Msungwana aliyense kuyambira ali mwana amakumbukira za nthawi imene adzakhale mkwatibwi. Iye maloto okwatirana ndi chikondi, kukhala mosangalala nthawi zonse ... Chovala choyera cha chic, chotchinga ndi sitima yaitali, maluwa aakulu ... chabwino, kwinakwake kumbuyo, mkwati amawotchera. Palibe chomwe tingachite pa izo, ife timabadwa ngati egoists, koma izi zingathe ndipo zimayenera kumenyedwa.
Tsopano, ubwana watha, anyamata nayenso, ndi nthawi yoganiza za kulenga banja. Kufunitsitsa kwa munthu aliyense kutenga udindo kwa wina kumabwera m'zaka zosiyana, ena ali okonzeka kuthana ndi mavuto onse a banja komanso 18, ena ndi zaka 30 akukaikira ngati angayang'ane ndi katundu wolemetsa. Iye analota kukwatira chifukwa cha chikondi, sankafuna kukwatiwa (kapena ankafuna, koma sanali okonzeka) - kukonzekera bwino masewero amtsogolo. Komabe, munthu aliyense amatsatira moyo wake, koma nthawi yomweyo - zimadalira zigawo zambiri. Choncho, ziribe kanthu pa msinkhu umene mumasonkhanitsira pansi pa korona.
Pali lingaliro lomwe ife timakhala momwe ife tikufunira ndipo ife tikusowa kufunafuna zifukwa mwa ifeeni, ngati chinachake sichinagwire ntchito. Koma zonse zinayamba bwino kwambiri! Ndipo kodi kumayambira kuti? Anakumana, anakomana, anakumana kwa kanthawi, anaganiza zokwatira. Iye maloto okwatirana, makamaka - kwa chikondi chachikulu ndi choyera, ndipo apa pali chisankho chofulumira. Kodi anyamatawa adadziwana kale ku ofesi ya registry? Ayi ndithu ... Ndipo moyo sikwanira kuchita izi. Ndipo ngati mutakumana kwa nthawi yayitali, ndiye kuti n'zotheka kuti musanakwatirane, sichidzabwera.
Ndiye kodi banja liyenera kukhazikitsidwa ndi chiyani? Pa chikondi, ndithudi, koma osati pa imodzi yomwe nkhani zonse zachikondi zinalembedwera. Mwina chikondi choterechi chimakhala ngati chilakolako chokhala ndi moyo chifukwa cha munthu wina, kuthekera kutsogolera mphamvu zawo zonse kukwaniritsa cholinga chimodzi. Ngati kuli kotheka - kupereka nsembe, ngati kuli kotheka - kuteteza ufulu wawo. Ndipo ndithudi chifukwa chokhalira ndi banja sichiyenera kukhala chikondi chodzikonda. Kukonda kumverera "O Mulungu wanga! Ndimakonda! "Mukhoza (kwa zokondweretsa zanu), koma kutembenuzira kukhala chifukwa chokha chokwatirana sizolondola.
Pali lingaliro lakuti kulengedwa kwa banja sikutanthauza kukhalapo kwa chikondi, chifundo, ndi chikhumbo chokhala pamodzi. Kodi ndi choncho? Ndikuganiza choncho. Chisoni chimati pakati pa anthu kumeneko muli malingaliro ena, chidwi, chidwi ndi ulemu wina ndi mzake, ngati kuti ndi ofanana. Ndipo musalole kuti musakonde, koma ubale wapamtima wokhazikika, m'kupita kwanthawi akhoza kukula kukhala chinachake.
Komabe, ngati poyamba palibe chifundo, koma pali kuwerengera kozizira, ndiye kuti palibe chabwino chilichonse chomwe chidzabwere. Kodi kuli koyenera kuti munthu alole mwamuna wolemera? Mukhoza kulota za mwamuna wanu wokondedwa komanso wopambana! Sikuti anthu onse olemera amakhala osangalala pamoyo wawo. Mkazi akukonzedwa mwanjira yakuti ayenera kukonda munthu amene amapita naye kupyolera mu moyo. Ngati mkazi adakonda mwamuna wake, tinganene kuti ali wokondwa, mosasamala kanthu za zina.
