Kodi mumadziwa kumverera ngati simunakumane ndi mnyamata, kodi mwakonzeka kumupatsa zonse mwakamodzi? Ngati ndi choncho, samalani! Mwinamwake inu mumagwiritsidwa ntchito mwaluso monga mnyamata yemwe, pogwiritsa ntchito naivete, akuwongolera mphamvu zake za atsikana opusitsa. Kuyambira kalekale, chinyengo chachinyengo cha atsikana ndi amayi, Casanova, chimadziwika. Mpaka pano, chodabwitsa ichi cha "kujambula" kapena, m'Chisipanishi, luso lachinyengo, liri lalikulu kwambiri m'magulu a achinyamata omwe nthawi zina mumaganizira mozama, ndipo ndani ali patsogolo panga? Mnyamata wachikondi, kapena akukwaniritsa mwaluso udindo wake ngati ojambula ojambula?
Zomwe zimadziwika pachitenga :
- Ali ndi mawonekedwe odabwitsa, ndiko kuti, odulidwa, ovekedwa, opukutidwa ndi zina zotero;
- Malo okhala nthawi zonse m'malo odzaza, omwe amakonda kutengeka, nthawi zambiri etonochnye magulu, mipiringidzo, malo odyera, discos, billiard, kuntchito ndi pafupifupi kulikonse;
- Iwo ali ndi njira yosavomerezeka ya maubwenzi, ndiko kuti, iwo amadziwana nawo poyamba, amatsitsa pang'ono, kenako amawonekera;
- Iwo ali osowa kwambiri, ali ndi chisangalalo chabwino, osakhala chete, amadziwa nkhani zambiri zomwe zimathera ndi kugonana nthawi zonse;
- Yesetsani kukhudza mtsikana nthawi zonse;
- Musayambe kulipira zotsitsimutsa;
- Pambuyo pa chidwi chawo pamtima mwawo, amayesa kutenga wogwiridwayo mofulumira kuchokera kumalo osangalala ndikubweretsa nkhaniyo kumapeto, kuti agone naye.
Njira zonyengerera ojambula ojambula
Kuti mupeze zotsatira zomaliza ndi zojambula zomaliza, zithunzi zimagwiritsa ntchito njira khumi ndi ziwiri zachinyengo. Tiyeni tiwakambirane ndi kukumbukira, kuti tisagwiritsidwe ntchito ndi "zibwenzi zogonana" izi. Njira zotsatirazi ndizofala:
- kuyang'ana mwachidule kwa msungwanayo, kutanthauza kufulumira kwa zomwe anthu omwe akukumana nawo akuyendetsa mofulumira ndikuyitanira chidwi cha mwini yekha;
- pamene alankhula, nthawi zonse amasonyeza kuyamikira kwa mtsikanayo, amatsindika khalidwe lake lapadera ndi lopadera, akuyamika mwamtendere kuti asokoneze munthu wosauka wosazindikira;
- kumapanga lingaliro la munthu wophweka ndi wowona mtima, kenaka akuphatikizapo njira za hypnosis ya Eriksonian, mothandizidwa ndi nthawi yomwe nthawi yotsekedwa ikhoza kukondana ndi mtsikana;
- Pakukambirana iwo amakhala ndi khalidwe loletsa ndikuyesera nthawi zonse kuti atsegule njira yolankhulirana pofuna kupeza deta zokhudza mtsikanayo, komanso osadziuza yekha. Pogwiritsa ntchito chidziwitso ichi, amamanga machenjerero a "kuyandikira" kwa msungwana uyu;
- pa zokambirana zimasintha machitidwe a khalidwe, ndiko kuti, "kuyambitsa" msungwanayo ndi mafunso ovuta, kenaka amapereka chidwi kwa mtsikanayo, yemwe akuyesera kudzikondweretsa yekha ndikupitirizabe kudziwana naye;
- nthawi zonse kukwaniritsa cholinga chake, kumapanga vuto limene mtsikanayo akuwoneka kuti am'ponya. Njira imeneyi imatchedwa "osati kupweteka kwa chiwerewere."
