Ndipo kutengeka uku sikuwononga osati kokha umunthu waumunthu, komanso ubale, wotchedwa - chikondi. Anthu ambiri amaona kuti nsanje ndi mphamvu ya chikondi. Koma, mosiyana, nsanje ndizofooka zambiri.
Chifukwa chachikulu cha nsanje - kusunga wokondedwa, chifukwa cha kusatetezeka. Kusakhulupirira kwa mnzanu. Kodi pali chikondi chenicheni popanda chikhulupiriro? Nsanje - zikutanthauza kulingalira chikondi chako ngati katundu, mungathe kunena chinthu chenicheni, chomwe chimaletsedwa kuyang'ana, chomwe chiyenera kukhala chocheperapo ndipo musachoke m'munda wa mwiniwakeyo. Nsanje ndi mantha a kusungulumwa, zikutanthawuza kuopa kuti musataye wokondedwa wanu okha, koma makamaka mantha onse pokhala nokha. Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe zingayambitse nsanje ndi kudziletsa. Wokondedwa akamakusintha. Mwadzidzidzi, zimandiwunikira kuti ndimatha kuchita izi, choncho munthu wapafupi akhoza kuchita chiwonongekochi. Choncho, zikutanthauza kuti chitetezo chabwino kwambiri ndi kuukira.
Nanga nchiyani chomwe chimachititsa nsanje kwambiri? Pamene zikutanthawuza, nsanje, imabweretsa chilakolako pamodzi ndi kumverera kosauka ndi zofuna zathu zomwe zimakhala ndi ife. Ngati chikondi chigawidwa kukhala wodzikonda komanso osakhudzidwa. Nsanje ija, ichi ndi chiyanjano cha chikondi chodzikonda. Ndi chifukwa cha kudzikonda komwe anthu amapereka ufulu wa malingaliro ndi zochita za munthu wina, akufuna kuti azigonjetsa masewera awo a masewera. Monga akunena, palibe chikondi popanda nsembe. Izi zikugogomezeranso kuti chikondi ndi nsanje ndizozigawo ziwiri. Koma, mwa chikondi cha mtundu uwu, aliyense amadzikonda yekha.
Ena amasirira nsanje monga chikondi chokhalitsa maubwenzi, kukakamiza hafu yawo kuti ivutike ndi kuzunzika kwa nsanje. Kawirikawiri, anthu ofooka ndi ofooka chifukwa cha nsanje amakhala zowonongeka ndi zowonongeka, chifukwa nsanje ndizolimbikitsa kwambiri maganizo a munthu. Phunzirani kugwiritsira ntchito chikondi, osagwiritsa ntchito ndipo musayesere kuyesayesa, mwadala mukuchititsa nsanje - chikondi ndi chofunika kwambiri. Ndi nsanje yomwe ndi nthawi yachinyengo pamene imanenedwa kuti kuchokera pa chikondi kupita ku chidani gawo limodzi.
Nanga bwanji ngati mnzanu kapena mnzanuyo ali ndi nsanje? Choyamba, musapereke chifukwa cha nsanje. Ndipo ngati ali ndi nsanje akhoza kuoneka wopanda chifukwa - phunzirani kupereka chitsimikizo chabwino, m'mawu, monga: "Ndimakukondani ndipo sindikusowa aliyense. Sindingasinthe! Inu mwa ine mosiyana ndi ine »Khalani kuti panthawi iliyonse chilakolako cha nsanje chichepetse. Musataye popanda kusiya zigawo zanu. Ndi nsanje, muyenera kusamala, chifukwa zochita zawo sizingatheke. Koma ngati m'kupita kwanthawi nsanje sichichepetse, pomwepo nsanje iyi ili kale kwambiri, yofanana ndi psychosis. Mwinamwake, mu nkhaniyi, ubalewu suyenera kupitilira. Kodi mungathe kukhala ndi moyo pamene mumatsutsidwa nthawi zonse za uchimo, mwakuza kwanu kosalakwa?
Kuchotsa nsanje sikophweka ngati momwe anthu ambiri amaganizira. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti, simungaganizire munthu wanu malo - ndizofunikira kwambiri. Kondwerani kuti wokondedwa pafupi ndi inu, phunzirani, ayamikireni mphindi iliyonse ya moyo wanu ndipo musamukwiyitse ndi nsanje yosasinthika, nthawi zina. Chifukwa cha nsanje, kuchokera ku chikondi chenicheni, kuchotsa zovuta sikophweka, koma musalole kuti zidziwononge zokha. Nsanje imeneyo siipambana pa chikondi, khulupirirani chikondi chochuluka ndipo yendani nawo limodzi mogwirizana. Samalani chikondi ndi nsanje, mwinamwake, zidzachoka kwa inu.