Akazi amakonda ndi makutu awo - ndipo izi ndizozindikiritsidwa. Ndichifukwa chake sitiyenera kukhala chete ndi ife. Nthawi zonse timafuna kuti tipitirize kukambirana, mvetserani zoyamikira ndi zina zotero. Si anthu onse amene angatipatse izi. Kodi tingatani kuti tiyankhulane ndi mnyamata wosayankhula? Momwe mungaphunzire momwe mungachitire mukakhala chete molondola?
Amayi ambiri amapanga zolakwa zambiri chifukwa sakumvetsa chifukwa chake mnyamatayo akukhala chete. Zikuwoneka kuti mnyamatayo samawakonda, amabisala zina ndi zina zotero. Komatu, zonse zimasiyana kwambiri. Tsopano tizakambirana za chifukwa chake anyamata amakhala chete.
Mavuto onse amakonzedwa okha
Amuna onse samakonda kukamba za mavuto awo ndi zochitika zawo. Koma ngati ambiri a iwo akhoza kukokera chinachake, ndiye anyamata amaganiza kuti mavuto awo sayenera kuganizira aliyense, kotero amayesa kuti asawonetsere malingaliro ake. Kawirikawiri, kwa iwo ndizovuta kudziwa ngati chinachake chinachitika. Koma kawirikawiri pamakanthawi otere achinyamata amakhala chete kuposa nthawi zonse. Ngati muwona kuti mnyamatayu ali chete, simukusowa kumufunsa mafunso, ndipo mochulukirapo, mukanikireni. Azimayi ambiri amayamba kutulutsa mawonekedwe awo, kupanga zochitika ndipo, motero, akudziyesa kuti adzinenera ndikuponyera milandu muzinthu zovuta. Kotero kuti musamachitepo ayi, chifukwa mukumupweteka yemwe mumamukonda. Iye amakhala chete kuti asakukhumudwitse iwe, koma iwe umayamba amatsenga akudziwa kuti iwe ukhoza kumuchitira chipongwe. Amayi ambiri amayesa kuti anyamata awauze chilichonse. Mwatsoka, izi sizingatheke. Amuna oterewa sadzaika mavuto awo pamapewa a ena, makamaka ngati awa ndi mapewa ofooka a mtsikana wokondedwa. Ndicho chifukwa chake m'malo mwake kuti mum'dzudzule machimo onse, ndi bwino kuphika mbale yanu yomwe mumaikonda kapena kupita naye kwinakwake kumene iye amakonda. Choncho, mumamuthandiza kwambiri mnyamatayo, adzakhumudwa ndikuiwala mavuto ake mwamsanga.
"Chotupa"
Chinthu china cha khalidwe la amuna osalankhula, omwe amawopsya akazi - amawakonda chifukwa chotchedwa "veal tenderness." Anyamatawa samakonda kuuza ena mwachikondi, koma amatha kunena kuti "ndimakukondani" pa maholide apadera. Zoonadi, amayi okondedwa alibe zokwanira, ndipo amapanganso kukonza zopanda pake ndikuyamba kupereka umboni wokhudza nkhanza komanso nkhanza. Okondedwa akazi, simungathe kuchita izi mwanjira iliyonse. Amakukondani, komanso kwambiri. Ngati sakanakonda, akanadasiya kale chinyengo choyambacho. Iye sakudziwa momwe angafunire kukamba za chikondi. N'kosavuta kuti anyamata oterewa apulumutse mfumu yachifumu kuchokera ku chinjoka kusiyana ndi kulemba kwa osadziwika. Komabe, anyamata samvetsetsa chifukwa chake nthawi zonse amakamba za chikondi. Ngati adanena kale kuti amakonda, zikutanthauza kwanthawizonse. Ngati, atasiya kukonda, nthawi yomweyo adzakuuzani za izo. Ngati munthuyo sakunena kuti malingaliro apita, ndiye kuti zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti azimayiwo azisangalala kwambiri ndikukhala chete komanso kusowa kuyamikira. Pambuyo pake, nthawi zina anthu osalankhula amawauza, koma pokhapokha pamene maonekedwe anu amawagwedeza. Ndipo kotero, bwanji kuthamanga mawu, pamene iwe ungakhoze kuyang'ana pa mkazi, ndipo chirichonse chimakhala chowonekera. Koma okhawo omwe amaimira zachiwerewere sazindikira nthawi zonse malingaliro ndi kuyang'ana molondola zomwe anyamata akuchita zomwe iwo akuwakonda. Ngati mnyamata wina anapita ndikusintha njirayi mnyumba, chifukwa simunasangalale kapena munapeza chinachake ndipo munapatsa chinachake chimene munalota ngati mwana, koma simungathe kukwanitsa - ichi ndi chiwonetsero cha chikondi chachikulu. Ndipo ngakhale kuti sanayankhe kwenikweni pa kuyamikira kwanu, adangogwira mphatsoyo m'manja mwake, mwa njira, kumbukirani kuti manja awa akunena za chikondi chake chachikulu ndi chowonadi. Kotero mmalo mochita zamatsenga ndi kumudzudzula mnyamatayo chifukwa cha machimo onse omwe amati, tiwathokozeni kwa iye ndi kuchita chinachake chabwino kwa iye. Ntchito yanu ndi yofunika kwambiri kuposa mawu ambiri.
