Pali pakati pathu anthu oterewa omwe amayesetsa kuchita zogwirizana ndi sayansi. Kusankhidwa kwa mabuku apadera kuchokera mndandanda wakuti "Malangizo a Psychologist", kuwerenga mosamala ndi pensulo, nthawi zina kumvetsera. Maphunziro a zachiphunzitso amaphatikizapo machitidwe olimbitsa thupi, kufufuza zomwe zikuchitika ... Ndipo tsiku ndi tsiku, chaka ndi chaka. Mawu akuti "tiyeni tiyankhule mozama" nthawi yomweyo amachititsa chisoni komanso kuganiza kuti sikuyenera kuchita popanda kuleza mtima mu br2 ndipo, ziribe kanthu momwe Ndibwino kuti mukuwerenga Fully, muyenera kupanikizira mano anu ndikuwongolera chinachake chalitali komanso chokhazikika. Chomwe chimakondweretsa - ndi "chilango chokhalitsa" omwe akatswiri a zamaganizo amamvetsera ndi kuthandizira ndi malangizo osiyanasiyana kuti "apulumuke" ndikugwirizana.
Koma nsomba yachiwiri, yomwe, malinga ndi mabanja ambiri okondwa-yaitali-liver, chikwati chaukwati chimasungidwa, palibe choperekedwa. Ndipo momwe mungalankhulire mwansangala, kodi n'zotheka? Sitikudzipenda, ndipo palibe phindu, komwe angatiphunzitse kuthetsa mkangano wa banja ndi nthabwala zofewa, kutsogolera zokambirana, kumangokhalira kusakhutira ndi mnzawo kapena, mosiyana, kumulimbikitsa komanso kuthana ndi mavuto.
Masewero
Koma inu mukhoza kuyang'ana mkhalidwe mosiyana. Zoonadi, palibe chilichonse mmoyo wathu chomwe chimakhala ngati masewera, ngati kuseketsa. Ndipo bwanji osayesa kupeza malamulo a masewerawa? Chabwino, pafupifupi pafupifupi. Kotero ...
Chiwerengero cha osewera. Mwachidziwikire, aliyense, tsopano ndi funso la awiri - mwamuna ndi mkazi.
Cholinga cha masewerawo. Ndithudi, kuti muyankhule ndi "hafu" yanu ya uzimu ndikubwera ku izi osati mwa kuwonetsa kovuta kwambili, koma kuseka, kumadzetsa chimwemwe kwa inu nokha ndi munthu wapafupi. Izi sizikutanthawuza mwadala kunyalanyaza mavuto omwe mosakayikira amadza m'moyo. Ndizomwe mungathe kuzichitira mosiyana, ndipo zimakhala zovuta kufotokoza ndi kuthetsa mikangano ndi kuseketsa kuposa kukambirana koopsa "koopsa".
Komabe, izi ndizo, m'malo mwake, malamulo a masewerawo. Pali awiri a iwo - nthabwala (kapena kuseka) ndi zonyansa (kapena kuseka). Ichi, ndithudi, ndi cholinga chophweka. Zoonadi, kuseketsa m'moyo wa banja kumakhala kosiyana kwambiri - kuchokera kumalingaliro okhwima kupita ku ziwonetsero zazing'ono. Koma zonsezi ndizokhaokha kuti mwakonzedwe kotereku sikugwirizana.
Mlalhabwala!
Mukhoza kuseka m'njira zosiyanasiyana: zozizwitsa komanso osati zovuta, zanzeru ndi zopusa, ndi chithunzi ndi chopanda. Jokes zikhoza kumveka bwino - nthawi zambiri zimangokhala zochitika mwatsatanetsatane pamsonkhanowo kapena mawu a interlocutor, osati kudziyesa kudziwika. Komabe, chidziwitso cha "chiyeso chachikulu", mosakayikira, chimatanthauzira mawu olakwika ndipo amafuna munthu wododometsa kukhala ndi luso linalake.
