Mafunsowa ndi ovuta, pangakhale malingaliro ambiri pano, monga momwe wina aliyense aliri ndi ubale wawo, gulu lirilonse limayamba ubale m'njira yawoyawo. Kodi pali "zovuta" zomwe zimapezeka kwa onse, komanso momwe mungazizindikire? Taonani zitsanzo zotsatirazi.
Kodi n'zotheka kuyitanira mgwirizano weniweni pakati pa mamiliyoni wachikulire ndi mtsikana? Kapena ubale pakati pa achinyamata? Ambiri aife tikhoza kuchitapo kanthu. Zoonadi, pachiyambi choyamba, kuwerengera ndi kugwiritsidwa ntchito kwa mercantili kumakhala kovuta, ndipo chachiwiri - chilakolako chowoneka achikulire pamaso pa anzako, kuti adziwe zatsopano. Nchiyani chomwe chikusoweka mu zitsanzo za maubwenzi otere kotero kuti iwo angatchedwe ovuta? Ziribe kanthu momwe ziwonetsero za bankhu, koma, ndithudi, palibe chikondi chokwanira m'lingaliro lonse la mawuwo. Ndipotu, chikondi ndi mfundo yovuta: ndi chilakolako, mgwirizano, ndi ndondomeko zamtsogolo zamtsogolo. Ndikofunika kulumikizana, kulemekeza, kufunitsitsa kukhala pamodzi nthawi zonse ndikupatsana chikondi kwa zaka zambiri.
Ubale weniweni nthawi zonse umayamba ndi chikondi - mgwirizano komanso wosadzikonda. Mwa iwo mulibe malo owerengera, kugwirizanitsa komanso kudzikonda. Chidzachitike ndi chiyani - tsiku lachikondi ndi ukwati kapena ukwati wa boma - sikofunika kwambiri. Kupambana kwa mgwirizano ukugona molondola mu kudzipereka kwa kumverera, kudzilemekeza nokha ndi wokondedwa, chilakolako chopereka ndi kupereka kwa wokondedwa koposa kulandira phindu.
Ubale udzakhala wopambana ngati banjali likuwauza ndi udindo wonse, onse ali okhwima osati okalamba okha, komanso amakhala ndi malingaliro odziwika bwino a tsogolo, njira yamtengo wapatali. Akatswiri ambiri amalingaliro a zamaganizo tsopano akulemba kuti njira ya banja ndi yokhayo yomwe ingatheke ndi njira yolondola kuti idzizindikiritse, kuvumbulutsa zomwe munthu ali nazo ndi kusintha mwauzimu. Pambuyo pake, ubale wa mitima iwiri yachikondi ndizofunika kwambiri pa chikondi, chimwemwe, kudzizindikira, ndipo mwinamwake kulengedwa kwa banja, umayi ndi abambo.
M'dziko lamakono, pazifukwa zina, sizivomerezeka kuphunzitsa luso la kukhala pamodzi komanso kugwirizana kwambiri. Komabe zoopsya izi zingamveke, amayi ambiri amakhala pachibwenzi cholimba, chifukwa mwamuna ndi wotetezera komanso gwero la ndalama. Momwemonso, kwa abambo, amayi ali ndi ufulu wa kugonana, chakudya chokoma, chitonthozo, zovala zoyera ... Sizodabwitsa kuti nthawi zambiri kusudzulana ndi kusudzulana zimachitika zaka 2-3 chiyambireni chiyanjano. Chilakolako cha nthawi ino chikufalikira ndipo chimangoyamba kugwiritsidwa ntchito. Iwo sankaganiza, sankadziwa momwe, sankadziwa kuti ubale uyeneranso kuphunzira ndipo iwo unatsogolera kukwatirana mwachindunji cha mawuwo. Pachifukwa ichi, ubale wofunika uyenera kuyamba ndi ntchito pawekha, osati ndi kuyesa kusintha mnzanuyo. Kusintha nokha sikophweka, koma simungasinthe wina. Ngati munthu sangathe kumvetsetsa izi, nthawi zonse adzamenya pamphumi pake ponena za mavuto amenewa. Moyo umakhala wokonzeka bwino komanso wogwirizana, ndipo ngati vuto silithetse, limabwereza mobwerezabwereza, nthawi iliyonse ikuwonjezeka. Kotero, ngati inu mukutsatidwa ndi zolephera mu moyo wanu waumwini kapena inu nokha - ndi nthawi yokhala pansi ndi kuganiza: Kodi ndikuchita chiyani cholakwika? Pali mndandanda wa mabuku, maphunziro ndi masemina omwe angathandize kusintha moyo, kubwezeretsa maubwenzi.
Sizingatheke kuti tiyitane ubale wolimba komanso wokhalitsa. Pambuyo pa zonse, ambiri amakhala pamodzi ndi chizoloŵezi, chifukwa cha ana kapena nyumba. Ubale uyenera kuyesedwa osati ndi chiwerengero cha zaka akhala pamodzi, koma ndi khalidwe kapena zotsatira. Choncho, kuti musadzanong'oneze bondo pambuyo pake, yesetsani kukhala ndi zolinga ndi zolinga zenizeni kuyambira pachiyambi: "Chifukwa chiyani ndiyenera kukhala ndi chibwenzi ichi?", "Ndikufuna chiyani kwa iwo?", "Adzandipatsa chiyani ine ndi wokondedwa wanga?" Ngati mayankho a mafunso ngati amenewa ndi olemetsa kwa inu, ndipo osati omwe mumawakonda "I" adzawonekera mwa iwo, ndiye kuti mwakhala mukuyenda bwino.