Simudzakhulupirira, koma mkangano ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri pa chiyanjano chilichonse. N'zosatheka kugawana moyo wanu ndi wina ndipo mulibe mikangano, ngakhale yotsutsana kwambiri. Chabwino, monga: "Ndani lero akutulutsa zinyalala?" Koma kungokhalirana mokondana si njira yabwino yopezera chiyanjano. Mwina mudzadabwa kuona kuti pali malamulo a mkangano, maganizo a kuthetsa mikangano. Podziwa kukangana molondola, pokhala mutatha nthawi komanso moyenera kupereka zifukwa, mukhoza kulimbitsa ubwenzi wanu, m'malo mowapangitsa kukhala ovuta kwambiri. Nkhaniyi ikupereka malamulo khumi omwe amachititsa kuti anthu ayambe kukangana, zomwe zingakhale zopindulitsa kuphunzira popanda aliyense.
1. Musanyoze!
Zomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri: M'kati mwa moto timayamba kunyozana wina ndi mzake ndi kunena zinthu zomwe, moona, sitinkafuna kunena konse.
Zomwe muyenera kuchita : Ganizirani pa funso limene mukuyesera kuthetsa, osati "kupita kwa munthu". Onetsetsani kuti mulibe mawu achipongwe m'mawu anu omwe angachoke pamatenda a nthawi yaitali.
Kuwuza mnzanuyo kuti ndi "yopanda pake, waulesi", mukudziyika nokha. Iye anaiwalika konse za nkhani ya mkanganoyo ndipo anayamba kukunyengerera. Inu nokha mudzakhala ndi mlandu. Komanso, pamene kutentha kumatha, simudzakhala womasuka, ndipo zidzakhala zovuta kuti mugonjetse malingaliro awa. Kutsutsana sikudzakhala kopanda phindu. Ubale ukhoza kugwedezeka kwambiri.
2. Musasinthe mivi.
Zomwe zimachitika nthawi zambiri: Timayambitsa mkangano ndi vuto lenileni, ndipo mwadzidzidzi: "Ndipo mwadzidzidzi munandipatsa mankhwala osapindula chaka chatha, ndipo mchemwali wanu ali chete, ndipo dzulo munamukakamiza galu pakhomo ..." Ndipo chofunika kwambiri mavuto amatayika potsiriza. Mtsutso umasanduka squabble wosalingalira.
Zomwe mungachite, mmalo mwake: Mukamakangana pazinthu zenizeni, onetsetsani kuti mukuchita zomwezo. Khalani owona mtima, nenani zomwe zikukuvutitsani inu. Bweretsani vuto kwa mnzanuyo, osasokoneza ziphuphu zopusa, zopanda pake.
Pokhapokha mutasintha funso limodzi, mutha kukhala ogwirizana kusiyana ngati mutasokonezedwa ndi zinthu zina zambiri.
3. Musataye cholinga chachikulu.
Zomwe zimachitika nthawi zambiri: Timayesa kutsimikizira chinachake, osadziwa chomwe tikufuna kukwaniritsa. Zili ngati kuyenda mu bwalo kapena osadziwa nthawi yoti muime.
Chochita, mmalo mwake: Musanayambe kukambirana, yesetsani kufotokoza cholinga chake chachikulu. Ganizirani za zotsatira zamapeto ndipo, mwinamwake, mudzasiya mkangano poyamba. Cholingacho chiyenera kukhala, mwinamwake kusamvana uku kumangokhala cholepheretsa kuti ubale ukhale wolimba. Sangathe kukupatsani chilichonse chamtengo wapatali, chomwe chingakupatseni "kukangana".
4. Khalani opepesa.
Zomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri: Ife tikuyang'ana olakwa kulikonse, koma osati mwa ife tokha. Ife sitimatenga udindo pa zokambirana zathu ndipo nthawi yomweyo timakwiya pa lingaliro la kulakwa kwathu.
Chochita, mmalo mwake: Izi siziri kupepesa asanayambe mkangano. Chifukwa chakuti mwadala mwayambitsa kukangana ndi kupepesa, inu potero mumathetsa yankho la vutoli. Ndipo vuto lomwelo lidzatsala.
Komabe, ngati mutagwirizana, sizikupweteka kunena "Pepani." Mawu awa adzatanthawuza kwambiri kwa mnzanuyo ndikuthandizani kuti ubale wanu ukhale wodalirika.
5. Osati ndi ana!
Zomwe zimachitika nthawi zambiri: Nthawi zina timakhumudwa kwambiri kuti timadzipangitsa kuti tifuule kwa mwamuna, ngakhale kuti anawo ali m'chipinda.
Zomwe mungachite mmalo mwake: Ngakhale mukuganiza kuti funsoli ndi lofunikira - dikirani mpaka ana anu atagona kapena achoke kunyumba. Mwana, ngati ali wamng'ono, nthawi zonse amadzudzula yekha chifukwa cha kukangana pakati pa amayi ndi abambo ake. Ndipo kwa ana achikulire, mikangano siimapereka chirichonse chabwino. Makamaka ngati izi zikuchitika nthawi zonse.
