Ukwati ndi khalidwe limene anthu ambiri amangoona mdima wokha wosadziwika. Amakhudzidwa ndi zikhulupiriro zongopeka zomwe zimakhazikika m'malingaliro athu. Kodi chidzachitike chiani pakatha mgwirizano uli pa chala chanu? Chilichonse chidzakhalapo kale, kapena mosiyana, chirichonse chidzakhala chosiyana? Mafunso ngati amenewa akukhudza aliyense amene akufuna kupanga banja losangalala. Tiyeni tipewe nthano ndi ziwonongeko zomwe zimatiteteza kuti tisadutse mchitidwe wosungulumwa ndi kukhala wamba.
Nthano nambala 1. Pambuyo paukwati, kugonana kumakhala kochepa kwambiri.
Zoonadi. Ndipotu, palibe chifukwa chodandaulira za kugonana pambuyo pa ukwati, chifukwa kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti okwatirana omwe ali pachikondi amatha kukonda kwambiri kuposa anthu omwe amakhala pamodzi. Komanso, maanja amene adziphatikizana amakhala okondwa kwambiri pabedi kusiyana ndi maanja "opanda". Mwina izi zikuchitika chifukwa chakuti anthu omwe anakwatirana, amachita zimenezi mwachikondi komanso mosamala, ndipo anthu ambiri amakhala pamodzi ndi chizoloŵezi, ndi inertia ndipo pakalipano akusamalira mbewu zopempha kuti azikhala pamodzi.
Nthano nambala 2. Ngati mumakhala nthawi yaitali musanakwatirane, ndiye kuti banja lidzakhala lolimba.
Zoonadi. Ngati mwakhala mukudziwika kale kuti mnzanuyo akuponya masokosi kuzungulira mnyumba, izi sizikutanthauza kuti chinthu choipitsitsa chasokonekera kale. Studies ku yunivesite ya Yale yasonyeza kuti maanja amene adakhala pamodzi asanakwatirane kawiri kawirikawiri, omwe sanatero . Anthu akamangokhala pamodzi, safuna wina ndi mzake, ndipo pamene nthawi ya ukwati ifika, mungayambe kuganiza kuti: "Ndinakwatiwa osati chifukwa cha zomwe ndinkalota!" Akatswiri ena a zamaganizo amanena kuti sikoyenera kukhala pamodzi ukwati usanachitike, koma kugonana ndikofunika komanso kofunikira ...
Nthano nambala 3. Pamodzi ndi banja, mukhoza kuiwala za zosangalatsa zonse.
Zoonadi. Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti moyo waukwati utatha, koma palibe amene akuganiza kuti zonse zimadalira ife! Inde, mmalo mwa maphwando okweza mumayenda paki ndi mwana, koma izi ndi zosangalatsa, nthawi zosangalatsa za moyo.
Nthano nambala 4. Ngati mumatsutsana nthawi zonse, musayandikire.
Zoonadi. Chilichonse chiri cholakwika ndipo ngakhale mosiyana, ndizisonyeza kuti muli ndi ubale wabwino. Pambuyo pake, kuti mkangano ukhale wotopa, m'pofunika kulankhula ndi kukambirana. Mwachibadwidwe, sikofunika kuti mukambirane mkhalidwe uliwonse ndi mbale yakuda. Koma okwatirana okondwa ndi olimba akugwiritsidwa ntchito njira yobwereranso ndi kutsutsa. Katswiri wina wa zamaganizo a ku Britain ananena kuti ndemanga zonse zowopsya ziyenera kulipidwa ndi mayamiko a chiŵerengero cha 1: 5. Mwachitsanzo, pambuyo "chosazolowereka", payenera kukhala "zokongola" zisanu, "zokoma," "okondedwa", ndi zina zotero. Kuchuluka kwa chiwerengero kumachepetsa 1: 3, ndiye ndiyenera kuganizira.
Nthano nambala 5. Ana Amalimbitsa Ukwati
Zoonadi. Kodi mukuganiza kuti kulira kwa usiku ndi kosalekeza kwa ana kumapangitsa kuti banja lanu likhale lolimba? Simukusowa kuyembekezera. Mwamwayi, ndi maonekedwe a mwanayo m'banja, mphamvu za ubale pakati pa okwatirana zafotokozedwa. Mabanja ambiri sangathe kugonjetsa izi ngakhale pa moyo wawo wonse. Ngati ubale wanu uli pa siteji ya chiwonongeko, musadalire kuti mwanayo akhoza kutsegula, akhoza komanso mosiyana, akutsutsani nthawi zonse.
Nthano nambala 6. Ukwati si wachilendo.
Zoonadi. Mwinamwake, amuna okhawo odziimira amafuna kukhala nawo. Ndipotu, ali ndi lonjezo - kuthira manyowa azimayi ambiri momwe zingathere. Koma tikhoza kunena kuti mkazi amawononga chikhazikitso chaukwati, chifukwa pambuyo paukwati, timayamba kukhala odziimira okha, odziimira okha komanso azachuma.
Nthano nambala 7. Brakers thanzi.
Zoonadi. Magazini ya ku Britain inafalitsa nkhani imene akuti anthu odwala matenda oposa zaka 40 amafa kaŵirikaŵiri monga amuna omwe ali pabanja. Maphunziro a ku Russia amasonyeza chinthu chomwecho.
