Pafupifupi atsikana onse kuyambira ali mwana ayenera kumva kuti ayenera kupeza mwamuna wabwino ndi kukwatira bwino. Koma ngati mwamunayo salipo ndipo ukwati sungakonzedwe zaka zisanu zotsatira, kodi ndi bwino kukhumudwa ndiye?
Ndipotu, malingaliro akuti mkazi ayenera kukhala wokwatira ndipo mwamuna wake akhoza kuonedwa kuti ndizochitika zakale. Palibe chisangalalo kuti mkazi atsala yekha. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuti iye ayeneradi kusiya yekha. Ndipo, si za amayi omwe amadana ndi muzhchin ndi kuwadutsa mwa njira khumi. Khalidweli ndilo lingaliro, ndipo ndikofunikira kulimbana nalo. Tsopano tikukamba za amayi ozunguliridwa omwe ali ndi kulankhulana kokwanira, ndipo amadana nawo onse omwe ali ndi mphamvu zogonana, chifukwa sawamvetsera, koma amayi onse amakhala ndi mtundu wina wa anthu.
Kukhoza kuzindikira
Kotero, bwanji mkazi angakhale yekha? Choyamba, ndipo chifukwa chovuta kukangana, kusungulumwa kumapangitsa kuti zitsimikizire. Mkazi akwatirana kapena amakhala ndi mnyamata, kawirikawiri amathera nthawi ndi zofuna zawo, paulendo ndi zina zotero. Ndipo pamene ana abadwa, ndiye kuti mungathe kuiwala zaka zingapo. Ziribe kanthu momwe mwamuna ndi mkazi wake amachitira zosowa, pamapeto pake zonsezi zimatsimikizira kuti ndalama zonse zimapita ku moyo, snobby, zipangizo ndi zina zotero. Kuti tikhale ndi moyo wamba, tiyenera kugwira ntchito zambiri, koma kupumula ndi kudzikuza kumakhalabe zovuta. Wopanda payekha wa zonsezi wawonongeka. Amatha kupeza zambiri monga momwe akufunira kuti azikhala bwino. Kuonjezera apo, ali ndi zonse zomwe samagula pa kugula kwazimayi zilizonse zazimayi ndipo samamvetsera tirades za mwamuna wake ponena kuti amagwiritsira ntchito ndalama zamtundu uliwonse. Komabe, chifukwa chakuti simukusowa kugwira ntchito mwakhama kuti musamalire banja, mkazi wosakwatiwa amakhala ndi nthawi yochuluka yochita zosangalatsa, kuyenda ndi zina zotero. Anthu ambiri amanena kuti pang'onopang'ono mabwenzi ndi achibale amayamba mabanja ndi ana ndipo kuyenda kumakhala kovuta, koma zambiri sizosangalatsa. Ndipotu, ichi ndi chifukwa chopusa. Ngati munthu ali ndi chibwenzi, nthawi zonse amatha kudziwana ndi anzanu atsopano omwe amakonda kumadzikonda okha komanso kuti asauze aliyense.
Thandizo
Mwa njira, mkazi wosakwatiwa sali wotsutsa. M'malo mwake, ndi iye amene angathe kuthandiza achibale ake nthawi yovuta. Monga lamulo, amayi osakwatiwa ali ndi nthawi komanso mwayi wokhala ndi ntchito, choncho nthawi zonse amakhala ndi ndalama zokwanira kuti azidzipereka okha, komanso kuthandiza ena. Ndipo komabe, mlongo kapena msungwana wosungulumwa ndi azakhali abwino omwe angamuthandize nthawi zonse ndi mwanayo, kumuthandiza naye, khalani pansi pamene makolo akufunikira kuthawa. Mwa njirayi, amayi ambiri osakwatira safuna kukhala ndi banja, chifukwa amamva kuti sangathe kudzipereka kwathunthu kwa mwanayo ndikukhala amayi oipa. Pali anthu amene amatsutsa akaziwa, koma kwenikweni, akazi oterewa, ndi owona mtima ndi ena. Amazindikira kuipa kwawo, ndipo samasewera pa omvetsera mu ubale, koma mosadziŵa kapena ngakhale kudziŵa, amadana ndi ana awo. Kuphatikiza apo, kukhala nokha kumakhalanso ndi chibadwa cha amayi, ndipo ndi zokwanira kusangalala kuchita ndi mphwake wanu. Inde, mwa njira, ndi osungulumwa akazi omwe amalandira chisangalalo chachikulu pakukangana ndi ana awo osati nthawi zonse chifukwa alibe ana awo. Prostoonyi akufuna kuikapo munthu wina chidziwitso ndi luso lawo, koma samawona kuti ali ndi udindo wochita izi nthawi zonse. Ndipo monga mukudziwira, mwa kukhumba kwathu, tonse timagwira ntchito bwino kuposa mwa dongosolo.