Chiyanjano - ngakhale m'khitchini!
Mfundo ina yofunika ndi yakuti maganizo anu ali okonzeka kupirira chiyeso cha moyo. Amalota kukwatiwa chifukwa cha chikondi, koma sakonda kusamba kapena kuphika. Iye akuyembekeza kuti mwamuna wake adzagula mwamsanga chotsuka chotsuka ndi makina ochapa, koma kodi banja lino laling'ono litakwatirana liti? Choncho, poyamba muyenera kupirira, dzipatule nokha, ndipo ngati simungathe kupirira - kuvomereza kugawidwa kwa maudindo a banja. Ndipo ichi, pepani, chiri kutali ndi khalidwe la chikondi - izi ndi makhalidwe omwe ali ofanana ndi mgwirizano ndi kulemekezana.
Ndipotu ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi onse atayesetsa kukhazikitsa ubwino wa banja lawo, tikhoza kunena kuti palibe mavuto omwe angawononge mgwirizano wawo. Munthu sangathe kulimbana ndi ntchito yovutayi, ziribe kanthu kuti ali ndi chikhalidwe chotani ndi chuma.
Zolinga zofanana
Ndipo ndi zolinga zotani? Kukhala pamodzi mwamtendere ndi mgwirizano mpaka ukalamba usakhale cholinga? Moyo waperekedwa kwa munthu kuti athetse mavuto omwe ali nawo panjira yake. Ndipo ngati nthawizonse pali munthu wapafupi pafupi, zingatheke kudutsa msewu uwu osati mochita khama, komanso ndi zosangalatsa.
Kulimbana ndi mavuto, tikukula, osamvetsetseka. Ndipo kukhala ndi zosangalatsa - izi sizikutanthauza nkomwe, kukhala ndi zofunikira zonse zakuthupi. Mmalo mwake, palimodzi, kukwaniritsa, kulandira iwo, kuti akule limodzi ndi wokondedwa. Ay, wokondedwa, uli kuti? Mwinamwake osati mbali imodzi - chifukwa tsopano akungopeza nyumba, akugwira ntchito monga woweruzidwa ntchito zitatu, koma madzulo adzabwerera kunyumba ...
Palibe chikondi!
Makolo anga ankakhala pamodzi kwa zaka zoposa 50 ndipo onse amalengeza kuti chikondi sichipezeka. Kodi n'zotheka? Zikuoneka kuti inde. Pa mtima wa ubale wawo ndi kulemekezana wina ndi mzake, kumvetsetsana komanso kuthandizana wina ndi mzake. Kapena mwinamwake ichi ndi chikondi? Mwinamwake munthu samapatsidwa kuti amvetse kuti kuli kwenikweni kumverera uku? Kapena kodi aliyense amazindikira yekha kuti pali chikondi?
Zikuwoneka kuti chikondi sichimagwirizana. Zili mdziko lonse lapansi komanso momveka bwino pokhapokha ngati tigona tulo, timayika m'maso mwa mamuna, tikalandira chithandizo, kusamalira kapena kudziwonetsera tokha.
Ngati wina angathe kuyankhula za kapangidwe kake kawirikawiri, chikondi chimaphatikizapo kuchuluka kwa malingaliro osiyana omwe ali ndi munthu aliyense. Ndipo kokha mu zovuta ndi pamaso pa chinthu chokondana, mawonekedwe onse akuwoneka akuyenda palimodzi ngati phokoso, ndipo amawoneka ngati chinthu chenicheni. Ndipo pozama kwambiri dziko lathu la pansi ndi chidziwitso chathu, chikondicho sichitipitirira. Koma ndibwino kuiwala za udyera ...