N'zochititsa chidwi kuti kumayambiriro kwa moyo wokhudzana, kuseka m'banja kumamveketsa, mwinamwake, mobwerezabwereza kusiyana ndi mtsogolo, koma, monga lamulo, popanda chilembo chokha komanso popanda cholinga chapadera. Pamene awiriwa amadziwitsana bwino (ndi mabungwe onse omwe amachititsa kuti ntchitoyi isinthe), nthabwala zimakhala zothandiza komanso zothandiza. Ntchito yawo ndi yaikulu kwambiri. Monga lamulo, anthu okhala pansi pa denga lomwelo posakhalitsa amayamba kumvetsa kuti popanda kuseketsa, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kupeŵa mpanda wosadziŵika m'madzi. Mwachidule, pamene pali kuthetsa kwakukulu kwambiri, nthabwala.
Koma chisangalalo chimangobwera mwachangu pamene mwamuna ndi mkazi wake amaimira momwe wokondedwayo amachitira ndi machitidwe awo, ali ndi chidaliro chokwanira. Ndipo amatsatira lamulo loti asamaseke ndi zinthu zina zoletsedwa (ndipo zili m'modzi mwa ife).
Ngati mungalankhule zambiri, sikoyenera kukhudza maphwando omwe amachititsa kudzidalira kwa munthu wina - ichi ndi kuseketsa koipa. Izi, ndithudi, zimakhalansopo, ndipo nthawi zina n'zosatheka kuchita popanda izo. Kuphatikizana ndi maukwati. Zoipa zitha kugwiritsidwa ntchito monga chida champhamvu, motero kutchula zinthu mwa mayina awo, kumabweretsa chidziwitso ku zinthu zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi wina aliyense. Koma, monga mankhwala aliwonse olimbitsa, gwiritsani ntchito bwino pakakhala zovuta kwambiri. Adakali masewera opanda malamulo.
Njoka zina ... zimapweteka
Mwachidwi amasewera mocheperapo kusiyana ndi kuseka. M'malo mwake, amagwiritsa ntchito ngati chishango, mipanda yochokera kunja - ngati siyenerana ndi chinachake, ndipo nkoyenera kusintha. Ndiye zonyansazo sizingasinthe. Izi - zilizonse zomwe munganene - chitetezo, ndipo ngati mukuyenera kudziteteza nokha pa theka lanu, ndi zabwino zotani?
Ndiyenera kunena kuti amayi omwe ali ndi ziit zokondweretsa kwambiri komanso akuthwa-komanso kuntchito komanso kunyumba, makamaka ngati mutu wa banja amatha kuchita nawo zakudya komanso podnachki.
Mawu odabwitsa amatanthawuza kuti subtext yozama - wina amvetse, ina imadutsa (mwangozi kapena mwadala). Ndipo ngati iye amamvetsa ndipo mmalo molemba zolemba, iye amakhumudwa? Chabwino, mukhoza kumbuyo nthawi zonse: "N'chifukwa chiyani mumatentha? Ine sindimatanthauza izo nkomwe ... "Ndipo ponyani kunja zikuwoneka kuti uku ndikutaya - chimodzimodzi, kusiyana koyamba kudzakhala pa interlocutor mu subcortex. N'zosadabwitsa kuti ndizosayenerera - njira yabwino yolankhulirana mwachindunji, pamene palibe kuthekera kosonyeza kusagwirizana. Funso lina ndiloti ndibwino ngati vutoli likukula m'banja, koma ngati likuchitika, silingasinthe popanda njira yodzikongoletsa.
Komabe, pali mtundu wa maukwati, kumene kunyalanyaza ndi nkhani yodzilemekeza yokha - monga njira yoganizira komanso ngakhale kukhalapo. Kawirikawiri awa ndi anthu amatsenga, okhudzana ndi kuseketsa kowonongeka ndi wokondedwa, ndi iwo okha, omwe ndi ofunikira. Chabwino, ngati mu "wovuta" wotereyi mpikisano iwiri pa phazi lofanana. Ndiye palibe amene amamva kuti "amaletsedwa" ndipo banjali silinayanjane.