Tiyeni tiyambe mu dongosolo. Kodi zatsala zotani tsopano kuchokera ku malamulo ovomerezeka? Inde, tsopano, monga kale, lamulo lakuti mnyamata ndi wotetezera, wopeza ndi wankhondo, watha. Atsikana amanyengerera, amayi achikondi, zolengedwa zokondedwa. Koma poyang'ana kusintha kwa luso, zamakono, zachikhalidwe ndi zachuma, zonse zikusintha mopanda pake. Ndife funso lomwelo: ndi kusiyana kotani pakati pa anyamata ndi atsikana?
Mnyamatayo ndi wothandizira, amagwira ntchito, kupeza ntchito yowonjezera njira zowonetsetsa moyo wake ndi moyo wa wokondedwa wake. Kaŵirikaŵiri amuna amapeza ndalama ndi ntchito yamanja, ndizo ziphunzitso za Soviet kuti mphamvu m'manja mwawo, omvera a dziko lamakono amapeza njira zopezera njira zina, popanda kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zowoneka. Atsikana amagwiritsa ntchito makhalidwe awo, maonekedwe, chithumwa, kukhala ndi moyo. Uwu ndi kusiyana kwa malo oyambirira. Msungwanayo adzapeza njira yosavuta yopezeramo, popanda kuikapo ntchito yapadera, lingaliro limeneli silolakwika pokhapokha ngati akugwira ntchito, omwe ntchito ndi kukwaniritsa mapepala a ntchito ndizofunikira kwambiri kuposa chikhalidwe chawo ndi thupi lawo.
Kusiyanitsa pakati pa anyamata ndi atsikana kumaphatikizidwanso m'malingaliro a dziko ndi ngozi, makamaka chikondi. Anyamata amakhulupirira kuti kupopera zinthu zamtundu uliwonse sizinthu zowonjezereka kukonza maubwenzi, koma ndi msonkho wokondweretsa. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, pokonza phwando lachikondi kapena kupanga mphatso yamtengo wapatali, zidzakhala zofanana ndi tchuthi lirilonse, osati chifukwa cha izo! Atsikana ali okonzeka kugwedeza ubongo wawo, momwe angapangire msonkhano, chakudya chamadzulo, usiku ndi wokonda kwambiri, wosaiwalika. Inde, kuyembekezera yankho mu yankho monga "Zikomo, wokondedwa, mwakonza zonse zokongola kwambiri," sitimataya mtima, osati kumaliza. Pambuyo pa zonse, kuyesera kuti zikhale zosangalatsa kwa iye, ife tikufuna kuti pamapeto izo zinali zabwino kwa ife.
Powona mwamuna wokongola, ife timangopanga zolakwika zokhudzana ndi kuti iye akhoza kukhala kalonga uja. Uwu ndiwo kusiyana pakati pathu, atsikana ndi anyamata. Timaona chipolopolo chokongola, nthawi zina ozindikira, nthawi zina okondwa, nthawi zina chodalirika, koma pa banja loyambirira, sitigwirizanitsa kukwanira kwa chipolopolo ichi, chomwe sichingakhale chokoma ngati praline, koma chokongoletsedwa ndi zonunkhira. Anyamata akuwona zomwe akufuna, zomwe zimawakakamiza ndikuwatsata pamapeto. Anyamata akukhutira ndi chiwonetsero cha kusankha kwawo, ndipo bwanji osatero, chifukwa aliyense adzachita nsanje ndi bwenzi lokongola. Ichi ndi kusiyana. Atsikana amalota za tsogolo, anyamata akukhutira ndi zomwe zilipo.
Lingaliro la zolephera zaumwini ndilosiyana. Kusiyana ndikuti m'maganizo a atsikana izi zikugwira ntchito - sizinagwire bwino, chabwino, chabwino, simungaganize kwambiri. Kodi anyamata - ndinalephera bwanji, ndikuyenera kukhala nambala imodzi, chinthu china sichigwirizana ndi ine? Umenewo ndi kusiyana pakati pathu, anyamata ndi atsikana, sitimapachikidwa, timakhala ndi chisoni, timapitanso patsogolo pazomwe timakumana nazo, ndi amodzi omwe, okonzeka kukhala masiku, masabata, miyezi, yomwe idzamenyana ngati nsomba pa ayezi, ndi chiyembekezo chopeza zomwe akufuna. Komabe, tisaiwale kuti kuti tikwaniritse zolinga ife, atsikana, tili okonzeka kuchita zinthu zopusa, zopweteketsa komanso zokhumudwitsa.