Chofunika kwambiri cha chinthuchi ndi chakuti pamene mukuyembekezera kuti achoke m'chipinda, mudzakhala ndi nthawi yokhala chete. Mavuto adzapeza dongosololi, mudzakhala ndi nthawi yolondola. Zonsezi zingakupangitseni kuti "musamenyane" pang'ono.
6. Kutalika kumwera.
Zomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri: Pakapita magalasi angapo, timadziletsa tokha komanso mkhalidwe. Kusamvana kumakula mosavuta kumenyana koyipa ndipo ngakhale, nthawizina, koipitsitsa. Sitikukambirana zakumangirira kulimbikitsana pankhaniyi.
Zomwe mungachite, mmalo mwake: Ngati mkangano uli mowa, mukakhala pang'ono, yesetsani kuthetsa. Dikirani mpaka tsiku lotsatira, pamene inu nonse mudzakhala oganiza bwino. Mu milandu 9 kuchokera pa makangano khumi pa zakumwa zoledzeretsa kupita ku zabwino musawatsogolere.
Mfundo zowonjezereka kwambiri zothetsa mkangano zimawonekera makamaka pambuyo pa magalasi angapo a vinyo kapena mowa - ndipo kawirikawiri ndizovuta koposa zonse zomwe munayamba mwakhala nazo. Monga mowa umakhudzidwa ndi kutalika kwanu, ntchito ya mawu ndi zolembera, zimakhudzanso luso lanu lochita chilichonse.
7. Yang'anani wina ndi mnzake.
Zomwe zimachitika nthawi zambiri: Pa mkangano timayendayenda panyumba, nthawi zambiri osati mu chipinda chimodzi.
Chochita, mmalo mwake: Yesetsani kukhala pa gome la chakudya kapena pabedi ndikukambirana za vuto lanu. Kusunga maso maso, sikungakhale kovuta kunena chinachake chopanda pake. Kuphatikizanso apo, muwona momwe mnzanuyo akuchitira m'mawu anu.
Ubwino winanso: kukhala, anthu amakonda kulankhula mokweza pang'ono. Zokambirana zanu zidzamveka popanda kufuula, mungapindule ndi mawu ochepa omwe "akuphwanya".
8. Tengani phindu.
Zomwe zimachitika nthawi zambiri: Timalira ndi kufuula, mpaka tonse titembenuka buluu ndikupitirizabe maola angapo.
Chochita, mmalo mwake: Imani ndi kutenga nthawi yochuluka. Palibe lamulo lomwe likunena kuti nthawi zonse muyenera kugwirizana. Ndibwino kuti mupange mobwerezabwereza ndikubwerera ku nkhaniyi m'maola angapo, kapena mawa.
Chinthu chokha chimene simuyenera kuiwala kuchita ndicho kutsimikiza kuti mubwereranso ndikusankha kutsutsana. Cholinga cha kupuma sayenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito ngati chofukwa chothetsera kuthetsa pa chirichonse!
9. Fufuzani kuyanjana.
Zomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri: Timangosonyeza malingaliro athu, osati kumvetsera maganizo a mnzanuyo. Mphukira imasandulika kukhala wopambana, kutsanulira zolakwa.
Kodi ndichite chiyani mmalo mwake: Poyamba, nenani nokha (ndiwe amene munayambitsa mkangano), ndiyeno ndiloleni ndiyankhule kwa wina. Funsani mafunso nokha, yesetsani kukambirana momveka bwino za vutoli. Ndi njira iyi yokha yomwe mungagwirire ndi malingaliro ofanana. Kusagwirizana ndi cholinga chachikulu cha mikangano yonse padziko lapansi.
10. Osatiopseza!
Zomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri: Zoonadi, sizozolowereka, koma zimachitika. Mutha kuyamba kumenyana ndi mnzanuyo: "Ngati ayi ... ndiye ndikuchotsani inu, chotsani mwanayo, simudzamuona!" Pali zina zomwe mungachite.
Zimene mungachite m'malo mwake: Zonse zomwe zanenedwa pamwambapa. Musaope konse! Ichi si njira yopulumukira, koma kokha kokha komweko kumayambitsa mkwiyo, chiwawa ndi kusayera. Mukhoza kanthawi "kugogoda" chigonjetso mu mkangano, koma iye, ndikukhulupirira ine, adzakhala moyo waufupi ndipo sikudzakubweretsani kukhutira. Mapeto a mikangano yotereyo nthawizonse ndi ofanana - kusiyana. Musabweretse ku izi!
Kutsutsana molondola ndi luso. Koma, pozindikira malamulo osavuta tsiku limodzi, mudzasunga mitsempha yanu ndi mgwirizano wanu kwa nthawi yaitali. Simungataye abwenzi ndipo musamakangane ndi achibale anu. Ndipo ichi ndi chinthu chachikulu mu moyo wa aliyense wa ife.