Kuchokera nthawi zakale chifukwa cha akazi, amuna adasula nkhondo, amafunafuna kugonjetsa mayiko atsopano ndi nyambo, akazi, nawonso, kuyembekezera mokhulupirika, kulera ana. Kukopa pakati pa anthu awiri kapena akazi okhaokha kumatchedwa chikondi, osati chilakolako, osati chikondi kapena chizoloŵezi, chomwe ndi chikondi. Nanga chikondi ndi chiyani pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi?
Funso limeneli lakhala likudula malingaliro a anthu akuluakulu. Ngati mumadalira pazigawo zokhazokha: mgwirizano kapena zosiyana, ulemerero wa mitundu, kukongola kwa nkhope, mwachizoloŵezi amatchedwa kukopa, chilakolako. N'zoonekeratu kuti munthu yemwe adawona akudutsa ndi mtsikana wokongola, akumuona akuyenda panjira. Kapena mkazi, atawona munthu wokhala bwino, wodetsedwa, wokongola, adzakonza mapewa ake ndikuyesa kukopa chidwi ndi maso. Koma izi zimachitika tsiku lililonse mazanamazana mamiliyoni ambiri, pomwe kuyamikira kosavuta kumadzutsa chikondi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, kumangokhalira kukonda. Kotero, kokha pa kukopa mwathupi kumverera kotereku sikungakhazikitsidwe.
Tiyeni tiyese kuganizira kulankhulana. Tiyeni tinene mwamuna ndi mkazi, osati achibale, nthawi zambiri kulankhulana, kuyitana, kukomana, kuyenda kapena kugwira ntchito pamodzi, ndi kumvetsetsana bwino, amasangalala komanso amakhala omasuka. Zimatuluka, zimakonda? Inde, mwinamwake iwo amatero, koma monga bwenzi yemwe mungathe kumasuka ku zosamalidwa ndi kudzipatula nokha. Ndipo kukhala pamodzi, kugawa tebulo limodzi ndi bedi kwa iwo sizingatheke. Choncho, izi nazonso sizikutchedwa chikondi cha amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, koma kukhala mabwenzi. Ngakhale amayi ambiri amanyadira kwambiri abwenzi awo achimuna ndipo amayamikira ubale umenewu, kukwatiwa ndizovuta kwambiri. Ndizovuta komanso kukhala omasuka kukhala ndi chilengedwe ndi chitetezo cholimba, popanda kudzimangiriza ndi malumbiro omvera. Koma ndi chiyani chomwe chimapangitsa mwamuna ndi mkazi kupanga banja kapena kukondana kwa nthawi yaitali? Pambuyo pake, pali anthu padziko lapansi omwe akhala pamodzi kwa zaka makumi ambiri ndipo awonetsa ulemu, chidwi ndi kukoma mtima m'miyoyo yawo yonse. Ndizosangalatsa kuyang'ana banja labwino, omwe ali okalamba omwe, mosasamala za zaka zomwe akhala palimodzi, amadandaula wina ndi mnzake. Kodi chinsinsi cha zodabwitsazi ndi chiyani komanso chifukwa chiyani maukwati angapo amachititsa kuti pakhale mgwirizano?
Yankho ndi lophweka. Izi zimatchedwa chikondi chenicheni pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Koma, kumvetsera kuwona kwanzeru kwa moyo wa anthu, mumayamba kumvetsa kuti ntchito yovuta imeneyi ndi yovuta, yomwe imafuna ntchito ndi kusamalira tsiku ndi tsiku, komanso momwe zimakhalire zovuta. Chikondi chili ngati duwa lachikondi, lomwe limayamikirika komanso limayamikiridwa, ndipo kusunthika kulikonse komweko kumatha kuwononga. Winawake akunena kuti chikondi ndi makina. Koma izi zikhoza kuyankhulidwa ndi munthu amene amanyansidwa kapena sakonda kwenikweni. Osati pachabe, iwo amatchedwa theka lachiwiri, ndiko kuti, limodzi limodzi la zonse. Inde, chikondi kwa mwamuna ndi mkazi chimadziwika m'njira zosiyanasiyana: mkazi, mmalo mwa kuwala, ndipo mwamuna ndi pragmatic. Koma chofunikacho chikhale chimodzi - chofunika mwamsanga kukhala pamodzi. Kufotokozera mwachidule mfundo izi, tingathe kunena kuti chikondi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi sichimveka chimodzimodzi, koma chimakhala champhamvu kwambiri kwa wina ndi mzake kwa nthawi yaitali.
Mwamwayi, chikondi ndi talente yomwe Ambuye sanapereke kwa aliyense, mwinamwake mabanja sangawonongeke, ndipo sipadzakhalanso kusudzulana. Koma chinthu chimodzi ndi chotsimikizika - ndizo. Kukumana kwa nthawi yoyamba anthu, kuthandizana poyamba ndi deta, kununkhiza, kenako kumabwera gawo loyankhulana, ndipo amayamba kuzindikira ndi kusanthula zomwe zimakhalapo. Zonsezi zokhudzana ndi magawo awiri oyambirira zimapereka chitukuko kapena zimasiya kugonana, kotero chikondi sichidzawuka. Chikhulupiriro chakuti malingaliro angakhalepo mwachangu, poyamba pakuwona, ndi chinyengo kwambiri. Kodi munthu angayambe bwanji kukonda ndi munthu popanda kudziwa chomwe chimayambira? Monga ngati chithunzi chokongola? Mgwirizano woterewu ndithudi udzakhala waufupi, ndipo chikondi chake chimangopeka. Pali zosiyana, koma ndi zokhazokha kuposa lamulo.
Kotero, chikondi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi ndi polyhedron, yomwe mbali zake zimatchedwa: kukopa, chilakolako, ubwenzi, chisamaliro, kumvetsa, kulemekeza, kutha kumva ndi kumverera moyo wanu wokondedwa, kukhulupirika ndi kuwona mtima. Aliyense adzatha kuwonjezera nkhope zawo pamndandanda uwu, koma zilizonse zomwe zilipo, chinthu chachikulu ndi choti ziyenera kukhala. Kukwera chikhalidwe cha kulankhulana ndi zokoma mu ubale, mphamvu zidzakhala mgwirizano wa mwamuna ndi mkazi, ndipo chikondi chokhalitsa chidzakhala ndi moyo. Inde, yankho la funsoli: "Kodi chikondi pakati pa abambo ndi amai ndi chiyani?" Chinakhala chosavuta komanso chosamveka, koma wina angayankhe: chifukwa chiyani amakonda munthu? ..