Kodi ziganizo ndi ziti?
Ngati munthu ali woyenera, ndiye kuti safunikira kuyembekezera kusakhulupirika ndi kusakhulupirika. Anyamata otere samataya chinthu ngati "chikondi". Mwana wokongola kwambiri motalika kwambiri amasankha mtsikana yekha. Amasinthana ndi maubwenzi osagwirizana ndi kugonana usiku umodzi. Munthu woteroyo alibe chidwi ndi izi. Mabwenzi ake onse anganene kuti safunikira kukhala ndi moyo, kutenga chilichonse kuchokera ku moyo, koma sadzawamvera. Zolingalirazo zili ndi malingaliro awo ndi mfundo zawo, zomwe nthawi zonse zimatsogoleredwa, ngakhale zimatsutsana ndi maganizo a anthu. Choncho, ngati woyenera kuti asankhe iwe, ndiye kuti amapezadi amene akufuna kuti azikhala ndi moyo wake wonse. Zolinga, maganizo monga "banja", "ana", "chikondi", "kuwona mtima" ndi ofunika kwambiri. Munthu woganiza amaimira ubale monga momwe atsikana ambiri adaonera m'nthano komanso mafilimu achikondi. Mnyamata woteroyo adzipereka yekha. Ngati iye akonda, ndiye kuti ndi moyo. Munthu wotero amafuna kuti banja lake lisasowe chilichonse, chifukwa chiyenera kukhala changwiro. Adzayesa, kugwira ntchito, kulenga chisokonezo. Ngati m'maganizo ake palinso chikondi, ndiye kuti munthu wotereyo sangathenso kuyimbira nyimbo polemba mavesi. Amafuna kuti chirichonse chikhale changwiro. Mwachibadwidwe, mu lingaliro labwino la banja ndi maubwenzi, sizinayambe kupandukira chiwembu. Ndicho chifukwa chake munthu wotero sadzapita ku sitepe yoteroyo. Iye ali otsimikiza kuti mkazi wake ndi wabwino kwambiri, chotero bwanji funani winawake kumbali. Kuonjezera apo, kuperekedwa kwa munthu wotero ndiko kunyozetsa, chifukwa kumatsimikizira kuti sangathe kusankha mtsikana wabwino.
Ovomerezeka amakhulupirira zabwino ndi zachilungamo. Amayesetsa nthawi zonse kuthandiza aliyense. Munthu wotereyo sakhala pansi pampanipani kuti akhumudwitsidwe ndi achibale ake. Wokongola amayerekezera ndi zida zankhondo, yemwe sangadutse ndi mfumukazi yemwe wagwera muvuto. Sitidzamupulumutsa kwa theka la ufumu, koma chifukwa chakuti munthu aliyense wamba ayenera kuchita. Zolingaliro zonse ndizodzikonda kwambiri. Sadzakhala ndi nkhawa za iwo eni monga amadandaula za ena. Ndipo komabe, ziphunzitso zimakhulupirira mwa anthu. Iwo amayesera kuti awone chinachake chabwino mwa munthu. Ndipo ngati awona izi, amatha kulongosola zolakwika zambiri pa nthawiyi, komabe akuyembekeza kuti chabwino chidzagonjetsa choyipa. Kwa ovomerezeka, miyambo yambiri yamasiku ano ndi malamulo sichivomerezeka. Adzakhala munthu woti "aponyedwe" kuti akwaniritse zolinga zake. Okonzeka ali owona mtima kwambiri, chifukwa ali otsimikiza kuti munthu wabwino, munthu wabwino ayenera kukhala woona mtima komanso wosakondera. Nthawi zina iwo samadziwa ngakhale izi, koma mosadziŵa amakhala ndi zolinga zomwe amayesetsabe kuti zifanane, ngakhale iwo eniwo amakana.
Ndiyenela kudziŵa kuti si onse oganiza bwino omwe ali okonzeka kuvomereza kuti ali otero. Ambiri a iwo amakhulupirira kuti makamaka iwo ndi anthu wamba omwe samakhulupirira zokhumba ndipo sakufuna kulemba. Koma zochita za anyamatawa zimasonyeza zosiyana. Mwa njira, ndiziganizidwe izi ndizo zowona mtima ndi zowona mtima. Chowonadi ndi chakuti amachita moyenera ndikuyesera kuyesetsa pazonse kuti zikhale zolinga, osati chifukwa chozifuna, koma chifukwa amamvera mitima yawo, zomwe zimawauza kuti achite monga choncho.
