Chikondi chimaperekedwa ku ndakatulo zambiri, ndakatulo, mabuku, mafilimu. Ndipo muzojambula zonsezi pali zokambirana za chikondi chimene munthu amakhala nacho m'moyo wake wonse. Koma kodi zili choncho? Kodi timakonda kamodzi kokha, kapena kodi ndi chinyengo chabe chokhazikitsidwa ndi alengi a atsikana achichepere?
Kodi chikondi n'chiyani?
N'zovuta kuyankha molondola komanso mosaganizira za chikondi. Uku ndikumverera kwapadera komwe sitingathe kufotokoza m'mawu. Koma ngati nthawi zonse mumayesa, ndiye kuti chizindikiro chachikulu cha chikondi sichifuna kutaya munthu uyu. Pali pafupifupi zofuna zathu kuti iye akhalepo. Ndipo sikumangopita kukhudza thupi. Zotsatira-sizikutanthauza kukhala nthawi zonse m'chipinda chimodzi. Kukhala wotsatira ndiko kukhala wa uzimu wauzimu, kuyitana, kulumikizana, kungomva kuti munthu uyu ali m'moyo wathu. Koma ngati tinena kuti chikondi chadutsa, ndiye kuti tikuweruza kuti maganizo oterewa atha. Kotero ziri choncho, koma osati kwenikweni.
Chikondi chimapita nthawi zosiyanasiyana, koma ngati timasiya maganizo, ndiye kuti sikunali chikondi chenicheni. Chikondi chenicheni chimabwera kamodzi kapena kawiri pa moyo. Uku ndikumverera komwe sikungaiwalidwe konse. Ngakhale titadziuza tokha ndi anthu omwe ali pafupi nafe kuti chikondi chadutsa ndipo sitingakondenso munthu uyu, ndithudi pali gawo lachinyengo m'mawu athu. Nthawi zambiri, munthu akugwa chifukwa cha chikondi chifukwa chakuti ubalewo suli kuikidwa. Chifukwa cha ichi ndikumvetsetsa kuti simungathe kukhala pamodzi chifukwa cha zifukwa zina, kapena chifukwa chakuti munthuyo sanali chomwe inu mumaganiza kuti akhale.
Kodi kutanthauzanji kuleka kukonda? Izi zikutanthauza kuti ubongo wanu ukhale pamtima. Timapeza zifukwa zomveka zoiwala wina. Ndipo patapita nthawi, ife timasiya kuganizira za izo ndikukhalabe. Koma kuti tikhale owona mtima ndi ife eni, penapake mu kuya kwa moyo wathu tidzakhala ndi maganizo omwewo. Mwachidule, sitikukula ndi chithandizo cha misonkhano, maganizo atsopano ndi kuyankhulana. Sitikudzipatsani mwayi woti tiganizire za munthu uyu. Ndipo monga mukudziwira, ngati simukuganiza za chinachake, ndiye kuti zimakhala ndi nthawi. Inde, izo zimatha, koma sizichotsa kukumbukira. Ngati pali nthawi, kukhumudwa, kumverera kumayambiranso. Koma pokhapokha ngati munthu akuzindikira kuti idzawononga moyo wake, ndiye kuti ayesa nthawi yomweyo kuti agonjetse malingaliro ndi mtima wake komanso kuti asadzilole kuti apitirizebe kumverera. Izi zikutanthauza kuti okonda kale sangawonane kwa zaka makumi awiri, akhoza kupanga mabanja okondwa, koma ngati akakumananso ndipo sangakhale ndi malingaliro awo, ndiye chikondi chimabwerera, kapena kadzuka. Sizosadabwitsa, koma kumverera kwa chikondi kumakhalabe ngakhale kwa omwe tidawaphwanya chifukwa cha maganizo oipa. Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna adamuchitira mkazi kwambiri, ngakhale kumenyedwa ndipo, amathyola. Poyamba, mkwiyo ndi chidani zimatentha mmenemo, koma m'kupita kwa nthawi zimayiwalika, ngati, ndithudi, zabwino. Koma mu kuya kwa moyo kulibe chofunikira kuti munthuyu akhalepo.
