Kawirikawiri munthu amapezeka ali ndi rhinosis "chiwanda mu nthiti," ndi mnyamata wamng'ono pafupi naye - kutaya kwa chikhalidwe, ndi kukwaniritsa kwa chibwenzi chachikulu. Ndipo palibe amene amaganiza kuti anthu awa akhoza kukondana kwenikweni ndi kukhala pafupi, ngati palibe wina. Okhulupilira osadziwa samadziwa malire, ndipo ndi chiyani chomwe chiyenera kuganiza - zonse ziwoneka kale. Iye ndi wabwino kwa iye mwa mwana wake wamkazi, nthawi zambiri amasokonezeka, iye-ngakhale pang'ono ndipo safuna chikondi ndi chilakolako, ndi semolina chakudya chamadzulo ndi mapulogalamu ogona usiku. Kodi ndi chikondi chanji chimene tingakambirane? Kuwerengera kokha, ndipo palibe njira ina iliyonse. Mawu omveka bwino omwe angapezeke muukwati pamene mwamuna ali wamkulu ndi awa: "Simukuwona, akungoyembekezera kuti" atuluke pahatchi ", ndicho cholowa chotani .." Pa nthawi yomweyi, monga mawonetsero, miseche imeneyi imakhala yopanda maziko, koma imapangitsa mthunzi wabwino pa chikhulupiriro komanso kumverera kokometsa. Musaganize, palibe amene angatsutse kuti ichi ndi chikondi, komanso ngati atsikana sakondana ndi mwamuna, koma ndi nambala ya zero mu akaunti ya banki, ndi kukhalapo kwa "zithunzi" zambiri za Benjamin Franklin mu thumba la ndalama, kokha kutsimikizira lamulo kuti maganizo amakhalansopo.
Kawirikawiri amalingalira kuti maukwati osalinganizana, ngakhale kukhalapo kwa malingaliro, akungowonongeka. Ndipo chifukwa cha izi pali zifukwa zazikuluzikulu.
Kotero tiyeni, tilingalirani momwe ukwati umawonekera ngati munthu ali wamkulu.
Ndani akuchitika?
Kawirikawiri mawu okhudza chikondi "monga choncho," amanyenga, ngakhale ndi buku lochititsa chidwi kwambiri. Ngati zinalidi "zopanda pake, koma kwachabechabe," chikondi chathu chidzakhala chosatha ndikufalikira kwa munthu woyamba amene tinakumana naye, ndipo nthawi iliyonse tikamamuwona munthu yemwe si mwamuna kapena mkazi mnzathu. Adzaima pa munthu wina, nadzamuuza zakukhosi kwake zonse, kukakamiza chimodzimodzi makhalidwe awa, chifukwa cha mawonetseredwe omwe timakonda komanso chinthu chomwe timasankha. Zingakhale maonekedwe, malingaliro, zochita, maluso ena apadera, luso, zizoloŵezi, makhalidwe. Ndipo pamene timamudziwa kwambiri munthu amene timamukonda, timakhala ndi "hook" zoterezi zomwe zimalimbikitsa kukondana wina ndi mnzake.
Zimachitika kwa aliyense, mosasamala za msinkhu, kugonana, ndi chikhalidwe chake. Choncho, muukwati wosalinganizana, pali zifukwa zenizeni zomwe munthu wamkulu adasankhira mtsikana, ndipo mkazi - amamvetsera munthu wolimba, wamkulu kuposa iye.
Koma tiyeni tiyambe mu dongosolo.
Kawirikawiri kusiyana pakati pa zaka za pakati pa okwatirana ndi zaka 3-5. Zomwe zimakhala zachilendo zikuwonetsedwa ndi anthu ndipo zimafotokozedwa mosavuta kuchokera ku lingaliro la maganizo. Chowonadi ndi chakuti, pachimake, maanja amayamba kulembetsa maubwenzi atakhala ndi chikhalidwe china. Koma popeza amayi pa nkhaniyi akuchita bwino, ndiye pa kusiyana kwa zaka zisanu, amalankhula mwachiyankhulo chinenero chimodzi, chifukwa ali pamlingo womwewo wa chitukuko chawo.
