Mu moyo wa mkazi aliyense pali malo a malingaliro amisala, omwe amatchedwa chikondi, koma kodi ndizotheka kotani kuti akwaniritse chikondi chenicheni cha mkazi aliyense? Ndipo kodi mungakonde chikondi chenicheni kangapo m'moyo wanu? Ndipo momwe mungamvetse kuti apa iye anabwera chikondi, yemwe ife tinkafuna?
Iwo amanena kuti chikondi chenicheni chimapezeka kamodzi kokha m'moyo, ndiye sichiiwalika moyo wonse, chikhoza kukhala chimodzimodzi kapena chosayimilira, koma chiri chenicheni, koma ambiri amanena mosiyana kuti iwo ankakonda kangapo mmoyo, ankakonda chimodzimodzi, ndipo ankaopa kutaya olimba mofanana. Ambiri akhoza kusokoneza chilakolako ndi chilakolako ndi chikondi, koma chikondi si chilakolako osati chisangalalo. Chilakolako ndi chilakolako zimatha kutha, ndipo chikondi chikhalabe kwa zaka zambiri kukumbukira ngati malo owala.
Kapena mutha kukonda kangapo mmoyo wanu, koma anthu osiyana ali ndi chikondi chosiyana. Chikondi sichingafanane, sikutheka kuti anthu awiri azikumana nawo. Ndipo mwayi wokomana ndi chikondi chenicheni ndi aliyense, ndipo mwayi ndi wofanana kwa aliyense, koma siyense amene angakhoze kuwona ndikuwona chikondi chawo ndikugwiritsa ntchito mwayi wawo. Chifukwa chakuti wina ali wotanganidwa kuganiza za momwe aliri yekha komanso momwe aliri wosauka, palibe yemwe amamufuna iye ndi mtima wake amene amadzimvera chisoni, amakonda kuwamvera chisoni, ndipo sawona chikondi chake. Ndipo wina ali wotanganidwa ndi ntchito yake kuntchito, onse mu bizinesi, ndipo sakuwona chikondi chake, sangathe kuiwala za achibale ake. Ndipo wina akhoza kuthamanga kuchoka ku zoopsa kwambiri, kuchoka ku "chikondi" kwa wina, poopa kusowa chikondi chenicheni, chomwe sichiwona ndi kuphonya, nthawi zonse chidzafuna zabwino, koma zotsatira zake sizidzapeza. Chikondi sichikhala ndi makhalidwe omwe angadziwike, ndi chosiyana ndi chosiyana, aliyense amakonda m'njira zawo. Inu nokha muyenera kumvetsa zomwe mumakonda. Ngakhale pamene munthu amakana kuti sakonda, koma amangokonda, akhoza kukhala olakwika.
Chikondi sichinthu chabwino, monga ambiri amakhulupirira, motero amadziwa kuti "chikondi sichiyenera, koma ngakhale." Chikondi chili ndi nkhope yosiyana, ndipo ili ndi maonekedwe osiyanasiyana. Osati nthawi zonse zomwe timalota usiku, ndi kuzilemba mu diary, ndikujambula nkhope zake ndi zolembera zamakono. Ayi, nthawi zonse samakhala ndi maso a buluu, ndi brunette woyaka ndi maso obiriwira, komanso ndi thupi lopukuta lopukuta limene limawoneka kuti latuluka kumeneku. Amatha kukhala munthu wamba, osamvetsetseka maso a imvi ndi ubweya wochepa wautali, koma ndi mzimu wosakonda uchi. Ndipo ngakhalenso ngati sizigwirizana ndi msinkhu wotere, nanga chiani? Zimakwera kwa zanu, ndipo pamwambapo zidzakweza zonse zokha ndi inu. Ndipo kwa ife maganizo a anthu ndi ofunika kwambiri, zomwe anansi athu anganene, kaya wosankhidwa wanga adzakonda ena. Nthawi zina timasamalira maganizo a ena kuti timaiwala maganizo athu, timayiwala zakumverera, timaiwala chilichonse. Pa nthawi imeneyo simukuyenera kumvetsera maganizo a anthu, muyenera kumvetsera kwa mtima wanu komanso kumvetsera maganizo a okondedwa anu. Nthawi zambiri timachoka ku chikondi chathu, chifukwa sichigwirizana ndi zomwe timachita, ndipo sitinayambe kuyendetsa kavalidwe ndi nkhope zomwe timayika pakhomo la mtima wathu.
Ponena za "kumenya" - kumatanthauza, kukonda "sikuli koyenera nthawi zonse. Anthu omwe ali ndi zolakwika mu psyche amatha kukondana ndikugwirizana. Anthu oterewa angawoneke mwachibadwa ndipo samasiyana mosiyana ndi anthu wamba, koma mbali zawo m'malingaliro a psyche zimasiyana, monga pofotokozera chifundo ndi chikondi chawo. Inde, chikondi ndi chosiyana, zonse ziri ndizokha, ndi anthu angati omwe amakhala padziko lapansi, monga mitundu yonse ya chikondi ilipo padziko lapansi. Zikhoza kukhala zachikondi komanso zovuta, zowoneka bwino komanso zowonongeka, zokhuthala ndi zamphepo, zokhumba ndi zokhazikika, zoletsedwa ndi zachilendo, zachikondi ndi zam'dziko - koma zirizonse, tonse timadziwa kukonda. Chikondi sichikhala ndi zikhalidwe zinazake. Chikondi monga momwe mumadziwira ndi momwe mungathere. Aliyense ali ndi mwayi woposa 100 wokomana nacho chikondi chenicheni, osachiphonya icho. Khalani omasuka kukonda, musaope, ndipo zidzakufikirani. Chinthu chachikulu ndikutha kudikirira ndikuganiza kuti simukudziwa momwe mungakonde. Ife tonse tikudziwa momwe.