Aliyense amakopeka ndi chinachake, koma sikuti aliyense ali wokonzeka kumasulira maloto awo. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika? Pambuyo pake, zikhoza kuoneka, ngati mukufuna chinachake, ndiye kuti mudzachita khama ndikupita ku zolinga ziribe kanthu. Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani anthu ambiri sazindikira maloto awo?
Kupewa masoka
Ndipotu, pamsewu wopita kukwaniritsa zofuna zathu, zowopsya zimawoneka kuti ndizo mantha athu. Ndizo zomwe zimatilepheretsa, kugwetsa manja athu ndikubwerera. Kuopa koyamba, komwe tidzakambirana, ndi mantha okhumudwa. Mwamuna akuopa kukhumudwa. Kuwonjezera apo, manthawa sakhudza kukhumudwa nokha, komanso kukhumudwa mu maloto. Ngati tikulankhula za mtundu woyamba wa mantha, ndiye kuti tikuwoneka kuti ngati sitingathe kukwaniritsa zomwe tikufuna ndi mtima wathu wonse, ndiye kuti izi zidzakhala manyazi kwambiri. Ife tonse timangoseka, ndizoopsa-kukhala opusa monga islabi, kuti musapeze zomwe mukufuna. Ndichifukwa chake, mmalo moyamba kuchitapo kanthu, nthawi zambiri timanena kuti malotowo sizinali zazikulu. Kotero, chokhumba pang'ono, ndi nthawi inangowonongeka. Ndi kosavuta kuti tisiye maloto athu kusiyana ndi kukhumudwa.
Anthu ambiri samafuna kulola kuti zinthu ziwoneke ngati zopusa. Ndipo anthu otere samazindikira zomwe zikuchitika padziko lonse lapansi. Ngati mumayesetsa kumuthandiza munthu woteroyo, adzalingalira kuti mukuchita izi chifukwa mumamuona kuti ndi wofooka komanso wachiwerewere. Ndicho chifukwa chake anthuwa safuna kupereka chifukwa cha ena kuti awone ngati ofooka ndi osweka. Ndipotu, njira imeneyi pa nkhaniyi ndi yopusa komanso yopanda nzeru. Choyamba, chifukwa ndilo loto lanu ndi njira yanu. Choncho, palibe amene akuyenera kukuweruzani, mungachite chiyani ndi momwe mungapangire cholakwika. Ndipo kachiwiri, munthu aliyense akhoza kuchita cholakwika, kukwiya komanso kusiya. Ndipo palibe choopsa kuti sakanatha kukwaniritsa maloto. Mwina adzapambana nthawi ina. Ndipo ngati intaneti, ndiye kuti idzakhala yosangalala kwambiri. Dell ndikutanthauzira kukhumudwitsidwa ndi chirichonse, sitiwona kuti tilangidwa ku chizunzo chamuyaya, chomwe chidzatchera mtima wathu mpaka kumapeto kwa moyo. Pambuyo pake, ngati simukutsutsa ena, simunganyengedwe nokha. Ndipo ngati mutaya maloto chifukwa choopa kukhumudwitsidwa, ndiye kuti malotowa adzakugwedezani ndi mthunzi ndipo mudzavutika movutikira kuti musayesere kuchita chinachake.
Monga tanena kale, munthu akhoza kuopa osati kungokhumudwitsidwa yekha, komanso maloto. Kodi tikukamba za chiyani? Nthawi zina zimatiwoneka kuti maloto athu ndi osamveka komanso osakanikirana, koma kwenikweni, zonse zimakhala zophweka, zosavuta komanso zosangalatsa monga momwe zimawonekera poyamba. Ngati mupereka chitsanzo, ndiye kuti munthu akhoza kulota moyo wake wonse kuti apite kumzinda, kumene adayendera kanthawi zingapo kapena ngakhale kumuwona zithunzi. Mzinda uwu ukuwoneka ngati korona wa zomangamanga, wokongola kwambiri, wokongola, wokongola kwambiri pa moyo. Ndipo iye akulota pokhala pamenepo, koma iye sasuntha. Koma chifukwa chakuti akuopa kukhumudwitsidwa. Ndi chifukwa cha ichi anthu amaopa kukwaniritsa zolinga zawo ndikukwaniritsa maloto. Ngati malotowo awonongedwa, ndiye kuti moyo umataya kuwala ndi zopadera. Mwamwayi, palibe amene amaganiza kuti maloto athu akuwonongeka ndi ife eni. Anthu ambiri amadziwa kunyalanyaza zinthu zazing'ono ndikupitiriza kuzindikira zomwe iwo analota monga momwe anachitira malotowa asanakwaniritsidwe. Kwa iwo, tawuni ya malingaliro ali ngati fano, ziribe kanthu. Ndipo iwo akupitiriza kuona zozizwitsa patatha zaka makumi atatu akhala mmenemo, chifukwa maloto awo akhala okwaniritsidwa, koma sanataya mthunzi wabwino kwambiri.