Pamene munthu ali wamkulu kuposa mkazi pa 10.20, kapena ngakhale zaka 30, lamulo lina likugwiranso kale ntchito. Apa, osati kusiyana kwa msinkhu kokha kumene kumakhala kobadwa, komanso kusiyana kwakukulu mdziko, zolinga za moyo, zikhumbo, ndi kumvetsetsa ndi kulingalira kwa moyo monga choncho. Koma, okondana awa amakopeka wina ndi mzake monga maginito. Chifukwa chimene mkazi amakopera kukhwima kwake, kudziŵa kwake, kusowa mphepo mumutu, ndi ubwana, ndi munthu wotere, amatha kukhala wotetezeka, wodalirika mtsogolo, bata. Ndipo kwa munthu wachikulire, cholengedwa chaching'ono chotero, chimatembenuka ngati apulo wachinyamata, ndipo chimakhudzidwa ndi izi zokha, naivety, chifundo ndi unyamata. Kotero munthu mwiniyo amatha kumverera mphamvu ndi mphamvu zochepa, monga akunena, kuti amvere mnyamata wachiwiri. Amadzimva bwino, ndipo amawona ukwati umenewu ngati mwayi wokhala moyo watsopano. Choncho, kwa amuna oterewa ali ndi mwana wamng'ono, nthawi zambiri amakhala wachiwiri, kapena wachitatu, kumbuyo kwa mapewa kale ali ndi zochitika za moyo wa banja. Kawirikawiri changu choterocho "kuyambira pachiyambi", amabadwira mwa amuna panthaŵi yomwe akukumana ndi mavuto a zaka zapakati, ndipo amakhala pafupifupi zaka 2-3. Pambuyo pa utsi, munthu akhoza kuyesa momwe zinthu ziliri - ukwati umatha.
Zifukwa za kuwonongeka .
Chifukwa chomwe maanja amapita kuntchito ngati kusagwirizana, ndipo chikhumbo chodzaza zofooka zawo zonse, mu ndondomeko yamalingaliro, imakhalanso.
Chikhumbo cha mtsikana kukwatiwa ndi mwamuna wamkulu kuposa iye chingakhudzidwe ndi kupezeka kwa abambo m'banja limene anakulira, kutaya kwake, kapena kutengapo mbali kwa atate wa banja pa kulera ndi moyo wa ana. Akuyesera kudzaza niches awiri yokhala ndi munthu mmodzi ndi banja lake: kumuwona ngati mwamuna wake, ndi kulandira chisamaliro ndi chithandizo cha atate. Pankhaniyi, chifukwa cholekanitsa ndicho kukula kwa msungwanayo. Ndipotu, nthawi ndi nthawi ana amasiya chinyumba, ndipo safunikiranso kusamalira makolo awo. Ndipo ngati pachiyambi kusiyana koteroko sikusokoneza banjali, ndiye patatha nthawi, kusintha kwa moyo, zoyenera ndi zofunikira zingawapangitse kukhala alendo.
Poyang'ana zochitikazo kudzera mwa munthu, tidzawona chithunzi chosiyana cha zomwe zikuchitika. Apa kusadziŵa kwa kugonana kwa mwamuna kudzatenga gawo lalikulu, komanso kuopa kuyerekezera. Ndipotu, kuzungulira kumeneko ndi akazi achikulire, komanso odziwa zambiri, komabe amakondweretsa komanso amakhala osungulumwa. Koma pazifukwa zina, chisankhocho chimagwera pa cholengedwa chaching'ono chomwe chimayang'ana dziko lapansi kudzera m'magalasi obiriwira. Mfundo yakuti munthu amadziwa bwino kuti akudziwa kuti wakhala akusiyana kwambiri ndi kale, ndipo mwina pakalipano ali ndi nthawi imene sizingatheke kuwonekera pamaso pa mayiyo ali ndi luso lake ndi makhalidwe ake onse. Azimayi odziwa zambiri akhala ndi, poyerekeza ndi kudziwa zomwe akufuna, ndiye, monga cholengedwa chachichepere chimazindikira chirichonse, ngati kuti nthawi zambiri sapanga zofuna zawo. Choncho, khalidwe limapangitsa moyo kukhala wosalira zambiri kwa munthu. Mwachidziwikire, zonse zimachitika mmoyo, chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti mumayamikira malingaliro anu, mosasamala za msinkhu.