Pachifukwa ichi, sikoyenera kuti muwerenge malingaliro a anthu ena, mumasowa pang'ono - kuyang'anitsitsa, kumvetsera, kumvetsetsa ena ndi kachigawo kakang'ono ka chidziwitso. Ndipotu, pali sayansi yomwe idzakuphunzitsani kumvetsetsa anthu, werengani zambiri zokhudza munthu ndi nkhope yake, nkhope, manja. Sayansi iyi ndi yosalankhula. Ndi chithandizo chake mungaphunzire zonse za kulankhulana kosalankhulidwa.
Kotero, kubwereranso kwa kale omwe tikudziwika kwa ife awiri pa ngodya. Maso a mnyamata akuwonekera mwachindunji m'maso mwa msungwanayo, panthawi ya kukambirana kwake dzanja lake likuleredwa, akuyendayenda mofulumira kwa mnzake monga ngati kuchokera mumtima, kusonyeza chikwangwani. Izi zikusonyeza kuti mawu ake ndi oona mtima ndi oona, ndipo ndi odalirika. Thupi lake limangokhalira kugwedezeka, ngati kuti kuyesa kuyandikira msungwanayo, ndipo iyeyo, adatsamira pang'ono, zomwe zingatanthauzidwe kukhala chidwi wina ndi mnzake pa zokambiranazi. Mutu wa msungwanayo akudalira pambali akunena kuti akufuna chinachake osati kungomukondweretsa. Mapewa ake amatsitsa, manja ake sakhala ovuta. Iye anaika dzanja limodzi pa thumba, lina lina limodzi ndi thupi. Zochita izi zikutanthauza kuti msungwanayo ali womasuka naye, iye ali wosasamala komanso wokhutira. Kuchokera pa zomwe tawona, tingathe kunena kuti izi sizinzake koma okondedwa awiri.
Ndipo ngati mukumvetsera kwa awiri akuyenda kwa ife, komanso mwamuna ndi mkazi. Thupi lonse la munthu limalongosola zovuta zomwe amamva - kuchoka pamapewa omwe amalembedwa mosalekeza ndi kutsika pamutu kuti alowe milomo yolimba. Amamva kuti sangakhale womasuka, mapewa ake akukweza ndi chizindikiro cha mantha, ndipo pakamwa pake pamakwiya, komanso kuti sangathe kufotokozera. Ngakhale kuti kulankhula kwa mnzanu sikukumveka, mumatha kuona momwe msangamsanga wake umasinthira ndipo makona awo amakulira, ndipo makwinya amawonekera pa mlatho wa mphuno. Palibe kukayika kuti mkaziyo ali wokwiya kwambiri. Amatsitsa, kenako amkweza dzanja lake, ndikanjedza, ndipo amaletsa kukhumudwa. Zonsezi zimangolankhula za chinthu chimodzi - banjali litangokhalira kukangana.
Kuyang'ana mu cafe, mungapeze zitsanzo zambiri zowunika. Mmodzi wa matebulowo amakhala ndi amuna awiri. Mmodzi wa iwo, mnyamata wamng'ono, akuyesera kufotokozera chinachake kwa mwamuna wamwamuna wa pakati ndi wokondwa. Mwamunayo akuwoneka mozama, akuthandiza tsaya lake ndi nkhonya imodzi. Dzanja lachiwiri limene iye anaika patebulo, kudalira pang'ono thupi lake lonse. Khama la mnyamatayo likuyamikiridwa, mawu ake amakhala osangalatsa kwa omvera.
Azimayi a zaka ziwiri pakati pa suti zolimba amakhala pa tebulo lina. Sizomveka kumvetsetsa komwe maganizo awo akutsatiridwa, wina ndi mzake, kapena kumbali. Koma n'zoonekeratu kuti mmodzi wa iwo akuyesera kusiya wina ndi wopusa. Zindikirani, amabisa kamwa yake, amatambasula dzanja lake, ndipo ngati kuti akung'amba mwangozi mphuno nthawi ndi nthawi. Zonsezi zimatanthauza kuti mwamunayo amanyenga mwadala. Ndipo kukukuta kwake kumutu kumayankhula za kusatetezeka ndi mantha. Wothandizana naye akukhala, akutsamira pang'ono, motero amawonjezera mtunda pakati pawo. Dzanja la mwamunayo likudula mutu wake, chala chake chili pamasaya ake, ndipo chala chake chimakhudza milomo yake pang'ono. Chizindikiro choterocho chimazindikiridwa ngati chizindikiro cha kukayikira, kufotokoza malo osakhulupirika poyerekeza ndi mawu a interlocutor.
Kulankhulana mosagwiritsa ntchito mawu ndi njira yolankhulirana popanda kugwiritsa ntchito mawu, motero, mothandizidwa ndi manja, kusuntha, nkhope, mawu omveka, kupukuta ndi zizindikiro. Pazochita za munthu, momwe amachitira, nkhope, nkhope, zimakhala zosavuta kugwirizanitsa chikhalidwe chake, momwe amachitira, komanso kuyang'ana zomwe zikuchitika. Nkhani zomwe zikufotokozedwa ndizochepa chabe zomwe zingaphunzire mwa kuyang'ana pa khalidwe la anthu ndikuphunzira zonse zokhudza kulankhulirana. Musaiwale za khalidwe lanu. Musapewe zizindikiro zomvetsa chisoni, koma musasonyeze manyazi komanso kusamvetsetsa.