Kusungulumwa kumalemera ndipo kumabweretsa maganizo ovutika maganizo. Kodi mumakonda kulankhula ndi munthu kangati, kukambirana bizinesi yanu, mavuto, kapena kugawana chimwemwe chanu. Zonsezi, pa nthawi ino palibe wina amene angamvetsere. Ndiye kusungulumwa kumagogoda mu kachasu ndi funso losautsa: "Chifukwa chiyani ndilibe anzanga?". Tiyeni tiyese kupeza zomwe abwenzi ali, ndi momwe angawonekere.
Kawirikawiri munthu amaganiza kuti sakusowa aliyense. Pali choonadi chokwanira ichi. Ndipotu, aliyense wa ife amafunikira yekha, sizingatheke kuti wina adzatisamalira monga choncho. Si makolo kapena achibale, ngakhalenso osati nthawi zonse. Ndipo zomwe zikanati zidzatengedwa kuti ndizomwe zikutchulidwa ndi mawu a banal, koma makamaka moyo wathu ulidi mmanja mwathu. Ambiri akufunsira malangizo kwa akatswiri a maganizo, "ndilibenso abwenzi" - mawu omwe nthawi zambiri amamveka pakati pathu. Kodi anzanu ndi ati? Kuti asakhale wosungulumwa, kuti apatse wina chikondi chawo, kuti athe kukondwera ndi kupambana kwawo ndikulira ngati akugonjetsedwa. Kodi izi sizikutsimikizira khalidwe lathu lodzikonda? Kufunika kwaubwenzi ndi mbali ya kudera nkhawa kwathu tokha. Koma kuti mukhale ndi bwenzi, muyenera kukhala okonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi.
Mzanga ndi ndani?
Iye ndi munthu wamtima wapamtima amene mumamukonda naye, mumamukonda, muli ndi zofuna zambiri. Yesani kuyang'ana pozungulira nokha, kuti muyang'ane anthu omwe akuzungulirani, kumbali inayo. Kodi palibenso munthu wina amene alibe zofanana ndi inu? Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti kulakwitsa kwakukulu kwa anthu osakwatiwa ndikuti sazindikira anthu omwe akukhala nawo. Ena samakonda mawonekedwe akunja, ena amawoneka ngati opanda pake, ndipo enawo sali okwanira pa udindo wa "bwenzi langa." Ndipo munthu wosungulumwa akukhala, kuyembekezera chodabwitsa cha mzanga wabwino kwambiri kuchokera kwinakwake, kwenikweni akukondweretsa mu dziko lake ndi kudzimvera chisoni yekha. Choncho n'zosatheka kupeza anzanu.
Chithunzi cha dziko.
Kuti alandire kutentha, ayenera kuphunzira kupereka. Mukufuna ubwenzi, kutanthauza kuti muyenera kuyamba kukomana ndi anzanu apamtima. Kuti izi zichitike, muyenera kusintha maganizo anu a dziko lapansi. Sizowoneka zovuta monga momwe zingakhalire poyamba. Tiyeni tiyerekeze kuti dziko lapansi ndi chithunzi chachikulu chomwe sichitheka kuti chigwirizane ndi kamodzi kamodzi. Ndipo iwe umasuntha maso ako kuchokera ku chinthu chimodzi kapena chimzake kupita ku chimzake. Mvula imakhala yonyowa, yozizira komanso yowawa. Koma kumbali ina ya mvula - utawaleza. Pafupi ndi ana ake kuseka ndi kusewera, kumenyedwa opanda nsapato pa mvula yamvula. Pang'ono pang'ono - dzuwa lotentha, nyanja ndi gombe, zomwe zimakhala zosangalatsa kuti muzitha kupuma, zimawala. Kodi mwapeza mutuwo? Maganizo athu ndi maonekedwe athu amasintha malinga ndi gawo lomwe la chithunzithunzi cha dziko lomwe tikuyang'ana. Komabe, chithunzichi chonse sichimasintha. Timangoganizira kwambiri nkhani zomwe zimakhala zosangalatsa kwa ife, pamene tikusintha maganizo athu pa zabwino. Njira yophwekayi, yochokera kukhoza kuyang'ana zochitika kuchokera pa malo osiyana, ili ndi dzina lovuta lopiritsa. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi - ndipo mudzawona momwe maganizo anu a dziko loyandikana nawo akusinthira mosavuta. Ndipo mosavuta mungapeze mwa anthu oyandikana nawo nthawi zabwino zomwe zingabweretse mabwenzi atsopano.
