Atsikana ambiri amakumana ndi mavuto ndi chibwenzi. Makamaka ngati zimakhudza anthu onse (sukulu, yunivesite, khoti, mpumulo, ndi zina). Chinthu chachikulu apa ndikuyamba kukambirana. Kumbukirani, kulakwitsa kwakukulu kudzakhala ngati mutanena mwachindunji pamphumi zomwe mukufuna kudziwa. Tiyenera kuyamba ndi chinachake chosalowerera. Kudziwa bwino ndi nthawi yabwino, mwachitsanzo, kusukulu kapena panthawi yopuma. Zimadalira mtundu kapena zofanana zomwe zili, kapena mwinamwake wophunzira naye. Ndiye mungatani kuti mukumane ndi mnyamata kusukulu? Mukukonda msungwana aliyense akusowa thandizo ndipo izi ndizophatikizapo, ambiri mwa anyamata osangalala simudzatsutsa izi kapena pempholi. Ngati mukudziwa zimenezo, amadziwa bwino izi kapena nkhaniyi, gwiritsani ntchito izi.
Mwachitsanzo, mubwere ndi funso: "koma simunandithandize kuthetsa vutolo", kapena "ndithandizeni kupeza chidziwitso," "mudalinso ndi chiyani" komanso zambiri. Iyi ndiyo njira yabwino yolumikizira ndi kuyankhula, ndipo pali mwayi wa msonkhano. Chifukwa chofala chimagwirizanitsa. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kuchita izi mosavuta komanso mosagwirizana. Mufunseni za zofuna zake, za mabuku omwe mumakonda, mafilimu, ndi zina zotero. Phunzirani za izo momwe zingathere, ndipo mudzakhala ndi zomwe mungakambirane nazo m'tsogolomu. Mwa njira, kuyamba pomwe, kambiranani aphunzitsi anu - iyi ndiyo njira yabwino yothetsera chiyanjano. Chabwino, ngati mwadzidzidzi, mnyamatayu sakuyankha mwamsanga pempho lanu, musadabwe, mwinamwake sanaganizire kuti adzamuyandikira ndi pempho ndipo chifukwa cha manyazi. Chotsani chilengedwe, kachiwiri, mtundu wina wa phunziro pafupi ndi inu. Mwachitsanzo, pafupi ndi mayesero atsopano kapena zolembedwa. Ngati simukudziwa zomwe mungachite, msiyeni anene. Ingokufunsani nkhani yeniyeni ya zokambirana, ndiko kuti, musanene kuti "lankhulani chinachake", koma ayambe monga: "Ndimakonda masewera a pakompyuta ..." kapena china chake. Mphindi yachiwiri adzalumikizana ndikukambirana naye. Anyamata amakonda kulankhula za chinachake ndipo amamvetsera mwatcheru. Ndiye musaiwale kunena pang'ono za inu nokha ndikufunsa za moyo wake. Kumwetulira, kukondwa, chiyembekezo, zosavuta - ndiye zonse zidzatha. Pambuyo pake, kukangana ndi mdani wamkulu wa kuyankhulana. Ndiwuzeni zamtundu uliwonse, nthabwala - anyamata ngati atsikana achiwerewere.
Njira yabwino ndikufunsira buku, tsamba, pepala loyesera, kabuku koyera. Yandikirani kwa iye, mumupemphe chinachake kuchokera pamwambapa. Tsiku lotsatira mukhoza kulandira mosangalala "mpulumutsi" wanu. Kotero, wayamba kale kunena hello - osati choyipa pachiyambi. Zoonadi? Patapita kanthawi, mukhoza kubwereza kuitana kwa chithandizo. Musangodzibwereza nokha. Ngati akadakumanebe, koma sanasiye kunena. Dikirani pang'ono ndikudzipangitsa nokha. Sankhani nthawi yomwe idzakhale ndi mnzanu (mwachitsanzo, mu kampani yaying'ono). Musaiwale kuti muwoneke bwino lero. Bwerani ndi mawu amodzi monga: "Mpulumutsi, moni! Timaphunzira kusukulu ina, koma sitikudziwana. Nanga bwanji kuti sitikudziwanabe? Dzina langa ndilo-n-wakuti, ndipo inu? Tiyeni tidziwe bwino! Kuphunzira kumakhala kosangalatsa! ". Yesetsani kumudziwa bwino ndi anzanu akusukulu (omwe ali pafupi kwambiri ndi anzanu akusukulu). Kuwadziwa, mumatha kumuyandikira molimba mtima, ngakhale atayankhula nawo.
