Nchifukwa chiyani atsikana akukumana ndi anyamata ena, ndikukwatirana ndi ena? Nchiyani chimakupangitsani kusintha maganizo ndi maganizo awo? Nchifukwa chiani chikondi chimadutsa ndikuwuka kachiwiri?
Mwinamwake, chowonadi chiri chakuti mu nthawi zosiyana za moyo wathu, chikondi chimabwera chifukwa cha zifukwa zosiyanasiyana. Timagwirizana ndi mau, manja, makhalidwe ena a khalidwe. Koma, patapita nthawi, zosangalatsa zathu zimasintha ndikukonda mapepala. Atsikana amakwatirana pa nthawi yoyenera. Panthawi imeneyo, ayamba kale kumvetsa kuti mnyamatayo, chipolopolo chamkati, sichifunika kwambiri. Mwamuna ayenera kukhala, poyamba, wotetezera komanso wopereka chakudya. Nyumba iliyonse imafuna kumvetsetsa, munthu wofatsa ndi wolimba yemwe angamuthandize pa chilichonse. Wakale msungwanayo akukhala, pamene akuyesa kwambiri achinyamata omwe ali ndi udindo wa atate wa mwana wake. Palibe chachilendo ndi chotsutsa mu izi. Ndipotu, izi ndi momwe chibadwa cha amayi chimagwirira ntchito. Mkazi ali ndi chikhumbo chowateteza ana ake. Ndipo kuti izi zitheka, payenera kukhala munthu wamphamvu pafupi ndi amene mungadalire.
Pamene ali aang'ono msinkhu atsikana amaganiza za izo, amasankha anyamata, kudalira deta zakunja ndi kuunika kwa ena. Mu nthawi ino ya moyo, pamene anyamata ndi atsikana onse ayamba njira yawo yokhala ngati munthu, adakalibe ndi anthu. Anthu ambiri amamvetsera malingaliro a abwenzi ndi anzawo kusiyana ndi mitima yawo. Ndicho chifukwa chake nthawi zambiri mumasankha zokongola, osakhala anzeru, olemetsa, osakhala okoma mtima, osakhala odalirika. Msungwanayo ali ndi chithunzi chokongola, chomwe mungadzipeke nacho kwa ena, koma, nthawi zambiri mkati mwake ndi dummy. Achinyamata oterewa sangathe kutenga zosankha zawo ndikukhala ndi udindo wawo. Pamene zonse ziri bwino iwo, ndithudi, amakhala nthawi zonse ndipo amanong'oneza za chikondi chachikondi ndi wachikondi. Koma ndi chinachake choopsa chomwe chiti chichitike - mnyamatayo akusowa mwadzidzidzi. Choncho zimapezeka pafupifupi atsikana onse ngati anyamata oipa. Koma ndi msinkhu wokha iwo amayamba kumvetsa kuti mwa munthu woipa kwambiri palibe kukoma mtima ndi chikondi. Inde, pali ena amene amavala maskiki okhwima, kukhala, okoma bwino. Koma chingwe choterechi chingatheke mwamsanga komanso mosavuta. Koma ngati mwamuna nthawi zonse amakhala ngati pod yotsiriza, musamayembekezere kuti chibwenzi chake adzamuona mfumukazi. Koma, mwatsoka, amayi amayamba kumvetsa izi nthawi yomweyo. Ena amathera zaka zambiri ndikuchiritsa mabala awo asanaganize ndikusiya kuganiza kuti amakondana kwambiri. Ichi ndi chifukwa china chimene amuna, nthawi zambiri, amasiyana kwambiri ndi achinyamata omwe atsikana amakumana nawo ali aang'ono.
Moyo umasintha malingaliro athu ndi kuphunzitsa chinachake chatsopano, kutikakamiza kulingalira pa zochita zathu ndikusintha malingaliro athu. Mu moyo wa amayi nthawi zonse mumakhala amuna angapo omwe amachititsa kuti zisankho zawo zisankhidwe. Koma sikuti aliyense wa iwo amakhala mwamuna. N'chifukwa chiyani zili choncho? Mwinamwake mfundo yonse ndi yakuti si amuna onse omwe amapatsidwa kwa akazi kuti akhale anzawo a moyo. Anthu ena amawonekera kuti tipeze zochitika zina ndi kuphunzira kuchokera ku zolakwa zathu. Izi zimachitika kuti anthu adzakhala abwino kwa ife, komanso osasangalatsa. Tikhoza kuwakwiyira, kukwiya, koma pakapita nthawi timayamba kumvetsa kuti asintha miyoyo yathu kuti ikhale yabwino. Ngakhale zoipa zingayambitse zotsatira zabwino. Ngakhale chikondi chosasangalatsa chingakhale chofunikira kuti banja likhale lolimba.
Mtsikana akayamba kukonda, zimawoneka kuti izi ndi za moyo ndipo palibe chomwe chingasinthe. Koma, chikondi choyamba, makamaka, chimachitika, pamene adakalibe zaka makumi awiri zakubadwa. Ndipo ziri m'badwo uno umene makasitina akusintha mu maonekedwe a dziko ndi momwe moyo umayambira. Timayamba kukula, sizikuwoneka ngati zanzeru komanso zodziwa tokha, koma zimakula ndithu.
Pakukula kwake, anthu ambiri ali ndi maso pa moyo, anthu, chilengedwe ndi wokondedwa. Atsikana amasiya kuzindikira chilichonse modalira komanso molimba mtima, kusiya kulepheretsa anthu omwe ali pafupi nawo. Ndi pamene kumvetsetsa kumabwera kuti munthu woyenera sali choncho, ndipo chikondi sikumverera kwamuyaya. Inde, sikofunika kudziwa kuti mnyamatayo ndi wopusa komanso wopusa. Mwina zidzatsimikizirika kuti palibe chofanana pakati panu. Paunyamata, timadzikonda tokha, choncho yesetsani kuganizira za m'mene zinthu ziliridi. Ife timadzilungamitsa tokha ndi mnyamatayo, kudziphimba tokha ndi chikondi. Msungwana akakula, amayamba kuganizira zonse zomwe zinachitika kale ndikuzindikira zambiri zomwe poyamba anakana. Zonsezi ndizo chifukwa chachikulu chimene ambiri amakhumudwitsidwa ndi chikondi chawo choyamba ndikusintha zomwe amakonda. Mutha kuona kuti mtsikanayo ali wamng'ono, amakopeka kwambiri ndi anthu osakhala ofanana, omwe amawopsya komanso amawopsya kwambiri.
Koma mu nthawi yodziwa zambiri, asungwana ayamba kale kumvetsa kuti simungathe kumanga pa ubale woopsa. Ndicho chifukwa amasankha anyamata omwe amadziwika ndi mphamvu zawo, nzeru ndi makhalidwe abwino. Mwina izi ndi chifukwa chachikulu chomwe atsikana amakumana ndi anyamata ena, ndi kukwatira ena.