Inde, pafupifupi theka la anthu akuluakulu a ku Ulaya ndi osakwatira ndipo ali okondwa. Ambiri oposa 30% samafuna kukhala ndi mwamuna m'nyumba yamba. Amakhutitsidwa ndi udindo wa mbuye. Mmodzi ndi wokondwa! Kotero pambuyo pa zonse, kodi iyi ndi chilankhulo cha mkazi wamakono kapena kodi icho chiri chabe chenicheni cha moyo wathu? Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani ambiri amasankha kukhala okhaokha? Mkaziyo anachita bizinesi, ali wamphamvu ndipo amafuna ubale wofanana (wokondedwa), woopa kukhala pansi. Kuopa mkangano, kusakhulupirika ndi kusakhulupirika. Amaopa kudzipatula monga munthu, kumangokhala woyang'anira nyumba, kutayika kukongola kwake atatha kubadwa. Akazi amamva kuti moyo udzatha pambuyo pa banja.
Tiyeni tiyesetse kumvetsetsa zomwe zifukwa zomwe zimakhalira moyo wosungulumwa wa amayi amakono.
- Mwinamwake izi, monga momwe ziliri ndi zizoloŵezi zathu ndi malingaliro athu, zimachokera muubwana. Moyo wa banja ndi wotani kwa akazi amakono azaka makumi atatu. Iwo akuyang'anitsitsa moyo wa amayi awo mu Soviet Union. Moyo wosasokonezeka, kugwira ntchito kuyambira m'mawa mpaka usiku, kuthamanga kuzungulira masitolo, komwe kulibe ndalama zopanda kanthu, khitchini, kuyang'ana mabuku ogwiritsira ntchito zolimbitsa thupi komanso maulendo a chilimwe ndi malo ogona. Choncho, akazi amakono akufuna moyo wosiyana kwambiri. Iwo ali ndi zikhalidwe zina - ntchito, maphwando, kugonana, thupi, dziwe, ndi zina zotero.
- Ndili ndi zaka makumi atatu, mkazi yemwe wapindula udindo ndipo nthawi zambiri amalandira zoposa. Ali ndi ndondomeko ya moyo, chakudya komanso kusunga malamulo mwakhama. Ndipo mkazi wotero amaganiza mwanzeru kuti sizinthu zambiri zomwe zidzapulumutse izi. Pezani mumzinda wa munthu yemwe adzakugawanizani moyo wanu ndizovuta. Koma tiyeni tiyang'ane pang'ono pambali inayo. Choyamba, moyo wamakono ukusiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe amayi athu anali nazo. Kugula chakudya si vuto nthawi iliyonse ya tsiku, katundu wambiri wanyumba, zomwe zimagwira bwino ntchito za amayi ndi akuphika. Kuwonjezera apo, ndi zipangizo zapakhomo zimayang'aniridwa bwino ndi amuna omwe. Kotero, pamene mavuto a moyo apita, zidzakhala zophweka kupeza munthu amene adzagawana nanu moyo wanu. Choncho yang'anani mosamala, ndipo mudzapeza munthu amene angayamikire kufunafuna ntchito yanu.
- Chifukwa china, chomwe amayi achilendo amanena, ndiko kuwonongedwa kwa theka la anthu amasiku ano ndi kugonana. Iwo sakonda, koma kupanga chikondi madzulo. Ndipo ife akazi chotero tikufuna chibwenzi, kukondana kokongola, kuyang'ana kumverera. Koma, tsoka, amuna adasiya kupambana akazi. Inde, koma muyenera kumvetsa kuti simungathe kusewera mu ubale, koma muyenera kukhala nokha. Akazi onse ndi osiyana ndipo aliyense ali ndi khalidwe lake ndipo aliyense ali ndi munthu amene angakuyamikire. Amadziwika kuti amuna 50% amasankha mkazi kwa munthu, osati kapolo.