Asayansi amanena kuti amuna okwatira sangavutike kwambiri ndi chimfine, kupweteka mutu komanso kupweteka m'mbuyo. Koma antchito ena ku yunivesite ya Oslo ananena kuti ngati mwamuna ali ndi mkazi wanzeru, ndiye kuti chiopsezo cha matenda a mtima n'chochepa. Motani? Chifukwa chakuti amamuganizira komanso amateteza dongosolo lake la mantha m'maganizo osiyanasiyana.
Nthano nambala 8. Ngati chikondi sichinayambe, ndiye kuti banja lidzatha.
Zoonadi. Amuna angathe ndi chikumbumtima choyera kudutsa mimosa stalls. Ku Britain, kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti mgwirizano ndi kudzipereka ku ukwati ndizofunika kwambiri kuposa maonekedwe ndi maluwa.
Nthano nambala 9. Ngati pali chisudzulo, ndiye kuti inuyo nokha ndiye kuti muli ndi mlandu.
Zoonadi. Ngati mukufuna maluwa m'munda kuti ayambe pachimake, ndipo mbale zimalandira kangapo kamodzi tastier, ndiye muyenera kulipira chifukwa cha izi. Muukwati, zonse ziri chimodzimodzi. Zofuna zathu kwa wina ndi mzake zimasintha nthawi zonse, komanso zosowa. Kwa zaka zambiri mukhoza kumvetsa kuti anthu osiyana kwambiri. Ndipo kodi mwakhala bwanji pamodzi kwa zaka zambiri?
Mwachibadwa, kudzidzudzula ndibwino, koma moyenera. Kumbukirani kuti muukwati ndi chisudzulo, anthu awiri ayenera kutenga mbali. Choncho onse awiri ali ndi mlandu pazochitikazi, onse awiri.
Nthano nambala 10. Tsopano pafupifupi maukwati onse amathetsa chisudzulo.
Zoonadi. Osati onse, koma ambiri. Mwachitsanzo, mu 2007, mabanja okwana 686,000 adatha m'banja la Russia, koma anakwatira kangapo - pafupifupi mamiliyoni 1.3. Ndithudi, izi sizili zabwino, komabe panopa palibe njira yomwe ingasunge ndi kulimbitsa ukwatiwo.
Nthano nambala 11. Muukwati, akazi amakhala moyipa kuposa akazi.
Zoonadi. Akazi ndi amuna omwe ali okwatirana amakhala ndi moyo wosangalala komanso wotalika kuposa omwe ali ndi zaka zawo okha. Komanso, anthu a m'banja, mosasamala kanthu za amuna kapena akazi, nthawi zambiri amapeza zambiri komanso amakhala ndi thanzi labwino.
Nthano nambala 12. Iye ndi wamng'ono kuposa iye.
Zoonadi. Ndipotu, izi ndi zoona. Ku yunivesite ya London, phunziro linachitidwa momwe amayi ndi abambo okwana 4500 anafunsidwa, ndipo anafotokozedwa kuti akazi, ndithudi, amasangalala kwambiri ndi banja kusiyana ndi amuna. Mkhalidwe wamaganizo wa munthu ndi wolimba ngati amakhala muukwati waumwini, osati m'banja lachidziwitso. Ndikofunikira kuti abambo akhale omasuka, ngakhale kuti siziri chomwecho.
Akatswiri ambiri amalingaliro a zamaganizo amanena kuti amabwera ku zokambirana zokhazokha amuna okhaokha omwe sali pabanja komanso osakhala pabanja. Ndipo mosiyana - akazi amabwera ndi madandaulo omwe abwenzi awo safuna kukwatira, koma akazi okwatiwa ndi ochepa kwambiri.
Nthano nambala 13. Kuti mupange banja, mukufunikira kukhala ndi ndalama zambiri.
Zoonadi. Ndipotu, ndi munthu yekha amene ayenera kuganizira, koma osati mkazi. Kuti mupeze ufulu wodziimira payekha, ntchito yabwino ndi zina zomwe mukuchita, mukufunikira nthawi, osati chaka chimodzi, kotero ngati mkazi ayamba kukwaniritsa izi, ndiye kuti amapereka zaka zabwino kwambiri, kukongola kwake ndi unyamata. Mphatso zake zonse zapamwamba pa ntchito yake komanso maphunziro ake, ngakhale kuti sizingatheke kuti akwaniritse zofuna zake. Chifukwa chaichi, mkazi sangapeze hafu yabwino, chifukwa ali wolakalaka komanso woyera.
Kuwonjezera apo, pa zaka zazing'ono atsikana ali ndi chidwi chachikulu pa chikondi ndi chibwenzi, ndipo ngati atasankha kuti asapange banja, amayamba kuchita chigololo ndi achinyamata osiyana.
Nthano nambala 14. Mkazi wophunzira amayembekezera mwamuna wake kwa nthawi yaitali ndipo zimamuvuta kuti akwatirane.
Zoonadi. Mwina poyamba zinali choncho, koma lero mkazi wophunzira ndi wanzeru amakhala ndi mwayi wokwatira, poyerekeza ndi atsikana omwe ali ndi "mphepo" pamutu pawo, mosasamala za zaka.
Mwachidziŵikire, pulofesa wa Charles Hill, wa ku America, anafufuza kawiri awiri omwe akhala atakwatirana kwa zaka zoposa 25, ndipo adapeza njira yothetsera ukwati.
- Musalenge banja ndipo musamakondane ndi mnzanu yemwe ali wokongola kwambiri kuposa inu.
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Musalole nthano ndi malingaliro akuwononge moyo wanu, nokha musankhe chomwe chidzakhale. Kwatirana ndi kukhala mosangalala!