Kodi mungapewe bwanji mikangano pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi? Kuti muyankhe funso ili muyenera kudziwa zoyambitsa zake poyamba. Ndipo kotero, amuna ndi akazi amaganiza m'njira zosiyana, amakhala ndi malingaliro osiyana, ndipo, motero, zochita zawo.
Ngati mwamuna amazolowereka kuganiza ndi kuchita zambiri, mkaziyo ali ndi vutoli. Komanso, zifukwa zotsutsanazi ndizosalemekeza wina ndi mzake, kukana kuthandizana wina ndi mzake, kumvetsetsa kosiyana kwa mawu oti "chikondi". Kwa wina, chikondi ndi kugonana, ndi wina - ubwenzi wapamtima, ubwenzi. Komabe ndikuyenera kuzindikira kuti mikangano yambiri imabweretsa vuto la amai, pamene akuyesera kuchita "kupsa mtima" kapena "kubwezera". Amuna amatha kupeza njira yowonongeka kuchokera ku vuto linalake.
Pamene munthu ali ndi mavuto alionse, amayamba kuganiza mozama momwe angawathetsere, amapita "mwa iyemwini" ndipo zonse zomwe zimamuzungulira zimakankhira kumbuyo. Mkaziyo amadziwa izi ndipo amayamba kuyang'ana mavuto ake, amayamba kuganiza kuti sakukondwera, kuti akufuna kumusiya, ndi zina zotero. Ndiyeno chiani? Ndiye iye amayesera kuzilingalira izo zonse! Kumvera kumayamba, kufunsa mafunso komanso nthawi yomwe akufuna kukhala yekha. Kodi amatani? Inde, sangazikonda, ndipo adzachita zonse zomwe zimamukondweretsa, kukwiyitsa mkangano, kunena kuti akukhumudwa ndikumusiya yekha. Mwamunayo adzathetsa mavuto ake onse, kupumula komanso kudzakhala okonzeka kulola okondedwa ake kulowa mu moyo wake ...
Kodi amai ena, omwe sawona kuti ndi kofunikira kuti azipuntha mutu wanu kapena amene amadzidalira okha? Iwo amayamba kudzichita okha, amapita ku salons osiyanasiyana, kugula zinthu zambiri ndi zinthu zina zambiri kuti akondwere nazo. Amapita ndi abwenzi kumalo osiyanasiyana osangalatsa. Iwo samaganizira za zotsatira zake, musati mutseke mitu yawo ndi malingaliro osafunikira. Ndipo pamene mwamuna ali wokonzeka kumvetsera kwa theka lake lachiwiri, iye akuwonekera pamaso pake akukhazikika, apumula. Ndipo amasonyeza chisamaliro ndi kusamalira mwamuna pamene amafunikira. Ndipo chirichonse chiri chabwino kwa iwo.
Yankho lake ndi lotani? Kudzipangitsa nokha ndikuyesera kuti mudziwe zomwe mwamunayo wapanga kapena "kupita ndi kutuluka" ndikudikirira mpaka chirichonse chitangidwe?
Muyenera kukhala omvetsetsa ndi achikondi, mutha kulingalira nthawi yomwe wokondedwa wanu akufuna kukhala yekha, ndipo sikuti mkaziyo amamukwiyitsa, ayi, amuna okha ndi omwe amakonzedweratu kotero, mwa njira ina amakumana ndi zovuta kuthetsa mavuto awo. Ndikofunika kukhala pavuto kuti akhale pafupi ndipo ngati mukufuna kunena kuti mutha kumvetsera mwakachetechete, ndiye kuti theka la vutoli lidzathetsedwa, popeza atatha kukambirana ndiye kuti ali ndi udindo wofunikira. Simufunikanso kuiwala za inu nokha, dzipatseni nokha mpumulo, dzikonzeni nokha.
Mulimonse mulibe mikangano, wina sangathe kunyozana, yesetsani kukhumudwitsa. Ngakhale mutadziwa kuti ndinu wolondola, yesani kumwetulira ndikuwona kuti kusagwirizana kumatayika.
Pofuna kupewa mikangano, nkofunika kumverana wina ndi mzake, kulemekeza maganizo a okondedwa awo, komanso, kufunafuna kusamvana. Mwinamwake ichi ndi chinthu chovuta kwambiri muukwati, koma ndiwe wokhoza kumanga mgwirizano wokha, ngati mutasankha.