Malingana ndi akatswiri a maganizo, pali njira zina zonse zomwe zidzakuthandizira kusunga zaka zambiri, mgwirizano wa chilakolako. Akazi ndi ovuta kwambiri kusunga chilakolako, choncho, ngakhale kuthekera, ndalamazi ndizoyenera kwa amuna. Amathandizira nthawi zonse, ndipo sayenera kuchitiridwa nkhanza, chifukwa theka lachiwiri lingakuganizireni kuti ndinu wosakhulupirika. Ndiyeno, ngati akugwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi zonse, chidziwitso chakumverera chingatayike.
Mbale wogwirizana ndi wachikondi ndi mwamuna wake akhoza kupulumutsidwa kokha ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi ayesedwa chikondi ndi ulemu. Ndipo ngati palibe malingaliro oterowo, ndiye kuti ngakhale ngakhale njira zonse zakuthambo zonse zidzakuthandizira kuwunikira. Tiyeni tiwone mfundo.
1. Muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungalankhulirane wina ndi mzake kuti asamangobvomerezana, mawu ofunda awa ayenera kunenedwa moona mtima ndi mtima wangwiro. Pambuyo pa zonse, mwina pali chinachake mu theka lanu, mumayamikira chiyani? Kapena mungakonde maso ake, miyendo yake? Ngati muli ndi mtima wokulira, pamene mumawakonda mumakolo okongola, odabwitsa, muuzeni okondedwa anu za izo. Mwamuna angathe kutamandidwa chifukwa cha umunthu wake, chifukwa cha chisamaliro chake, chifundo chake, kuti apambane pa ntchito yake. Limbikitsani wokondedwa wanu, chifukwa adayenera mawu awa, palibe phokoso lililonse. Ndipo mawu okondweretsa awa akhoza kupanga chozizwitsa, theka lanu lidzasangalala, lidzasangalale, koma simunalifune?
2. Wokondwa kwambiri kukwaniritsa pempho la okondedwa awo. Ngati mufunsidwa kumvetsera, kumvetsera kapena kuvala, ndiye kuti kavalidwe kamene akufunayo sichiyenera kukanidwa, muzilemekeza achibale anu. Ndipo ngati adakwaniritsa pempho lanu, nthawizonse mumutamande chifukwa cha izo.
3. Yesetsani kudabwa. Kodi mwakhalako limodzi kwa zaka ndikudziwa zonse za wina ndi mzake? Kodi madzulo anu amapita mwanjira yomweyo? Ndipo mumapangira wokondedwa wanu chikondi chamakono chamakandulo. Ngati mumaikonda kuchokera kuntchito atatopa, yekani kusamba kwake kofiira ndi kusangalala, kanizani makandulo, yambani nyimbo yomwe mumakonda. Kondwerani wokondedwa wanu ndi zokonda zake zokometsera ayisikilimu kapena zokoma zokoma. Ngati mumagula mphatso yaing'ono, adzatha kulimbikitsa onse awiri, komanso kuti musasokonezeke ndi mphatso yomwe mwasankha, muyenera kufunsa pasadakhale ndikudziwongolera nokha, kukonzekera zodabwitsa kwa wokondedwa wanu.
4. Palibe amene alibe zolakwa, kapena mnzanuyo, kapena inu. Phunzirani kukhululukirana, kupatsana mpata wokonza, musaiwale kuti nthawi zambiri mumtsutso, monga lamulo, onsewo ndi omwe amakuimba mlandu.
Ndikofunika, nthawi yochuluka yomwe mungathe kuti muzigwiritsa ntchito. Ndi angati okwatirana atatha zaka zambiri akukhala limodzi angathe kugulitsa madzulo ndi mpira ndi mowa, kapena ndi abwenzi ndi abwenzi madzulo ndi theka lawo? N'zosakayikitsa, ngakhale akatswiri a maganizo amaganiza kuti ngakhale abwenzi ndi ofunikira, koma poyamba ayenera kukhala munthu wapafupi ndi banja. Nthawi zina mumatha kudya madzulo ndi anzanu ndikuyamba kukondana. Pambuyo pake, mwa ichi simungopereka kokha, komanso mupatseni wokondedwa wanu kuti amvetse kuti m'moyo wanu chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi iye.
Lembani mauthenga achikondi, mwinamwake malangizo awa, ndi otopa, ndipo apatsidwa magazini onse ofunika kwambiri, koma amagwira ntchito. Ndondomeko zing'onozing'ono, kuvomereza, kuyamikira ndi zopempha zokongola, chifukwa ndizokondana kwambiri. Amuna okhulupirira kuti apeze kalata yachikondi kapena kalata, ndi zabwino kwambiri, mukhoza kukhulupirira. Onetsetsani kuti muzisindikiza molondola, m'malo mwa mawuwo, m'malo mwa mawu akuti "Ndikusowa chikondi changa, ndikuyembekeza kukuwonani," lembani dzina lanu mwachikondi ...!
Kuyambira nthawi yaitali kuti maanja omwe amawoneka pamodzi amakhala ndi ubale wamphamvu m'banja. Zikondweretseni maholide, yesetsani kutuluka limodzi kuti mukachezere maukwati a achibale akutali, zonsezi zidzakuthandizani kukumbukira chikondi chanu. Kuonekera palimodzi pagulu, mungathe kunena molimba mtima kuti ndinu banja. Ndikofunika kuti mkazi azidzimva yekha.
Aliyense amafunikira chikondi mosasamala za msinkhu komanso kugonana. Palibe amene akufuna kuwononga moyo wawo wokha, anthu onse amafuna kutentha, aliyense amafuna kusamalidwa. Chisamaliro chachikulu ndi chisamaliro cha wokondedwa. Ku mavuto a mnyumba sikuwononga moyo wa banja, muyenera kuganizira za mtundu wanji wa ubale wanu ndi wokondedwa wanu panthawi inayake, ndiye simungathe kupeza misozi yowonongeka.
Pomalizira, tikhoza kunena kuti ubalewo udzakhala wotalika, ngati mutakhala nawo nthawi zonse. Zidzathandiza kupatsa moyo chilakolako chatsopano ngakhale chofala kwambiri, chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi chakuti chimasonyeza chidwi, ulemu ndi chikondi. Tikukhulupirira kuti nkhani yathu ikuthandizani ndikukuuzani momwe mungakhalire ndi ubale wabwino ndi mwamuna wanu.