... Koma kusungulumwa kuli kokongola kwambiri
Pali magulu angapo komanso zinthu zomwe zimakhala zofunikira kwambiri. Ndi liti pamene tifunika kukhala tokha ndi ife eni? Choyamba, pamene pali mavuto kapena vuto liri kucha: kaya ntchitoyo sichikondweretsa, kapena si yoyenera ndi thanzi. Zikuwoneka, bwanji mukukhala nokha ndi mavuto anu? Ndipotu, ena angathandize, asokoneze. Kusokoneza - inde, koma mukufunikira kupanga chisankho, koma pazimene muyenera kuganizira mosamala, kuwonetsa, kuikapo chidwi. N'zotheka kokha payekha: kuyesa zopindulitsa ndi zowononga, kuthana ndi zowawa, popanda kukumana ndi mavuto omwe ena amawamasulira mwaufulu ndi mwachangu. Kuti azindikire zochitika zawo, maola ammawa ndi abwino, mwachitsanzo, mukadutsa mbali ya njira yogwirira ntchito. Koma madzulo, kudzipenda koteroko kungalepheretse kugona.
Kusungulumwa kwachinsinsi ndi tanthauzo la moyo kwa ambiri a ife , koma nthawi zina zimathandiza mukakwiya kwambiri. Ziribe kanthu kuti ndani amene amachititsa kuganiza kolakwika. Maganizo ali ndi malo oyenera kufalitsidwa, ife, monga momwe, timakhudzira ena ozungulira. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, mutakhala ndi anthu, n'zovuta kubwera mwamtendere wa m'maganizo. Mukuyesa kuti zonse zili bwino, ndipo mumakhumudwa kwambiri. Tulutsani chirichonse kunja, ndipo mkangano umatha.
Malingana ndi chiwerengero, amuna am'banja amakhala zaka khumi kupitirira amuna osakwatira. Akazi alibe ubale woterewu, ndipo ambiri omwe akhala akutalika nthawi yaitali sanakwatiranepo. Motero zimakhala kuti amayi omwe ali ndi mbali zosiyana zogonana pamodzi amachititsa kuti azikhala olimba kwambiri, owopsa ku thanzi. Kotero, kuti tithe kukonzanso dongosolo lamanjenje, timangoyenda ndikukhala nokha nthawi ndi nthawi, moyenera, kukhala payekha kwa wokondedwa, ngakhale wokondedwa kwambiri.
Kodi mukufuna kusinkhasinkha? Kupumula kwathunthu kwa thupi, kupumula ku malingaliro ndi zowona zowonjezereka - iwe ukhoza kukwaniritsa izi pokhapokha mutasiya kudzisamalira nokha, kuyang'anira khalidwe lanu. Pamene tikuzunguliridwa ndi anthu ena, ndizosatheka kuti tichite izi - tidzakhalabe osadziwa kuti: "Kodi ena amaganiza chiyani za ine?" Inde, pali masewera apadera omwe amakupatsani mwayi wopuma pantchito popanda kusiya gulu. Mwachitsanzo, taganizirani kuti pakati pa inu ndi anzanu muli khoma lopanda galasi. Mukhoza kutseka mwakuya kwathunthu, kuti musamve kalikonse, ndipo panthawiyi mukonzekere nokha zosangalatsa. Koma chimodzimodzi, ndi bwino ngati chinsinsi chiri chenichenicho: ngakhale kwa mphindi zitatu za kupumula kwathunthu mudzakhala ndi malipiro abwino ndikupumula. Inde, ndi anzanu simukudabwa kuti chifukwa chiyani, mukumwetulira mokondwera, yang'anani mfundo imodzi.
Pomalizira, munthu yemwe ali ndi malire olankhulana angathe kupindula kwambiri. Kusungulumwa ndimene zimalimbikitsa mphamvu zowonetsera komanso kudzikuza. Kusungulumwa aliyense amagwiritsidwa ntchito, chifukwa kusungulumwa ndi tanthauzo la moyo kwa ambiri a ife. Ndipo zimapindulitsa podzipereka ndi kudzikakamiza kukhala yekha, pamene, mwachitsanzo, muli kutsutsana ndi anthu apamtima. Izi ndi chifukwa choletsedwa zosowa. Ndikufuna kuti uyankhule ndi winawake, kuseka, kwinakwake kupita kapena kukonda, osati ndi wina aliyense. Izi zimayambitsa nkhanza yoyamba, kenako - kukwiya komanso, pamapeto pake - kuchepa kwa maganizo ndi kusasamala. Ndiyeno mumadzifunsa nokha kuti: "Ndizokwanira." Tiyenera kuchita chinachake! " - ndipo yambani kuyang'ana mozama pa khalidwe lanu, kupita ndi mphamvu kuti musinthe, ndi kupeza njira yothetsera vutoli. Ndipotu, kukhala nokha kumathandiza pokhapokha mutaganizira mosamala, mwaulere, ndipo muli ndi maziko omveka bwino, kuphatikizapo nthawi yochepa. Apo ayi, dziko lino lidzasanduka mbali yina - kusungulumwa.
O, kusungulumwa, momwe khalidwe lanu lirili lozizira!