Munthu wokongola alibe mabwenzi ambiri. Zolondola kwambiri, m'moyo wawo onse akufikira anthu ambiri, koma ambiri a iwo amakhumudwa, chifukwa sagwirizana ndi zolinga. Koma iwo omwe potsirizira pake amakhalabe pafupi ndi zokhumbazo ndi abwenzi enieni enieni omwe amawathandiza nthawi zonse, nthawi zonse amaika mapewa awo ndipo sasiya masautso. M'gulu loyandikana kwambiri la maganizo ndi anthu abwino okha. Ndizoipa, anyamata awa akunena zabwino kwamuyaya. Choncho, mukakumana ndi munthu wokongola, mungakhale otsimikiza kuti malo ake ndi abwino, okwanira komanso osangalatsa. Choncho, mutha kukhala otsimikiza kuti anyamata anu amatha kukhala ndi chinachake chokamba.
Makhalidwe ndi khalidwe la ovomerezeka ali pamlingo wapamwamba. Inde, sikuti munthu aliyense wokongola amachotsa dzanja lake m'basi ndipo amathandizira ndi chovala, koma munthu aliyense wokonda zolinga sangaloledwe kutemberera mkazi poyera, kulumbira pa adilesi yake, kunyalanyaza, kunyoza, kukambirana ndi ena zoipa zake, ndi kunyoza. Mchitidwewu ndi wosiyana kwambiri ndi malingaliro ake. Iye sangakhoze kulola malingaliro oterowo, chifukwa ndi kudzipweteka yekha. Otsatira amalemekeza kwambiri akazi ndipo nthawi zonse amayesetsa kuwachitira bwino. Simudzawona munthu woyenera bwino yemwe adapanga disassembly ndi mkazi wake pamaso pa kampaniyo, ndipo mochulukirapo, anakweza dzanja lake.
Koma, monga zodziwikiratu, m'dziko lathu palibe chabwino, choncho, palinso mavuto awo.
Kodi oganiza bwino ndi oipa?
Otsatira amakhulupirira kwenikweni chikondi ndipo amakhala omvera kwambiri. Koma amafunikanso maganizo omwewo komanso kuchokera kumalo awo. Nkhanza munthu wotere sadzakhululukidwa konse. Iye akhoza kupitiriza kukonda mkazi kwa moyo wake wonse, koma sipadzakhalanso kugonana naye.
Ngati munthu wokondweretsa wina akukhumudwa ndi munthu wina, ndiye kuti n'kosatheka kuti apambane ndi kumukhulupiliranso. Kwa munthu wotero ndikofunika kuti anthu ozungulira azitsatira miyezo yake. Prichemon akhoza kukhala ndi nthawi yaitali kukhulupirira kuti izo ziri. Koma ngati panthawi ina amadziwa kuti zonse ziri zosiyana, ndiye, mwina, zimangowonongeka ndi munthuyo. Ndibwino kuti anthu ambiri azimayi sangakhululukidwe. Iye ali ndi miyezo yake yapamwamba ndi zomwe ena amawona ngati khalidwe laling'ono ndizo tsoka kwa iye.
Otsatira amalemekeza kwambiri akazi, koma amafunikanso kukhala ndi maganizo omwewo. Ngati akuphwanya munthu yemwe ali woyenera, ndiye kuti zimakhala zolakwika kwambiri kuti sangathe kukhululukira munthu kwa zaka zambiri kapena kuleka kulankhula naye kwamuyaya. Ngakhale kuti kunyoza koteroko kunali nthabwala ndipo palibe amene ankafuna kuti awonongeke, woyenerabe sangathe kukhululukira. Amangofufuza zonse mwa yekha, zinthu zambiri zimawoneka kuti sizili bwino kwa iye.
Kotero, ngati tilankhula za chabwino kapena choipa kukhala wokonzeka, ndiye kuti sitingathe kupeza yankho losavomerezeka. Mosakayikira, owona ali ndi malonda ambiri, koma palinso zovuta. Choncho, aliyense ayenera kusankha yekha, kaya amakopeka ndi maulendo ameneŵa kapena amatsitsimula.