Zosangalatsa: ndizofunika kusintha makalata awiri okha, ndipo tsopano "kukhulupirika" kumakhala "nsanje". Mu zaka 2-3 pambuyo pa ukwatiwo, malingaliro a gulu lirilonse likhale losasunthika ndi loyenera. Tingathe, ndikukonzekera zokondweretsa, ndikudabwitsa wina ndi mzake, komabe chinthu chikusowa. Kachiwiri Ndikufuna zokondweretsa, zochitika, umboni wa chikondi - chinachake chimene, tsoka, sichikhoza kukhala bwino. Ndiyeno tikudikirira kamphindi, tawonani mtundu wa mawonekedwe ndikuyamba: "Chifukwa chiyani mumamuyang'ana monga choncho?", "Ndipo mnzanuyo adakuchititsani bwanji chisokonezo?" Chabwino, ndi ubwino wotani? Nsanje imathandizira kumverera, kupulumutsa maubwenzi kuchokera ku kuvunda. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti nsanje nthawi ndi nthawi imangokhala ngati umboni wakuti timakondabebe. Amuna ndi akazi onse amamumenya, kumenyana, kusonyeza kukwiya, kumvetsera poyankha: "Ndimakukondani nokha." Tili ndi nsanje, timayamba kufufuza zomwe zikuchitika, kuganizira kwambiri za ubale, ngati kuti tikufufuza moyo wathu wa tsiku ndi tsiku. Nthawizonse zimapindulitsa mphamvu. Kodi mukuganiza kuti chitsanzo ndi ichi: Timakonda ndipo tili ndi nsanje? N'zosadabwitsa kuti zimachitika m'njira ina. Kawirikawiri poyamba, wina amakonda zambiri, wina amalola kuti azikonda ndipo amayamba kukonda, zomwe zimamuthandiza. Ndipo pambuyo pa zaka zisanu kapena zisanu, yoyamba, kungotopa ndi maubwenzi amodzi, kumayamba kuyang'ana nthawi ndi nthawi ndikupeza malo. Kwa wothandizira wachiwiri, izi zimadodometsa. Poyamba sakhulupirira, kenako amakwiya, kenako amamva nsanje yolimba kwambiri ndipo amayamba kukondana ndi mnzake.
Musabise nsanje. Uku ndikumverera kwabwino kwa umunthu, pambali pake, kudzikundikira muzinthu zazing'ono, kumakhala koopsa.
■ Yankhulani ndi nsanje yake mokwanira. "Kodi ndinu wodwala?", "Sindifuna kumva chilichonse chonga icho" - mawu amenewa amachititsa kuti anthu ayambe kuchita zinthu zovuta, zopweteka, zomwe zingawononge ubwenzi wawo. Choncho, mwamsanga, khulupirirani mnzanu wopanda pake kapena wochulukitsa nsanje yake. Mawu, kugwirizana, kumpsompsona, kulumikizana maso ndi maso kumabwera. Ngati mwazunguliridwa ndi anthu ena, tengani wokondedwa wanu ndi dzanja kapena kuyika dzanja lanu pamapewa. Zisonyezo zoterozo zimadziwika ngati chikhumbo chokhalapo, kufotokozera aliyense woyandikana nawo: izi ndi zanga.
■ Zoonadi, mumadana ndi yemwe akutsutsana naye ndikuyesa, mutsegula maso ake kwa wokondedwayo. M'malo mwake, ziyenera kutamandidwa. "Iye ndi wodabwitsa kwambiri, tsitsi lake ndi lokongola, mwachibadwa, mwinamwake, ndipo kavalidwe kakhala bwino kwambiri." Wokongola, koma woona: mutatha kutamanda kotero, mpikisano, mwinamwake, sangadandaule ndi mnzanuyo. Mwinamwake chifukwa kumverera kwa chinsinsi kumatayika?
■ Sonyezani maonekedwe anu onse: "Ndikudziwa zochuluka za izo, koma zimandipangitsa kuti ndizisangalatse pang'ono." Mgwirizano woterewu sungathe kutha: "Kodi amasangalala ndi chiyani?" Ndikofunika kufufuza zomwe zikugwira ntchito popanda ine. " Nsanje imatipatsa ife mwayi woti tikhale bwinoko. Chimodzi mwa zigawo zake ndikumverera kochepa. Ngati kwa ife tasankha munthu wina, zikutanthauza kuti ndi wokongola kwambiri, wanzeru, wokondweretsa. Inu mukhoza, ndithudi, kukangana, inu mukhoza kuimba mlandu mnzanu chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika, koma palibe chomwe chingasinthe kuchokera pa izi. Ndipo ndizoopsa. Kulira, kutaya mtima, komwe kumatha, monga lamulo, miyezi yambiri. Kenaka (mosasamala kanthu) pali chikhumbo chosintha: kukhala wochenjera, wokondweretsa kwambiri polankhulana, wokongola komanso wokongola. Ndipo ngakhale kuphunzira chinenero cha Chihindi, kotero inu mukhoza ndithudi kukhala bwinoko. Ndipo onse chifukwa kudzimva kuti ndi otsika ndizopangitsa kuti anthu akule bwino komanso akule bwino. Ndi amayi angati mutapita nthawi ndikuthokozani amuna awo powapanga nsanje. Anali ndi ichi chomwe adayamba moyo wawo watsopano.
■ Pamene nsanje ndi yolondola ndi yolungamitsidwa, fotokozani momveka malire a mayiko. "Mpaka pa 1 Oktoba, ndikungokhala ndi mkwiyo, ndiye ndikumva chisoni pa maholide a November, ndikudikirira pang'ono, ndipo patangotha chaka chatsopano ndikuyamba kuganizira zoyenera kuchita." Choncho kumvetsa chisoni sikungakhale kosasangalatsa. Nthaŵi zonse zimakhala zosavuta kupulumuka mavuto, pamene mudziwa kuti adzatha.