Chochita, ndi mawu ati oti abwerere kwa mnyamata? Zonse zimadalira momwe kupatukana kunapitilira.
Njira yabwino ndiyomwe anthu amwazikana mwamtendere mokwanira. Ngati mtsikanayo adamuponyera mnyamatayo - ndiye kuti ntchitoyo ikhoza kukhala yosavuta komanso yosavuta. Chowonadi ndi chakuti munthu akhoza kukhala ndi maganizo amphamvu, ndipo sangathe kuwatsutsa. Koma, pamtundu wina, nayenso akhoza kukhala ndi mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo mu moyo wake, chifukwa cha zomwe safuna kuti ayanjanenso ndi chiyanjano.
Ndi mawu ati omwe amabwezera mnyamatayu? Inde, zoona. Musati mulangize moyo ndikuyesera kudzilungamitsa nokha. Ngati muchita izi, mwinamwake mnyamatayo akuganiza kuti mukufuna kumunyengerera kachiwiri, kusewera naye, ndikumuponyera ngati chidole chosweka. Izi zidzamupangitsa kuti asayambe kukonzanso chiyanjano chilichonse. Kotero, iwe uyenera kuvomereza moona kwa mnyamatayo mu machimo ako onse. Ndikoyenera kuiwala za kunyada. Ndikofunika kuti amvetsetse - mumalapadi ndikumufuna kuti akhale pafupi. Inu mumakonda kwambiri ndipo simungakhoze kukhala popanda izo. Simudzasiya konse ndikubwereza zolakwa zanu. Mawu, pankhaniyi, akhoza kukhala osiyana. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti amachokera pamtima. Ngati munthuyo akukukondani, kukambirana kungakhale kokwanira kubweretsanso zinthu zonse.
Mkhalidwewu ndi wovuta kwambiri pamene kugawikana kwachitika ndi kulira, kukhumudwa ndi chiwonongeko. Ndi mawu otani omwe mungabweretse chibwenzi chanu muzovuta? Apa sangathe kuyendetsa ndi kukambirana limodzi. Mnyamata uja anangosiya sludge, mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo. Kuphatikiza apo, iye wataya chikhulupiriro mwa iwe ndipo tsopano akuganiza kasanu ndi kawiri musanayambe kukhulupirira mawu amodzi omwe iwe wanena. Pano iwe uyenera kumagwiritsa ntchito tsiku limodzi kuti umutsimikizire za kudzipereka kwa malingaliro, kuphatikizapo, palibe amene angatsimikizire kuti zotsatira zake zidzakhalabe zabwino. Koma ngati mumakonda kwambiri, ndiye kuti mukufunika kumenyana mpaka kumapeto. Choncho, ndi mphamvu zanu zonse, yesetsani kupeza chidaliro kachiwiri. Pali njira zambiri za izi, ndipo zonse zimadalira zomwe mnyamata wanu ali ndi momwe mumamupwetekera.
Zimakhala zosavuta kuti muyambe kukondana pamene pali mwayi wina kuti mukambirane ndi munthuyo. Ngati mumaphunzira limodzi, ntchito kapena mabwenzi ndi anthu ena, ndiye kuti muli ndi mwayi wambiri kuti mumukhulupirire. Mwa njira, musamutsatire mnyamata wina ndipo munabala m'mene mumamukondera. Pankhaniyi, zochita zidzakhala bwino kusiyana ndi mawu. Choncho, yesetsani kusonyeza kudandaula kwanu, yesetsani kuthandizira kuposa momwe mungathere, koma, musatero musachite izo pawonetsero. Mfundo yakuti mumathandizira, mnyamatayo amadziwa nthawi zonse, koma ngati inu nokha mutsimikizira izi, iye, kachiwiri, adzatenga zonse chifukwa chonyenga ndipo sakhulupirira chilichonse.
Yesetsani kuyandikira kwa iye, koma musamangokakamiza. Perekani mnyamatayo kuti amvetsetse kuti mumalapa, chikondi komanso zomwe mumakumana nazo, koma mum'lemekezeni, choncho pitirizani kusankha. Kumbukirani kuti simungathe kupanga, choncho yesetsani kuti musayembekezere kwambiri. Kotero zidzakhala zosavuta kuti mupulumutsidwe.
Choipa kwambiri ndi choipa kwambiri ndikuti simukugwirizana nawo. Pankhaniyi, zimakhala zovuta kuti munthu ayankhule. Mnyamata wokhumudwa, mwinamwake, mwa njira iliyonse amapewa misonkhano ndi kuyankhulana. Pano, willy-nilly adzayenera kukhala intrusive. Ngakhale kuti inu nokha muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti izi zikhoza kubwereranso, koma palibe njira ina iliyonse yotulukira. Yesetsani kumuwona, kuyankhula, yesetsani kufotokozera kwa munthuyo kuti mwakhumudwa ndi chisoni kwambiri pa zomwe zinachitika. Mutumizeni mauthengawo, atumizeni ma sms, koma musamachite nthawi zambiri. M'patseni nthawi yoti aganizire zinthu, musasokoneze malo omwe adakugwirani. Muzochitika izi, ndizofunika kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi muyeso komanso kuti musapitirize kutero kuti pempho lanu lisapangire ntchito yovuta, yomwe mnyamatayo, pamapeto pake, adzakhala yonyansa. Ndicho chifukwa chake simuyenera kupempha ndikupempha. Ngakhale mutamukhumudwitsa, kudzichepetsa kwake sikudzamutsitsimutsa. Kulapa ndi kukhala nkhanza ndi zinthu ziwiri zosiyana.
Kupempha moyenera kukhululukidwa ndi luso. Mukudziwa chomwe chimakwiyitsa wokondedwa wanu, ndi zinthu zomwe amalemekeza. Ndikofunika nthawi zonse kuyamba apa. Musanayambe kukambirana, msonkhano uliwonse, ganizirani pa mawu anu, musanene chinachake chosasangalatsa ndipo musasinthe chilichonse kukhala chokhumudwitsa. Musaiwale kuti sayenera kukumverani, kukuonani ndikukudziwani. Pa zomwe zinachitika, ndiye kuti ndiwe wolakwa, apa mukuyenera kulimbana nokha. Inde, anthu onse amakhala olakwika, koma chifukwa cha kulakwitsa kwanu, zimapweteka munthu. Kotero, tsopano mutenge zomwe mumayenera. Landirani izi, koma musadziteteze nokha ndipo musamadzipange nokha. Tangoganizirani zofunikira ndikuyesera kutsimikizira kwa mnyamata yemwe waphunzira phunziro lamoyo ndipo sudzabwereza zolakwa zako, motero, kumupweteka.
Wokhumudwitsidwa ndi kovuta kutsimikizira, koma, komabe, posachedwa iye adzamva kudzipereka ndikukhulupirira. Anthu adatha kusiyanitsa choonadi ndi chinyengo ndipo ngati mnyamatayo akadali ndi maganizo - adzakhululukira. Koma chifukwa cha ichi muyenera kukhala oleza mtima komanso omvetsetsa. Osatembenukira ku zilakolako zamanyazi, zomwe zimayenda pa zidendene za munthu. Yesetsani kukhalapo pamene kuli kofunikira, kuthandizira, kuthandizira ndikungoyankhula zomwe mumakonda, kukonda kwambiri kuposa moyo. Musati mufunse maubwenzi ndi chikondi, koma chitani chomwe mnyamatayo amamvetsa - icho chidzakhala kwa inu chisangalalo chachikulu ndi mphatso. Ndipo ngati abweranso - samalirani chimwemwe chanu ndipo musakhalenso olakwika.