- Kumbukirani mawu ochokera mu nyimbo "Ndi zovuta kwa atsikana ochokera kumudzi wapamwamba kuti asakhale okha" Chifukwa chiyani? Mtsikanayo anamaliza maphunziro a golidi wa golide kuchokera ku sukulu ndipo ali ndi zaka makumi awiri mphambu zisanu ndi zitatu (8) ali ndi madipatimenti ochokera kumayunivesite apamwamba, amadziwa zinenero zisanu ndipo amagwira ntchito ku banki lalikulu, ndipo amapeza nyumba mumzinda wa Moscow. Msungwana wotsiriza wa sabata amatha ku Ulaya ndipo sali pa nthawi yomweyo. Iye ali ngati wotseguka ku maubwenzi, koma chinachake sichimachokera kwa akalonga. Amamva ngati mfumu komanso amuna amachiwona, koma si aliyense amene angakwanitse kupeza ndalama zambiri. Koma pambuyo pa zonse, chikondi sichigula kugulitsidwa kwa zoyenera zanu, koma munthu amene amakonda kwenikweni, amangokonda. Ndipo iwe umayamba kuopa ndi kuyang'ana chifukwa china. Ndiyambiranso kuthamanga kukagwira ntchito. Ntchito ndi yofunika kwambiri, koma simungakhoze kuthamanga kwanthawizonse kuchokera kumverera kwanu ndikupititsa patsogolo chiyanjano cha mtsogolo.
- Atsikana ambiri amaopa kudziyanjana okha ndi mnzawo. Amangoopa kuti adzasiyidwa, adzaperekedwa. Amaopa kutaya ufulu wawo. Kupyolera mu khalidwe lawo amasonyeza kuti iwo si a aliyense, kuti ali omasuka komanso odziimira. Choncho, pali mikangano, kusakhulupirika komanso kusokoneza maubwenzi. Chifukwa chiyani? Mwina banja limene msungwanayo anakulira, anapulumuka chisudzulo cha makolo ake kapena iyeyo adakondedwa kwambiri pa unyamata wake, kusakhulupirika ndi kukhumudwa. Ndicho chifukwa chake mu ubale amayesa kugwira ntchito popanda mphamvu. Ndipo musamaope kuti munyengedwe, mumangokhala ndi moyo, zomwe zinachitika pambuyo pake, ndikudandaula ndi mwayi womwe mwaphonya.
- Akazi amakono, otetezedwa ndi olemera mu moyo. Amaopa kwambiri kutaya ufulu wawo. Akazi oterewa nthawi zonse amawona mtunda wokhala ndi chiyanjano ndi mwamuna ndipo amakakamizidwa nthawi zonse kutsimikizira kuti ndi osiyana. Iye mwiniwake ambuye ndipo zina sizigwirizana. Apanso, chifukwa cha khalidwe ili ali mwana. Zikuoneka kuti panali makolo ovuta kwambiri, makamaka abambo. Ndipo mu boma lalikulu, kupeza ufulu, tsopano akuopa kum'taya. Iye sankamuona ngati mwana, koma tsopano sakuwerengera aliyense. Muzochitika izi, tiyenera kudziyang'anitsitsa tokha, tiyenera kuyesa kumvetsa kuti vuto lalikulu silili mwa anthu omwe akuzungulirani, koma mwa inu nokha.
Inde, mu moyo wamakono mkazi samawoneka akusowa mwamuna. Kudziimira nokha ndalama kumadzilola nokha ndi kuvala, ndi kusangalatsa. Ngati mukufuna kugonana, khalani wokondedwa, mukhoza kubala ndi insemination yopanga. Kotero kodi mumasowa mwamuna? Ziri kwa iwe. Koma tiyenera kukumbukira kuti mkazi aliyense, chirichonse chomwe akunena, amafunikira banja. Choncho musataye mtima ndipo zonse zidzatha! Ndipo aloleni kuti azinene kuti n'zovuta kwa atsikana ochokera kumadera apamwamba kuti asakhale okha!