamwake inu nokha mwakhumudwitsa mkhalidwe uno? Kapena intuition inakuuzani kuti musamachite izi, koma simunamvetsere? Kapena mwinamwake awa ndi mawu anu ndi zochita zanu zinawonjezera kukangana? Ganizirani za zomwe mungaphunzire kuchokera ku zomwe zinachitika kuti muthane ndi mavuto ndikukhala bata. Dzifunseni nokha: ngati ndi mphatso ya chiwonongeko, ndiye chiyani?
Pangani mtendere ndi inu nokha
Kumbukirani nthawi zingapo zomwe munadzidzudzula ndi mawu otsiriza. Kodi ndi zifukwa zotani zimene sananene? Koma nthawi zonse kukhala ndi malingaliro a kulakwa ndi zoipa ngati kufunafuna olakwa. Kawirikawiri kubwereranso ku zochitika zomwe zimakuchititsani kumva kuti ndinu wolakwa kapena wamanyazi, mumagwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zambiri pachabe.
Pali njira zambiri zoyanjanirana ndi inu nokha. Izi ndizomwe zingakhale zothandiza kuuza munthu amene amakuchitirani bwino, zazomwe zikukuzunzani. Izi ndizo maziko a kuvomereza - nkhani imathandiza kumasula ululu. Koma sikuli koyenera kubwereza nkhani yanu katatu, mwinamwake kudziimba mlandu kudzakhala chisoni. Kuvomereza nokha ndiko kuchiza ndi kukhala moyo.
Kodi mungapange bwanji zolakwitsa?
Pomwe mukudzizunza nokha, kusinkhasinkha kwa chikhululukiro, choperekedwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Alexander Sviyash, kumathandiza kwambiri: "Ndimadzikhululukira ndikumverera mwachikondi ndikuthokoza ndikuvomereza kuti Mulungu wandilenga. Ndikufuna kupempha chikhululuko chifukwa cha malingaliro ndi zolakwika zambiri pokhudzana ndi ine komanso moyo wanga. " Mawu awa ayenera kubwerezedwa mpaka kumverera kwachikondi ndi mtendere zikuwonekera mu solo. Mwa njira iyi mungathe kuthana ndi mavuto - kukhala bata ndi kukonda zonse zomwe mukuzungulira.