Nchifukwa chiyani kulira ndi imvi zimakhala zosangalatsa ndi moyo wawo?

Kawirikawiri timamva kuti anzathu omwe timaphunzira nawo m'kalasi komanso ochepa kwambiri amacheza kale ndipo akulera ana. Koma anthu opusa oyamba ndi kukongola koyamba, umunthu wodabwitsa ndi zina zotero akupitirizabe kukhala yekha. Nchifukwa chiyani pali chododometsa chotero padziko lapansi? Nchifukwa chiyani amuna nthawi zambiri amasankha "mbewa zakuda" kuposa atsikana anzeru ndi zokongola?


Timasankha, amasankha ife

Kodi "mbewa imvi" ndi ndani? Awa ndi atsikana omwe samaima, amatsogolera moyo wamtendere komanso wamba. Choncho, zopempha zawo zimapiranso zosavuta ndi zofanana. Iwo samasowa mnyamata yemwe angagwire Kant, kuthamangira ku Tibet ndi kulumpha sparachute. Asungwana oterewa ndi okwanira kuti anali wachibadwa, anathandiza banja ndipo sanamukhumudwitse. Mwachidziwikire, amuna wamba, osapatsidwa matalente apadera ndi osangalatsa pa chinthu chodabwitsa m'moyo wathu, ndi zambiri. Ndipo masewera onse-okongola-okongola kwambiri kawiri konse ankayang'ana chimodzimodzi ndi anyamata awa, ndipo iwo ankamukonda iye. Koma iye mwiniwake anali wokwiya kwambiri ndi munthu woteroyo. Iye sanamve ubale wapadera wauzimu ndi iye. Ndipo asungwana omwe akufuna kukhala ndi moyo wowala komanso kukhala ndi mtendere wamkati, akuyang'anitsitsa ndi anzawo omwe si abambo okha, abambo ana komanso osamalira. Iwo akufunafuna moyo wawo wapamtima, munthu wapadera amene sangavutike nazo ndi kusungulumwa. Msungwana wotero amangochita zamisala kuchokera ku moyo woyerekeza ndi wosasangalatsa. Kawirikawiri, amayiwa amawasankhiratu ndi amuna, osati chifukwa chakuti amanyalanyaza za kukongola kapena malo. Ayi, chinthu chachikulu chosankhira ndicho lingaliro "kuti ndiyenera kukhala ndi chidwi mwa iye." Ndi mayi woterewa ndi ovuta kupeza anyamata omwe sangakhale osangalatsa kwambiri. Iwo amatenga nthawi yaitali komanso mosamala kwambiri, kuti asayanjane ndi maubwenzi opanda pake. Atsikana amenewa ndi bwino kukhala okha kusiyana ndi aliyense. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, munthu wina wochokera ku gulu la "amene ali woopsa" ndi amuna ndi abambo abwino. Koma kwa iye iwo sali osangalatsa zokwanira. Mtsikana amene ali ndi mnyamata woteroyo alibe chokambirana. Ndipo akazi awa nthawi zonse amafunikira kukambirana kokondweretsa. Popanda kukamba nkhani zapamwamba, akazi amangofota. Iwo sangakhoze kukhutira ndi momwe amawonera TV nthawizonse. Amafunika zambiri, zomwe amuna ambiri sangathe kupereka. Ndi chifukwa chake amathera nthawi yayitali. Bwerani, kuchokera kumbali zikuwoneka kuti palibe amene amamvetsera mtsikana wotere. Izo siziri choncho konse. Kungokhalira "otshivayut" achinyamata omwe sakuwakondwera nawo, kuti anthu oyandikana nawo sakuzindikira ngakhale kuyesera koteroko kuti aziyankhulana ndi mayiyo. Msungwana wotereyo ali bwino ku yoga, amawerenga buku lokhalapo, kapena amalemba ndakatulo kuposa momwe amachitira nthawi yake kwa mnyamata yemwe sali naye chidwi.