Zonse zikanakhala zabwino ngati mtsikanayo adziwona "kudziwana" uku ngati kuwala. Ndipo chochita chiyani kwa iwo omwe mtima wawo uli wosweka ndi woponderezedwa? Bwanji kuti musakumane ndi zizoloŵezi zoterezi zamtsogolo?
Kodi sizingakhale bwanji zovuta kuziwerengera zozizira?
Poyambira, kuti musayende pamwambo womwewo, m'pofunikira kudzipangira nokha, koma ndi chiyani chomwe mukufuna kuyanjana ndi mnyamata uyu? Kodi mungatani kuti musamawonongeke?
Ngati mukuleredwa mwakhama ndipo simukuvomereza kugonana usiku umodzi, ndiye kuti nkofunika kuti mukhale osamala kwambiri. Ndiko kuti, musalole kuti mutsegule "paw" momasuka, nthawi yaitali kuti muyang'ane mnyamata mumaso pa tsiku loyamba ndikuyesera kulipira khofi mu cafe kwa inu, osati inu. Zingakhalenso zopanda kufotokozera mafunso pa masamulo, omwe angakhale nayo nthawi yakufunsani musanagwetse mavuto ake, ndiko kuti, asanatuluke ngati wonyenga ndi manja ake. Kawirikawiri, kunyenga, zikhomo zimagwiritsa ntchito kanthawi kochepa (lamulo losavomerezeka), lomwe liri maminiti khumi. Ngati simungathe kupirira zida zachinyengo uyu, ndiye kuti mukhoza kuyamikiridwa! Inu mwangotaya chithunzi! Inu mukhoza kudzikuza nokha!
Musayankhe mafunso okhudzidwa posankha moona mtima, kotero kuti panthawi ina, pokhapokha ngati mutatha kulankhulana, sangathe kukupangani njira zowonetsera, ndipo musalole kugwirizana, mwinamwake, ndikumapeto kwa ntchito zake ndi misonzi yanu. Ndi kwambiri nastornuvstvovaniyu pa kugonana nthawi yomweyo, musazengereze, muuzeni munthu zonse zomwe mumaganiza za iye ndikumugwira iye pa galimoto. Kuchita koteroko kumachotsa kwathunthu munthu uyu wonyansa osati chiyeso chokopa madzulo ano, koma kukupangitsani kuganiza za kusintha khalidwe lanu komanso kupanga lingaliro la kukhala maso opambana.
Ngati ali pamsonkhano wa mnyamata, amatha kunena molimba mtima, sangakulepheretseni, komanso amamukhulupirira mwachidwi, amamuyesa bwino ndikuyendetsa nkhope yake yonse, kenako mosakayikira, nthawi yomweyo amathawa kuchoka kwa iye pamutu uliwonse. Mnyamata wamba nthawi zonse nthawizonse alibe malingaliro ake, nkhope, mawu a mawu. Kawirikawiri munthu wamba pamsonkhano ali chete komanso wamanyazi, osati kuyika mkono wake pamapewa anu, kuopa kufunsa funso linalake. Chinthu chokha chimene munthu wamba amatha ndikukuitanani ku kanema kapena malo achikondi kumene simumasowa ndalama zambiri. Kwa iye, chinthu chachikulu ndicho chidwi chanu ndi kuvomereza kwake monga momwe aliri ndi zolephera zonse.
Ngati muli omasuka ndi malingaliro a wogula za bokosi labwino kwambiri la abambo ndipo simunayese "kusewera" naye mu chikondi usiku umodzi, ndiye mukhoza kusewera ndikupatula nthawi yopindula, moyo ndi thupi. Phindu la gawoli silinathetsedwe komabe!
Chinthu chachikulu sichiyenera kugwa chifukwa cha zizoloŵezi za mtundu umenewu, nthawi zonse khalani osamala ndipo musalole kuti mukhale okhwima komanso kukuchitirani zabwino. Kumbukirani lamulo losavuta, koma lothandiza, lomwe mu msinkhu amayi onse amalimbikitsa chibwenzi chake - osayankhula ndi alendo. Njoka, ndithudi, koma mu nthabwala iliyonse pali supuni yabwino ya choonadi.