Ufulu
Chifukwa chiyani kukhala wosungulumwa kukhala bwino kuposa wina? Kuphatikiza kwina ndi ufulu wachitapo kanthu. Mukhoza kuyenda ndi abwenzi ndi abambo ndipo osapereka zifukwa pamaso pa mwamuna wanu, pofotokozera kuti iwo ndi abwenzi enieni, ndipo nthawi yomwe mumafuna kuwawona nthawi zambiri sichikutanthauza chilichonse chimene mukufuna kusintha. Mayi akhoza kuphika zomwe akufuna, osakhala pa mphika kwa theka la tsiku, kuti wokondedwa abwere, adye zonse kwa theka la ora, kenako anati: "Ayi, ndithudi, sibwino, koma mungathe kudula tomato pang'ono." Kawirikawiri, mayiyo amaperekedwa kwa iye yekha ndipo amatha kusintha moyo "pansi payekha" m'malo moganiza, poyamba, munthu, monga momwe amachitira ndi oimira akazi onse.
Kuchokera kwa amayi osakwatira, amapereka odzipereka kwambiri. Ndi amayi omwe angathe kusangalala ndi nthawi yawo komanso ndalama zawo pa osowa, podziwa kuti palibe amene akusowa njala kunyumba. Koma ngati mumaganizira za izi, ndibwino kuti muwathandize omwe amafunikiradi. Ndi ana angati omwe ali ndi nyumba za ana amasiye, ndi anthu angati okalamba omwe ali m'chipatala chomwe sichifunikira kwa wina aliyense. Kwa anthu ena zimakhala zosangalatsa komanso zosavuta kupereka chikondi chawo kwa iwo kusiyana ndi kupereka kwa munthu amene pakapita nthawi akhoza kungotopa.
Kugonana kwaokha
Anthu ambiri amanena kuti amayi osakwatira amadwala chifukwa chosowa pogonana kapena mosiyana, amayamba kukhala atsikana omwe ali ndi khalidwe losavuta. Ndipotu, omwe amachitadi momwemo samakhala ndi vuto la kusowa kwa kugonana, koma chifukwa cha kusowa nzeru. Mkazi wosakwatiwa wokhazikika angathe kudzipereka mosavuta, osatembenukira kwa iwo omwe amatchedwa "wagwa." Chofunika kwambiri ndi chakuti mayi yekhayo sali ndi chikhumbo chofuna kupeza mwamuna wake yekha, ndiye kuti sayenera kukhala yekha, osati kumangogonana naye, chifukwa akhoza kukondana ndi iye, ndiyeno kuzunzika kwa nyumba yake kudzayamba. Ngati mayi sakuzindikira izi, ndiye kuti akhoza kukhala mwamtendere ndi ubale monga "ubwenzi ndi mwayi". Mu kampani kapena gulu lirilonse liyenera kukhala mwamuna wosakwatiwa yemwe safuna kudziyanjanitsa ndi maubwenzi akuluakulu, koma nthawi zonse amakhala okonzeka kugonana ndi mayi yemwe ali ndipo akhoza kukhala bwenzi lake. Kwa atsikana osakwatiwa mabwenzi otere ndiwo njira yabwino kwambiri. Ndipo kuti mulibe kanthu kwa wina ndi mzake, mulibe mnzanu wokhayokha, komanso munthu amene angakuthandizeni ndi ntchito yeniyeni, ndipo samverani. Ndipo pambuyo pa onse akazi, monga zoona, izi ndi zofunika отпаней. Pambuyo pake, timakwatirana, chifukwa tikufuna kuti tizisamalira, kuthandizidwa, ndi kupanga manja okongola. Nthawi zambiri nthawi zonse zimathera pomwe sitampu imayikidwa pa pasipoti. Koma abwenzi athu abambo nthawi zonse amakonzeka kuchita zabwino kwa chibwenzi chawo, chifukwa samadzimva kuti ali ndi udindo ndipo akhoza kuchoka nthawi iliyonse. Ndipo monga mukudziwa, ngati munthu akumva kuti ndi womasuka kuchita, ndiye sakufuna kupita kulikonse.
Kusungulumwa kwa amayi sikuli koopsa monga kungathere mukatha kumvetsera nkhani za mbadwo wokalamba. Chophweka, chomwe chinasankha njira yeniyeni ya moyo, chiyenera kubwezeretsedwanso, ndi kusabisala mwachisoni cha kusalabadira. Komabe, sayenera kuchita mantha ndi kuopa anthu. Mwa njira, ngati muchita moyo mwanjira iyi, dziyang'anire nokha ndikhale wokhutira, ndiye pamapeto pake, mungathe kukumana ndi munthu amene angakuvomerezeni izi ndipo osayesa kusintha chirichonse chimene chidzakonde ndi kugwadira, m'malo moyembekezera kulambirira. Pambuyo pa zonse, kuti asalankhulane kumeneko, ndipo amuna amalemekeza kwambiri amayi omwe ali ndi mphamvu omwe angachoke nthawi zonse, chifukwa iwo ndi iwo okha si oipa.