Mwa njira, musaiwale kuti amuna ambiri amaopa amayi oterewa. Poyang'ana zofuna zawo zosiyanasiyana, zilakolako ndi maloto, anyamatawo amayamba kupunthwa pamaso pa atsikana omwewa. Amaopa kuti adzangokhalirana kukondana, chifukwa ndi mkazi wotereyo nthawi zonse amafunika kukhala wanzeru, kulenga, kuwerenga bwino, kasupe ndi malingaliro ena ndipo osangotengeka. Choncho, anyamata akuganiza kuti kwa iwo moyo wotere ukhoza kukhala wovuta kwambiri ndikupita kumbali. Ngakhale mumtima mwathu ambiri amakhala ngati atsikana apadera komanso osadziwika. Koma mmalo mosankha munthu amene amawakonda, anyamata amasankha kulumikiza miyoyo yawo ndi "mbewa imvi". Inde, atsikana oterewa ndi osavuta. Amafuna zochepa kwambiri, amatsogolera moyo wokhazikika. Ndili nawo, mungathe kukhala patsogolo pa TV kwa maola ambiri ndikusewera masewera a pakompyuta, osasokoneza gyrus kapena fantasy yanu. Ndi amayi oterewa ndi omasuka kwambiri kumanga banja. Ndipo amuna ambiri amafunikira chitonthozo ichi. Tihoni samakangana ndi kukangana. Zikuwoneka zomveka bwino, ngakhale kuti anthu awa nthawi zambiri amatsekedwa. Iwo sakonda kukambirana kwakukulu ndi kumenyana. Ndi kosavuta kuti iwo akhale chete kusiyana ndi kuyamba kufotokoza ubale wawo. Iwo, mofanana ndi atsikana ena, amaganiza kuti mwamuna ayenera kuwawamvetsa popanda mawu, koma iwo sadzanena ndipo adzakhala chete kusiyana ndi kukhazikitsa vuto.

Ndipo komabe, monga sizomveka kuvomereza, amuna ambiri ndi amantha mokwanira. Amawopa mavuto omwe angabwere kuchokera kwa amai omwe ali ndi malingaliro awo ndipo amawona pazochitika zonse. Kuchokera mu lingaliro lakuti mayi akhoza kutsutsa malingaliro awo, samavomereza kuwatenga iwo, ndi zina zotero, anyamata amangochita mantha. Amafuna kudziyesa okha kupyolera mwa magawo awo, osati nthawi zonse kufufuza ndi kudzikonzekera okha kuti athe kukangana mofanana ndi wophunzira. Ayi, anyamata achikunja awa sali okonzeka kupita. Ndi kosavuta kuti afotokoze moyo kwa munthu yemwe angakhale chete kapena kugwirizana ndi chirichonse. Awa ndi "mbewa imvi". Nthawi zambiri amapita panjira ya chitukuko chamkati, amakhala ndi chidwi ndi chinachake chachilendo ndi zina zotero. Komanso, atsikanawa sangatchedwe kuti ndi oipa. Iwo ndi abwino, okoma mtima, azachuma. Kwa amayi otere, moyo wa banja-ntchito-ntchito ndi yachibadwa komanso yolondola. Inde, ndi moyo umene umakhala ndi anzeru, akazi oopsya, akazi oterewa si ochititsa chidwi. Ndicho chifukwa chake amuna amakopeka ku knim. Atayang'ana msungwana wodekha komanso wodekha, mnyamatayu akudalira kuti sadzachita chilichonse chodabwitsa, sadzapereka chilichonse chochita misala ndipo sadzasangalatsidwa ndi winawake yemwe ali wochenjera, wodalirana komanso wokondweretsa kuposa wosankhidwa wake. Ndi amayi oterewa, amuna samasowa kugwira. Amakhala mwamtendere, moyo wamba wa Millionaire akusangalala. Amakondwera ndi zilakolako zawo, chifukwa adakwatira ndipo anabala ana. Kawirikawiri, nthawi zambiri, atsikanawa safunikira. Kotero aliyense amawoneka kuti ndi wokondwa ndi wokondwa, ndiwo mtundu wa moyo umene sukugwirizana ndi amayi omwe akufuna kuti atenge chirichonse, osati kukhala okhutira ndi mbewu.

Ngati simukukhala chete

Ngati mukuganiza kuti chifukwa chiyani anthu odekha ali ofulumira kukwatira, ndipo simuli, ndipo mukuyesera kupeza nokha mtundu wina - simungathe kuchita. Munthu aliyense amakhala moyo wake. Simungakhale ngati "imvi". Choncho, musadzinyese nokha. Izi sizinthu zopempha zanu, anthu ophweka ndi aulesi ndipo safuna kuchita chilichonse. Ndipo simukusowa kukhala wofanana ndi ambiri, chifukwa simunakhalepo imvi, choncho musakhale nawo tsopano. Khalani ndi chisangalalo chonse, kondwerani moyo wanu, ndipo khulupirirani ine, tsiku lina mudzakumana ndi munthu yemwe adzagawana zofuna zanu ndipo akufuna kukhala ndi moyo pafupi ndi inu. Ndipo pamene sichiri, chitani zomwe munalota komanso osadandaula. Kuti tikhale monga ambiri, sizikutanthawuza kukhala bwino.