Kusungulumwa ndi kusowa kwa kuyankhulana komanso kudzichepetsa. Ndipo ngati kupatukana kwa anthu kumatenga nthawi yaitali (kotero kuti munthu ayamba kuzindikira kuti izi ndizovuta), ndiye kuti vuto loipa lidzasinthidwa ndi kuvutika ndi kuvutika maganizo. Munthu wosakwatiwa amatha kuzindikira mosavuta ngakhale m'magulu: makona ake a milomo amatsika, makwinya, nkhope yotumbululuka ndi kubwezeretsa kumbuyo kumawonetseredwa mwamphamvu kwambiri. Katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi wolemba buku la "Broken Heart: Zotsatira za Zamankhwala Zopweteka" James Lynch akutsimikizira kuti munthu wosungulumwa kwambiri amakhala wosatetezeka ku kachilombo ka HIV, ndipo amatha kukhala ndi chiopsezo chotenga matenda osiyanasiyana, kuphatikizapo mtima. Ndipo ngakhale matenda a chilengedwe, malinga ndi asayansi, amachokera ku maganizo awo okhudzana ndi kusungulumwa: kukhumudwa, kunyozedwa, kudziimba mlandu.
Osati kale kwambiri, akatswiri a zamaganizo a anthu, kuphunzira za mavuto a kusungulumwa, amayesa kuyesera pa mbewa. Mitsuko ingapo idabzalidwa m'sitima yopanda kanthu ndipo inafika kwa iwo kwa mwezi umodzi kuti apereke chakudya. Gulu lina la mbewa linatsogolera moyo wamba, kuyankhulana ndi oyandikana nawo m'khola, kuseketsa ndi makwerero ndi zina zamathoyi. Ndiye mbewa zonse zinali ndi kachilombo ka HIV. Mwa iwo omwe ankakhala pamodzi, ngakhale aliyense anali ndi kachilombo, ndipo ena onse mwamsanga anachira. Koma odwala okhawo anali odwala kwambiri, ali ndi mavuto komanso akufa ambiri. Kutsilizitsa: ngakhale mbewa zimafuna munthu woti akhalepo, panthawi yake kuti asakanize ubweya wake ndi kumangirira chinthu cholimbikitsa. Kodi tinganene chiyani za anthu!
Kodi mukufuna kulankhula? Dinani apa!
Mwinamwake chipulumutso mwa kulankhulana kwenikweni? Mafilimu a dziko lapansi adayambanso ku Ulaya: 43 peresenti ya ogwiritsa ntchito Intaneti nthawi zonse amayendera zinthu zomwe amakonda. Ndipo zimawoneka zachilendo kulankhula za kusungulumwa, ngati mungathe kulankhulana ndi aliyense komanso nthawi iliyonse. Ndipotu, miyezi yokha 3-4 yokha munthu amakhala wokhutira ndi kulankhulana koteroko, kumverera kwa moyo wangwiro. Ndiye pakubwera kutopa ndi kukhumudwa. Amene adayambitsa pepala osati chidwi (fufuzani anzanu akale, onani yemwe anakhala ndani), kudandaula za izi. Koma anthu omwe ayesa kuthawa njira imeneyi kuchokera ku kusungulumwa ali oipitsitsa. Pa mbali imodzi, kumabwera kumvetsetsa kuti tikuyenera kukhutira ndi chidziwitso chokha cholankhulana, pamzake - pali kudalira: palibe wina. Mu 1995, Randy Conrad, yemwe adayambitsa makompyuta oyambirira, sanayembekezere kuti vutoli lidzakhalepo: "Mabungwe ayenera kulimbikitsa zokondwerero za anthu, kulimbikitsa, komabe nthawi zambiri amalowetsa m'malo mwake."
Televizioni imachitanso chilichonse kuti ipulumutse anthu kuti asakhale okha, mpaka atapambana. Zochitika zenizeni zikuwonetsa, kulankhulana ndi owonetsa mlengalenga, ndi kumbuyo-mndandanda mndandanda - zonsezi zimapereka kokha kanthawi kokhalapo, kugwirizana. Ngakhale ife tiri pamwambamwamba wa zinyama, tidakali ake. Kotero, kuti tigwirizane ndi ife eni ndi chikhalidwe, tilibe chochita ndi kulankhulana komweko. Ziribe kanthu kuchuluka kwa momwe tikugwiritsira ntchito mbewa, zidzakhala zoipa komanso zosungulumwa kwa ife. Timafunikira anthu amoyo kuti tiwawone maso, kumva maonekedwe awo, kuona manja, kumva kukhudza. Chifukwa chake, pokhala osungulumwa kwathunthu ndi kulandira kuchokera kwa iye phindu lonse, tiyeneranso kupita kunja kudziko ndi kumanga ubale ndi ena. Ndiponsotu, kulankhulana kwabwino kungakhale kosangalatsa kwambiri.
Ndi chiyani chomwe mungasunge "chimodzi pa chimodzi"?
Pali zinthu zomwe aliyense wa ife angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi kusungulumwa kapena ... kusangalala kukhala payekha pa nthawi yozizira yamadzulo. Ambiri amakhala ndi kusungulumwa. Kodi ambiri amatha kukhala osungulumwa? Mwamwayi, inde. Koma mungathe kulimbana nawo.
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