Amati chikondi sichitha kulamulidwa, koma kwenikweni si choncho. Ikhoza kulamulidwa ngati palibe zinthu zamuyaya zomwe zimakhudza kumverera. Ndicho chifukwa chake anthu amayesa kuti asayankhulane konse kapena kuchepetsa kulankhulana ndi osachepera ndi anthu omwe amawakonda ndi omwe adagawanika nawo. Mwamuna ndi mkazi atha kukhala ndi abwenzi atachoka, zimangotanthauza kuti panalibe chikondi chenicheni pakati pawo. Anali wachifundo komanso chikondi, koma osati chikondi. Munthu akamakonda kwenikweni, sangakhale pafupi ndi chikondi, chifukwa kumverera kumayamba kutuluka. Choncho, ngati mwakulira ndi mwamuna ndikumupatsa ubwenzi, ndipo sangathe kuvomereza, ndiye kuti anakonda kwambiri ndipo amakukondani. Ndipo pozindikira kuti sakufuna kudzipweteka yekha kapena inu, amayesa kuchepetsa kuyankhulana kwanu, kuti wina asavutike. Ndipo ngakhale patapita zaka zambiri, adzachitanso chimodzimodzi. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti izo ziyamba kunyalanyaza, kunyalanyaza, kudziyesa kuti simukudziwa. Mwinamwake, mnyamatayo amadzilepheretsa yekha kulembera pazokondwerero ndi kukumana nawe pamsewu, adzakumwetulira kapena kukumbatirana, koma pambuyo pamsonkhanowu sadzatchula ndipo adzapereka kuti adzalankhulanenso, popeza akudziwa kuti iwo amene akugona mu moyo akhoza kudzuka nthawi iliyonse, ndipo inu nonse awiri sikofunikira konse.
Kukhulupirira Chikondi
Ndipo komabe, pamene timakonda kwambiri munthu, ndiye kuti nthawi zambiri timasuntha chikondi kwa munthu wotayika. Komanso, ife mosamala tikusankha china ichi kukhala chofanana ndi chikondi chathu. Zikuwoneka kuti timamukonda chifukwa cha makhalidwe ake, makamaka makhalidwe ake ndi zina zotero. Koma mu kuya kwa moyo wathu, tikuwona kufanana ndi munthu ameneyo. Chifukwa cha kufanana kwake, zikhoza kuwonedwa ndi ife. Izi zimachitika kuti anthu onse omwe akuzungulirani sakuvomerezani kuti wokondedwa wanu ali mwa njira yake yokha. Zikatero, misonkhano ndi anthu omwe timawakonda sichikhoza ngakhale kukhumudwitsa mtima, chifukwa timapitiriza kukonda munthu yemweyo mwanjira yomweyo, mwakhama watsopano, mwina ndi makhalidwe abwino. Ndi chikondi chomwe chimamveketsa chifukwa amayi ena amasankha mtundu umodzi wa munthu. Kapena mitundu yosiyana, yomwe khalidwe lake, mwazifukwa zina, limakhala lofanana kwambiri. Ena samadzivomereza okha kuti amayesa kupeza ena omwe adakonda kale. Chikondi chathu choyamba, chakuya ndi champhamvu, chimakhala ndi ife ku moyo wonse. Mwamwayi, anthu ochepa chabe ali ndi mwayi, ndipo amapeza mwayi wopita ndi wokondedwa wake mpaka kumapeto. Nthawi zambiri timayenera kubisa maganizo athu mozama, kudzipangitsa tokha kuti tayiwala za iwo ndikukhalabe. Komanso, tikhoza kulenga mabanja, kuyamikira ulemu ndikumva kufunika kwa anthu omwe ali ndi kemma mbali. Koma ngati mutamufunsa, munthuyo nthawi zambiri amati: "Ndimakonda chibwenzi changa (chibwenzi), ndizo zabwino kwambiri, koma ndikukumbukira momwe ndimakondera ..." Ndipo ndilo lomwe limakumbukira kukumbukira kwake, chikondi chake chenicheni. Ndipo, munthu uyu akhoza kukhala oposa zana kwambiri kuposa amene ali nawo tsopano. Ndipo iye sadzasintha konse mnyamata wamng'ono uyu. Koma malingaliro, amphamvu ndi okhudzidwa, omwe adachokera pamtima, osati kuchokera m'maganizo, adamuchitikira mwachindunji kwa munthu ameneyo, amene amakumbukira moyo wake wonse. Choncho, funso: kodi chikondi ndikumverera kwa moyo? - Mungathe kuyankha moyankha "inde", chifukwa chosiyana kwambiri, chodabwitsa kwambiri, chosakumbukika komanso chosakumbukika chimachitika kwa ife kamodzi kokha.