Kodi mungapulumutse motani chisamaliro cha wokondedwa wanu?

Sikuti nthawi zonse ubale wathu ndi amuna ndi momwe ife tikufunira. Zimapezeka kuti masamba okondedwa. Ndiye ululu, mkwiyo, misozi, mafunso opanda kanthu amakuphimba ndi mutu. Zikuwoneka kuti moyo watha, kuti dzuŵa lizimitsidwe, ndipo mbalame siziimba. N'zotheka kuti zomwe zinachitika kwabwino, sizinayenera kuyambira pachiyambi. Ndiye, chirichonse chiri cholondola. Kambiranani ndi mwamuna wina yemwe adzakhale woyenera kwa inu. Ndipo ngati inu munalakwitsa, bwanji ngati chifukwa cha kuchoka kwake chinali kulakwitsa kwanu? Momwe mungakhalire wokondedwa kwa mwamuna, mukukhumba ndi zabwino padziko lonse lapansi? Kodi mungabwezere bwanji wokondedwayo? Ndikupempha mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya zolakwika za amayi zomwe zimawombera amuna. Ngati muwadziwa, simungalole, ndipo mwamuna wanu adzakhala ndi inu nthawi zonse.

Choyamba, ngati zovuta zomwezo zakhala zikuchitika, ndipo wosankhidwa wanu wachoka, ndiye kuti musamadzimve chisoni ndikudzimvera chisoni. Kuti mupeze zokwanira kwa masiku angapo, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kukwiyitsa ndi "mbuzi" iyi ndi "freak", omwe sanayamikire zochita zanu zonse ndipo mwakusiya anasiya inu. Choncho, khalani chete, moyo umapitirira! Musamupempherere munthuyo kwa inu. Ndiwe mkazi, mwamuna! Muli ndi ulemu komanso ulemu! Kuonjezera apo, mawu odziwika bwino akuti "bwererani, ndikukhululukira chirichonse," amatanthauza kuti iye ndiye wodzudzula chinachake, ndipo mumapanga chisomo. Kubwerera, wokondedwa wanu adzamva kuti ndi wolakwa, zomwe siziri. Inuyo simunasinthe, ndipo mukumupempha kuti abwerere ku chiyanjano chimene adathawa. Musapemphere kubwereranso mwamuna, ngati mukudzimvera chisoni ndi mkwiyo, ndipo musakhale ndi chikhumbo chofuna kukhala ndi mwamuna, ndi kuchita chinachake kukhala mtsikana wa maloto ake.

Musagwiritse ntchito chisoni ndi kusokoneza. Musamulembere ma sms, makalata, musamuyitane, ndipo musamuuze momwe muliri wosungulumwa, ndizoipa kuti simukuwona moyo wanu popanda iye. Pazinthu izi, chibwenzi chanu chiyenera kukhala choyenera, amene adzamvetsera, kuthandizira ndi kulangiza. Amuna ndikupepesa chisoni. Amakonda asungwana olimba mtima, olimba mtima ndi odziimira okhaokha. Musayambe mwamunayo kuti apatukane, ichi ndi chizindikiro cha kudzimvera chisoni komanso khalidwe lofooka. Mukakumana ndi anzanu, achibale, yesetsani kuti musakhudze mutu wanu. Musanene kuti iye ndiye wodzudzula. Kunyada, kukalipira, kubwezera, kunyoza pa gawo lanu kachiwiri kumatsimikizira kwa munthuyo kuti anasankha bwino, akusiyani. Tangonena kuti simudandaula kalikonse, ubalewo unadutsa.

Musayambe kuyankhulapo kale omwe mulibe mawu, kapena zinthu, kapena ana, ngati iwo ali. Kulimbikira maganizo a abambo ake pofuna kubwereranso mwamuna ndi chinthu chotsiriza. Inde, mwinamwake mudzabwezeretsa kwa banja lanu kwa kanthaŵi kochepa, koma izi sizingabwezeretse ubale wanu, chikondi ndi chikondi. Musamamufunse za munthu amene wamusiya. Musayang'ane misonkhano yake, musaitane kapena kulemba. Dziwani kuti kuyerekezera sikungakhale kovomerezeka, ndiye kumakhala kowawa kwambiri kwa inu. Kuonjezera apo, adzamuuza mwamuna wanu za izi, ndipo adzaima pambali pake. Zonse zomwe muyenera kuchita panthawiyi ndi kumulola kuti apite ndi kuyembekezera kanthawi. Kuti mumvetse ngati vutolo ndi buku lanu, kapena chizoloŵezi? Yembekezerani nthawi, ndipo muzindikire ngati zili zoyenera zomwe mukukumana nazo ndikuyesetsa kuti mubwererenso. Ndipo panthawiyi, mukhoza kudzigwira nokha, mkati ndi kunja, kusintha kwabwino, ndi kukhala mkazi weniweni. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti mukhoza kubweza mwamuna, koma ubale wanu sudzakhala wofanana ndi kale. Muyenera kukhala watsopano, mosiyana, kumanga ubale wanu mosiyana. Kapena mupeze wina. Koma, ngati simusintha chilichonse mwa inu nokha, musagwirizane ndi zomwe mukuganizazo, ndiye kuti mutha kubwerera ku "zomwezo". Kotero, ndi nthawi yoti tipeze zomwe tikuphunzira ndikuphunzira kuchokera ku zolakwa zanu.

Lekani kuganizira za iye! Samalani china chake, dzifunseni phunziro lochititsa chidwi, pomwe simungaganizire za kale komanso kale. Sikophweka, koma ngati mutapambana, zidzakhala zosavuta nthawi yomweyo. Ndi njira yabwino kwambiri kuiwala zomwe zinachitika ndi tchuthi, ulendo wopita kunja kwa tawuni, kusintha malo. Ngati mutayikidwa ndi malingaliro okhumudwitsa, ndiye mutembenuzire ku zabwino. Ganizirani momwe zinthu zilili bwino ndi inu, ndinu okongola, opambana, wathanzi. Ngati mungakumane ndi foni ndi kale, dziyerekezerani kuti zonse zili bwino ndi inu, kondwerani, kumwetulira, muuzeni za zomwe mumakonda kuchita. Mungathe kunama pang'ono kuti chikhulupilireni. Koma, musalankhule mwamsanga za kupambana kwanu mumunda wachikondi, kambiranani za angati omwe munali ndi tsiku ndi zomwe munapatsidwa. Mwamuna amadziwa mwamsanga kuti uku akunena izi ndi mkwiyo. Zingakhale bwino ngati amadziwa za kusintha kwakukulu pamoyo wanu kuchokera kwa anthu ena.

Kupatukana ndi imfa yaing'ono, koma moyo wotsatira umatsatira. Khalani okondwa!