Kuopa kukhala munthu wopanda cholinga
Ambiri amaopa kuti maloto awo akwaniritsidwe chifukwa sakudziwa momwe angakhalire ngati atadziwa zomwe akufuna. Inde, tikhoza kunena kuti tikatha maloto amodzi, tiyenera kukhazikitsa zolinga zatsopano, chifukwa palibe malire ku ungwiro. Koma si anthu onse okonzeka kupeza etitseli. Anthu ena amaganiza kuti ali ndi maloto amodzi okha. Pamene zikwaniritsidwa, tanthauzo la moyo limangowonongeka ndipo zimafota. Mwinamwake mwakumana ndi anthu omwe akhala akulota kwa zaka zambiri. Mwachitsanzo, wina akufuna kuyendayenda padziko lapansi. Akhoza kuthera maola akuyankhula za njira zomwe zimakhala zochititsa chidwi kwambiri, akulota kulikonse komwe adachita, yemwe angatenge naye ndi zina zotero. Koma ngakhale ndi mwayi, khalidwe lotere silizindikira kuti maloto ake ndi enieni. Chifukwa chiyani amachita izi? Ndipo zoona zake n'zakuti pokwaniritsa maloto, munthu wotero amaopa kumva kuti alibe chimwemwe mumtima. Pambuyo pa zonse, sangathe kukonzekera ndi kupereka, sangathe kupanga chilichonse, kusankha njira zosiyanasiyana ndi zina zotero. Ndipo kuposa kuti adzikhalitse yekha mmalo mwake, munthu sakudziwa basi. Ngakhale kuchokera mu lingaliro lakuti iye adzakhala ndi nthawi yochuluka kwambiri, yomwe iye sangakhoze kuthera tsopano mu maloto, izo zimakhala zowopsya. Mofananamo, mu maloto, munthu akhoza kuchita chirichonse, monga momwe iye akufunira. Ndipo zenizeni, zida zamphamvu ndi zowonjezera zidzafunika. Ndipo ndi zabwino ngati ali aang'ono. Aliyense yemwe ali ndi maloto, malingaliro awa akuwoneka mmutu mwanga. Koma ngati ena angathe kuwachotsa mwamsanga ndikupitirizabe kukhulupirira kuti zonse zidzakhala bwino, kuti ndi bwino kuti muyende mu moyo weniweni, ndipo zidzakhala momwemo, ndiye kuti anthu ena sangaganizire zoipa, kotero ndi kosavuta kuti iwo azidziona kuti maloto awo sangatheke pitirizani kusangalala ndi malingaliro anu.
Ndipotu, mantha ambiri pokwaniritsa maloto ndi ofanana ndi anthu ambiri. Koma ngati ena amvetsetsa kuti nkofunika kulimbana nawo ndikuyesera kuthana ndi mantha awo, ena amawona kuti zoterezi zimakhala zachilendo, choncho sachita chilichonse. Anthu omwe amadziwa momwe angachitire zomwe akufuna, zifukwa zomveka zokha, amanena kuti palibe malingaliro odalirika, ochuluka omwe amawopa kuti ayese kuchita. Ngakhale, panthawiyi, wina akhoza kukangana, pakuti, mwachitsanzo, munthu akhoza kulota wina wobwerera kuchokera kudziko lina. Choncho, zingakhale bwino kunena kuti pali zosowa zosakwaniritsidwe. Ndipo ngati mukufuna kulandira chinachake mu dziko lino, mutha kuthana mukasiya mantha anu onse. Ndipotu moyo sumakonda anyamata, amachta akuuluka kutali nawo, ngati agulugufe okongola, omwe amapereka mpata wodziwona okha, koma kuti asagwire.