Mmene mungalankhulire ndi munthu yemwe ali chete
Amuna osalankhula pa izi ndi chete, kuti muzokambirana zonse alankhule chiwerengero chochepa cha mawu kapena mawu. Kwa amayi, sizolandiridwa, ndimayamba ndikuwoneka kuti mnyamatayo samamvetsera, kuti safuna kuti ayambe kukhumudwitsa ndikuponyera mlandu pazolakwa zonse. Ngakhale kuti anyamata sankaganiziranso kunyalanyaza iwo. Chowonadi ndi chakuti iwo amene amakonda kukhala chete, kwenikweni, ndi omvera kwambiri. Mosiyana ndi anyamata omwe amalankhula zambiri, samangomvetsera mawuwo kuti athe kunena mawu awo. Amuna awa amamvetsera ndikumva akazi. Ngati afunsanso mwezi umodzi zomwe zokambiranazo zakhala zikuchitika, ndiye kuti munthu woteroyo akhoza kupeza yankho lolondola nthawi zonse. Kodi simungakhoze kunena chiyani za oimira oyankhula omwe ali pamunda wamphamvu. Choncho, ngati munthu wanu ali chete, sizikutanthauza kuti "amathawa m'mitambo." Amamvetsera mwatcheru kwa inu, samangonena chilichonse kapena saona kuti n'kofunika kuika ndemanga zake panthawiyi. Woperekera msonkho atakhala ndi maganizo okhudza zomwe wamva, adzalankhula zomwe akuganiza, kulangiza ndi zina zotero. Koma konzekerani kuti ndemanga zake komanso malangizo ake azikhala achidule, ngakhale kuti ali ndi mphamvu. Amayi ambiri amakonda "pobsasyvat" mwatsatanetsatane, kubwera ndi kubwereza zomwe zikwizikwi. Monga mukudziwira, munthu wamtendere sangachichite. Iye samangowona lingaliro lakuwoneratu zochitika kapena kukambirana za anthu. Amunawa akunena zoona ndipo samafuna kukambirana miseche. Ngakhale atamvera nkhani zanu zokhudzana ndi moyo wa munthu kapena munthu ameneyo, musayembekezere kuti mnyamatayo ayamba kupereka ndemanga pa izi. Kawirikawiri, anthu otere sakonda kulankhula za mlendo kapena moyo wawo.
Kuyankhula zaumwini
Mwa njira, chinthu chomaliza kukumbukira ndikulankhula zaumwini. Mwa amuna osalankhula ndi zovuta kwambiri kupeza zambiri za moyo wawo. Amuna awa amakhulupirira kuti zonse zomwe zimawachitikira, ayenera kukhala. Inde, nthawizina amatsegula chophimba chobisa kumayandikana nawo. Koma kuti iwo sanalankhule, ndizochepa peresenti. Ndipo, mwanjira iyi, anyamata samayesa kudzibisa okha ndipo amangirire chidwi chanu. M'malo mwake, iwo samakonda kugwiritsa ntchito njira iliyonse yomangirira munthu. Ndizoti iwo amakhulupirira moona mtima kuti zonse zomwe zinachitika m'moyo ndizopita. Ndipo izi ndizo zawo, zabwino ndi zoipa. Ndiye bwanji uzani wina za zomwe zinachitika zaka khumi zapitazo. Komanso, izi sizikusokoneza mkhalidwewu pakali pano. Kotero, ngati mnyamata wanu sakukuuzani za chikondi chake chonse chogonjetsa ndi kutayika, kaya ndi angati omwe ali ndi akazi ndi kakietragedii naye, sizikutanthauza kuti iye ndi wobisika kapena, Mulungu sakuletsa, simukukhulupirira. Mwachidule aliyense ali ndi ufulu payekha, koma kwa muzhchin mofatsa ufulu uwu sungakhoze kuchotsedwa. Choncho musayese chilichonse kuchokera kwa iye ndipo musayesere kudziulula nokha. Mwina iye mwini adzakuuzani chinachake pamene akupeza kuti mukufunikira kudziwa izi. Koma ngakhale sangakuuzeni zinsinsi zake, khalani osasangalala, chifukwa kale lomwe silikukhudzani malingaliro anu kwa inu.