Mwatsoka, nthawi zambiri timagwirizana kwambiri ndi anthu amenewo. Ngati izi zichitika, ndiye kuti timayamba kudziyesa tokha ponena kuti "simungathe kudziwa mtima wanu" ndikupitirizabe kulira mumtsamiro ndikutaya mtima ndi chikondi chosadziwika. Nthawi zambiri chikondi chosagonjetsedwa m'miyoyo yathu chimatha popanda kugogoda. Koma chirichonse chikanakhala bwino ngati iwe ukhoza kuwapukuta chirichonse monga fumbi kapena fumbi ku mapewa ako, koma nthawizonse chirichonse chimakhala chosiyana mosiyana.
Mwa munthu amene amazunzidwa ndi chikondi, m'moyo, monga lamulo, zonse zimayamba kuyenda molakwika - ntchito ikugwa, kugona ndi chilakolako chimatha, nthawi zambiri kumatha komanso kumakhala ndi moyo. Chifukwa cha kuwonongeka kwamanjenje, mukhoza kufika kuchipatala, kotero kuti izi sizichitika, mukufunikira mwamsanga kuthetsa matenda ovutika. Momwe tingachitire, tidzakambirana tsopano.
1. Mabwenzi onse ndi abwenzi panopa akulangizidwa kupeza chinthu china. Malangizo awa ayenera kumvera. Koma ngati iwo sanadzidziwe okha, ndiye zomwe mukukumana nazo panopo, sangamvetse bwino zomwe mukukumana nazo, chifukwa sakudziwa kuti zimakhala zovuta bwanji kutembenukira kwa munthu wosiyana. Moyo umawoneka wosasangalatsa ndi wosasangalatsa, kotero ndi kovuta kuona mlendo wabwino yemwe, kwa maola ochulukirapo, akukumangirani maso.
Zizindikilo za chidwi kuchokera kwa anthu zikukwiyitsa kwambiri, ndipo chinthu chodziwikiratu poyerekeza ndi otsutsana ena opanda ungwiro akuwoneka bwino kwambiri. Koma kumbukirani, anthu abwino salipo, ndipo osankhidwa anu akugawanika ndi zana la zana peresenti yokhayokha. Koma ali kutali kwambiri, mwachitsanzo, Mercury kuchokera ku Pluto.
Koma kawirikawiri, anthu amawopsyeza kukondana ndi munthu amene sali woyenera kukonda, osatchula lingaliro lomwe amavomereza. Yang'anani pozungulira, ndithudi pali chinthu chokongola kwambiri kuposa chimodzi chimene sichikudziwani nkomwe. Osanyengerera ena, kapena nokha, kunena kuti wosankhidwa wanu ndi wabwino kwambiri ndipo simudzapeza bwinoko. Ndi chinyengo, chifukwa mungavomereze, pafupifupi munthu aliyense adzasinthidwa.
2. Malangizo omwe ali pamwambawa sanawathandize? Ndiye yesetsani kupeza cholakwika ndi wosankhidwa wanu. Ndikhulupirire, iwo ali nacho! Ngati ali ndi chifaniziro chopanda chidziwitso, ndiye kuti simukuyenera kumutsutsa, ponena kuti muli pamwamba pa moyo mu thupi. Izi si zoona! Ngati tsopano mukakumana ndi wothamanga wothamanga mwa njira, ndiye, mwinamwake, mudzaiwala za wokhotakhota wolephera. Ngati wokondedwa wanu ndi wothamanga ndi wamtali, yesani kulingalira mtundu wa ana omwe mudzakhala naye, yemwe mukufuna kukhala naye ngati wosankhidwayo akukhala mwamuna wanu. Ngati wosankhayo ndi thupi, ndiye kuti alibe chidwi chilichonse. Momwemo, m'mutu mwake zokha zokhazokha, mapuloteni, mipando yozembera ndi zochitika zina za masewera. Pachifukwa ichi, mawu akuti "simukusowa malingaliro, ngati mukuwakakamiza". Tsopano ganizirani ngati mukufuna mwana wopusa, chifukwa adzalandira majeremusi a abambo? Mwinamwake, ayi, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti wosankhidwayo si msilikali wa buku lanu.
3. Ngati izi sizikuthandizani, kambiranani ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo. Nestoit amachita manyazi ndi izi - nyenyezi iliyonse kumadzulo ili ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo. Katswiri wa zamaganizo amafunika kuti amufunse nthawi iliyonse komanso bezpodov. Kuwuza mlendo nkhani yake, mukhoza kuyang'ana zomwe zikuchitika. N'zotheka kuti simukumva manyazi kapena kuchitanso manyazi pa nkhani yopanda pake, mungamve ngati wopusa ndikuzindikira kuti mumphongo ya mukhirazduli.
4. Pakati pazinthu zina, alowetsani muzinthu zatsopano. Lembani kuvina, pitani ku masewero olimbitsa thupi, chitani chinachake chimene mungathe kutengeka nacho. Inde, simungasokonezedwe ndi chikondi chosadziwika, ndicho chifukwa chake ganizirani momwe mungagwirizanitsire chilakolako chanu ndi chinthu chokhumba. Ngati mutayamba kupita kuholo ya masewera, mukhoza kuganizira momwe munthu wosankhidwa adzakuwonerani, mutakhala wochepa. Cholinga ichi chidzakulimbikitsani kuti mutenge zozizwitsa nokha. Ndipo mwinamwake mutatha zotsatira zabwino, wosankhidwayo akufuna kukhala ndi inu kosatha. Mwina panthawiyi, sizidzakhala zosangalatsa kwa inu, chifukwa pazochitika masewera olimbitsa thupi muli amuna abwino omwe akufuna kudziwa swami.
5. Yang'anani pa zonse zenizeni. Ngati wosankhidwa wanu ali ndi msungwana wamuyaya kapena mkwatibwi, musadzitonthoze nokha ndi malingaliro kuti iye adzauponyera kutali. Ngati ndikanachoka kale ndikukhala ndi inu.