Mphamvu ndi luso lomvetsera.
Chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kuphunzira momwe mungakhalire bwenzi labwino nokha. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti pankhaniyi - luso ndi luso lomvetsera. Inde, tikufuna kufotokoza zonse zomwe timasamala nazo, kugawaniza zowawa zathu. Mabwenzi athu amafunanso izi. Mukaponyera mavuto anu onse pa bwenzi lanu latsopano, tetezani moyo wanu ndikupita kwanu, ndiye munthu uyu sangafune kukumana nanu kachiwiri. Ndipotu, ndithudi amayembekezera kuchokera kwa inu chikhumbo chofuna kumvetsera yekha. Samalani momwe mumachitira mukamvetsera interlocutor. Mumatopa ndikulumphira, kuyang'ana kumbali, kusokoneza, kusonyeza kuti ndi wolakwika, kupepesa ndi kusiya, ponena za bizinesi? Kotero inu simungakhoze kusunga bwenzi. Ubwenzi umatanthauzanso kugwirizanitsa nkhani ndi mavuto. Muyenera kumvetsera munthuyo mpaka kumapeto, kumupatsa mwayi wofotokozera, ndipo ambiri amayesetsa kumvetsa ndi kuthandizira. Kotero inu mukuyenerera kudalira, inu mudzayamikiridwa ndipo ndithudi mudzaphatikizidwa mu mndandanda wa abwenzi abwino. Yambani mwa kuyang'ana khalidwe lanu pa nkhani ya munthu wina. Kodi mukukhumudwa, mukuyesera kuti mutenge mkangano mwamsanga ndikumukweza maganizo anu? Yesetsani kukhala wodekha, wokoma mtima komanso woganizira mozama.
Kudzichepetsa.
Mwinamwake kuyambika kwa ubale kumachepetsedwa ndi kudzichepetsa kwambiri. Chabwino, kubwezeretsa kudzakuthandizani pa izi. Munthu aliyense ndi wokongola? Aliyense angathe kupeza makhalidwe oipa komanso abwino. Tiyenera kuvomereza anthu komanso ife eni. Pitirizani kufunafuna ubwino, iwo alipo kulikonse. Musabise. Mwinamwake, ndi ulemu wanu ndi zofuna zanu zomwe zidzakhala malo omwe adzakopeka ndi anzanu.
Musatseke!
Musatseke kunja kwa chidwi. Musanalembetse munthu wina mndandanda wa abwenzi anu, mwinamwake mukufuna kumudziwa bwino, kuti mudziwe bwino maganizo ake. Izi zikuyembekezeka kwa inu. Musati mubisale mu chipolopolo chanu, asiyeni abwenzi amtsogolo akuyamikeni inu, mbali zanu zoipa ndi zabwino, onani nkhope yanu yeniyeni. Ubwenzi umatanthauza kukhala ndi chikhulupiliro, ngati simunakonzekere, yambiranani khalidwe lanu.
Kodi ndikuti mungapeze bwanji anzanu?
Ndipo vuto lomalizira ndilokuti ndi liti. Mukakhala pogona pabedi, simungathe kukomana ndi munthu aliyense. Choncho, yesetsani kuyendera mobwerezabwereza m'malo osiyanasiyana, pa maphwando madzulo, mawonetsero, zochitika zogwirira ntchito, paliponse pamene mungakumane ndi anthu amalingaliro. Kukhala ndi mtima wabwino kwa anthu omwe alipo, kutenga nawo mbali pa zokambiranazo kudzakopa kwa inu anthu ochepa omwe, m'tsogolomu, adzakhala mabwenzi anu. Ndipo m'tsogolomu mukhoza kupempha malangizo kwa abwenzi, chifukwa simudzakhala munthu wosungulumwa! Lolani kulephera sikukuvutitsani inu, chifukwa ndi kulankhulana koteroko mumapezekanso zochitika zanu, phunzirani. Fufuzani zolakwa zanu, yang'anani dziko kuchokera kumbali yina ndikupita molimba mtima ku cholinga chanu.
Ngati malangizo awa a psychologist sanakuthandizeni, mwinamwake ndinu amene muli vuto lalikulu la maganizo. Zikatero, musazengereze kukaonana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo. Anthu ambiri adapeza mtendere ndikuchotsa malingaliro oipa. Tikukhulupirira kuti mudzapindula ndi uphungu wa akatswiri a maganizo, ndipo mudzakhala ndi abwenzi ambiri!