Atsikanafe timasiyanasiyana ndi anyamatawa kuti tipeze kukoma kwawo. Timagwiritsa ntchito njira zosiyanasiyana ndi njira kuti tuluke kunja kwa gulu, kuti tikumbukire. Sitikuwopa kuti tiwoneke kuti ndife okhwima, olemetsa komanso olimba mtima, chifukwa cholinga chathu ndi chakuti tizindikire ndikukambirana. Zimagwirizana ndi anyamata pamene chirichonse chimachitika paokha popanda kusokoneza malo awoawo. Inde, ngati iwo sali miyala kapena masewera a masewera, pazifukwa izi zonse ziri zosiyana, chifukwa ponena za PR iwo ali okonzekera chirichonse, ngakhale zochita zowonjezereka kuposa mikango yapamwamba yonyama ingathe kukwanitsa. Uku ndiko kusiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi.
Musaiwale za mania yathu yonse. Zakudya! Aliyense amadziwa mawu awa, tikuwopa ndipo timayamikira pamapeto pake. Atsikana nthawi zonse amakhala otanganidwa ndi maonekedwe awo, chifaniziro, chomwe tidzakhala nacho pamsonkhano woyamba. Timakonzedwa pa kilogalamu yathu, ma volume, kukula kwake, kuti ndife okonzeka kudya kanthu ndikukhala pamadzi omwewo, kuti tipeze chovala chatsopano chakuda kuti tigonjetse munthu wathu. Chomwe chili kumapeto sichikuzindikira kusiyana kwake ngati mwagwetsa kilogalamu imodzi yovuta, kapena khumi. Mu ichi muli kuphatikiza ndi kuchepetsa. Kuwonjezera apo iwo amatiwona ife ndi kukonda chomwecho chomwe ife tiri. Ndi ubwino ndi zovuta, koma chokhumudwitsa n'chakuti iwo sangayamikire khama lomwe tapanga. Anyamata mwachibadwa samadandaula ngati anakwera mu jeans yawo lero kapena ayi. Iwo anakwera - chabwino, i-ine ndipita kukagula zatsopano, mwinamwake jeans yayamba kukhala yaying'ono. Ziribe kanthu momwe ziriri zosangalatsa, ndi zoona. Kwa ife, kuyandikira kwa nyengo yam'mphepete nyengo imati - zokwanira kudya, tenga wekha, kutsogolo kupanga fanizo. Kwa iwo - hooray, nyengo yamphepete mwa nyanja imatseguka, atsikana mu bikini, ziribe kanthu kuti ndili ndi mowa kwambiri. Uwu ndiwo kusiyana pakati pathu, anyamata ndi atsikana.
Kusiyana kwina pakati pathu ndi ubale wathu wina ndi mzake. Tili ngati mzimayi oteteza anyamata athu, timatsimikiza kuti ali oyera, otsukidwa, ameta, amodzi bwino, kotero kuti tili okondwa kukhala nawo, ndipo sizowononga kuwawonetsa anthu. Anyamata amatenganso udindo wa abambo, mutu wosasunthika, wosagwedezeka wa banja omwe ali ndi udindo pa chirichonse ndikukonda kufunikira kwake. Ziribe kanthu momwe zidziwonetsera zokhazokha, pochita posankha makina atsopano, pochita posankha zovala za masewero atsopano ochita masewera, chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti mawu awo anali otsiriza. Chifukwa cha chinyengo chathu, timatha kugwiritsa ntchito khalidwe ili la anyamata, kusewera, kulankhula pakati pa mapeto pomaliza zomwe tikufuna, kukhutiritsa zolinga zawo ndi kukhutira.
Pakati pa mikhalidwe yathu yosiyana ndi yodziwika yomwe tingathe kuyendetsa bwino amuna, komanso amavomereza kuti tichite zimenezi. Ichi ndi chitsimikiziro cha chimwemwe ndi mgwirizano wabwino pakati pathu. Uku ndiko kufanana ndi kusiyana pakati pa anyamata ndi atsikana.