Anzanu apamtima kusukulu (ndipo izi, ine ndikuganiza, zidzakhala mwanjira iliyonse) ndi zina, zofunika komanso kuphatikizapo. Kuchokera kwa iwo mukhoza kuphunzira zambiri za mnyamata amene mungathandize kupanga chithunzi cha mnzanuyo pasadakhale. Iwo angathenso, mwadzidzidzi (pa pempho lanu) kukuuzani, ndiyo imodzi mwa njira zabwino kwambiri zomwe mungaphunzire za kukhalako kwa wina ndi mzake. Kapena mumamufotokozera kuti ali ndi chidwi ndi mtsikana mmodzi kusukulu (ndithudi, musanene yemwe). Apa zikuwonekera poyera ngati iye akufuna kuti adziwane ndi aliyense pa mphindi iliyonse kapena ayi. Sikunatchulidwe kuti iye mwiniyo adzakondwera kwambiri ndi wotsutsa wake ndipo kenaka sitepe yoyamba idzakhala pambali yake.
Njira ina yodziŵira mnyamatayo kusukulu, ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ("VKontakte", "Classmates", malo ogulitsira maulendo osiyanasiyana). Monga mwana aliyense wa nthawi yathu, kwinakwake, iye ndithudi analembetsa. Pezani izo apo, yankhulani, ndiyeno muwoloke kwenikweni. Mwa njira, ndikuganiza kuti akukumbukirani kuchokera pazithunzi zanu komanso kuti akubwera kusukulu yekha sikutchulidwa. Chinthu chachikulu ndikumusangalatse, kudzera pa kulankhulana kwanu pa intaneti komanso nthawi yomweyo kuti mudziwe zomwe iye ali, zomwe amakonda, nyimbo yomwe amamvetsera. Dziwonetseni nokha kuchokera kumbali zosiyanasiyana za kuyankhulana, kutsimikizirani kuti ndinu munthu wokondweretsa kwambiri. Mwa njirayi, pamene muli pachibwenzi popanda kuthandizidwa ndi intaneti, khalani ndi chidwi: "Kodi mukukumana nawo?". Madzulo omwewo, onjezerani bwino abwenzi ndi intaneti kuti akuthandizeni.
Ndipo potsiriza, kumbukirani kuti kuti mupindule ndi mnyamatayo, ndi zida zina zapadera ndizosatheka. Musaswe mutu wanu pachabe. Khalani monga inu muliri. Musaiwale kuti si anyamata onse omwe amacheza nawo ndipo amatha kulankhulana mosavuta, makamaka makamaka pachithunzi choyamba kuti mudziwe ndi kuyankhulana. Pali anyamata omwe ali amanyazi ndi chikhalidwe chawo. Ndipo mukamayankhula, khalani ngati, poyang'ana koyamba kungawoneke, ndikumangika komanso kukanika. Koma simukuganiza kuti sakuchita manyazi. Ichi ndi chikhalidwe chake. Iye amanyadira kusonyeza chifundo kwa atsikana. Pachifukwa ichi, zonsezi zili pa inu nokha. Yesetsani kulankhula naye, chitani zonse zomwe zingatheke kuti akhale omasuka pafupi ndi winawake monga inu. Ndipo ndikuganiza kuti sipadzakhalanso manyazi. Ngati ndinu woyamba kumuitanira kusukulu kapena kumapeto kwa sabata. N'zotheka kuti iye adzakondwera kwambiri kwa inu ndipo, ndithudi, adzawona mwa inu, chinachake osati chabe bwenzi. Ndipo mutu wanu waukulu wotchedwa "sukulu" idzakuthandizani.