Khalani ndikuwonetsa kuti zokondweretsa za atsikana nthawi zonse zimayambitsa zolakwika m'mafanizi awo. Malingana ndi kafukufuku waposachedwapa, pakati pa anyamata a zaka zoyambira 20 mpaka 27 omwe amafanizira zizindikiro, amzawo ali ndi anthu 18 okha pa zana. Koma okondedwa achicheperewa amaonekera ndi cholemba choyambirira sichikuvutitsa. Ndiye kodi wokonda mu chikondi ayenera kuchita chiyani ngati chilakolako chake chikufuna kupita ku zojambulajambula? Zilipo kuti pali njira zokhumudwitsa mtsikana kuchitapo kanthu mopanda pake.
Chithunzi cha malingaliro.
Ndipo ogwira mtima kwambiri mwa iwo ndi kupereka moyo wake mu mitundu yonse atatha kujambula. Kodi mkazi wokongola amaopa chiyani makamaka? Wopambana winanso wa buku lodziwika bwino, A. Dumas, anakonza ndendende iyi: mkazi aliyense, ngakhale atakayikira za kukongola kwake, amawopa kwambiri kuti adzozedwa. Ndipo nkhani zomvetsa chisoni za kukongola kwamtengo wapatali, omwe kukongola kwake kunathetsedwa ndi nsanje yaikulu ya okondedwa awo, choonadi ichi chimangotsimikiziridwa.
Ubwino wazimayiwa ndibwino komanso kukhazikitsa maziko a chikhulupiliro cha wokondedwa kuti asiye chizindikiro. Sangathe kungonena kuti kachilombo kameneka kanatulukidwe panthawi yomwe akujambula akhoza kuchita ndi khungu lake, komabe likuwonetseratu momveka bwino kuti pali zithunzi zambiri mu intaneti. Kuwonjezera apo, musanyalanyaze za sayansi kuti pakapita zaka zakale khungu la munthu latambasulidwa, ndipo utoto wa tattoo umachotsedwa. Choncho, patatha zaka 5-7, chithunzichi chidzawoneka ngati chonyansa. Mbali imodzi, kukangana koteroko kumasonyeza msungwanayo kuti wosankhidwa wake akufuna kukakhala ndi iye osachepera zaka khumi. Kumbali ina, izi zimupangitsa iye kuganizira za kupambana kwa njira yothetsera vutoli.
Akazi ndi otchuka chifukwa cha kusowa kwawo. Ndipo iwo okha amamvetsa bwino kuti khalidwe ili ndilopangidwa mwa iwo. Ndiye bwanji mukufufuza lingaliro lopambana kwambiri la momwe mungadzitetezere mtsikana ku tattoo, kuti asamagwiritse ntchito mwayi wofooka uyu? Kuti amupange mitundu yonse, zimakhala zopweteka bwanji kuti aone chithunzi chomwecho kwa zaka zambiri, zingakhale zovuta bwanji kupanga chisankho chokhudza pulogalamu ina yopweteketsa mu salon, kubweretsa zolemba ndi chiwopsezo choopsa pambuyo pake.
Cholakwika chomwe chingathe kukhazikitsidwa.
Ngati zithunzi za tsogolo lachisoni pambuyo polemba zojambulajambula sizinasokoneze zilakolako za mtsikanayo, ndiye kuti tikhoza kum'patsanso malingaliro abwino. Pamapeto pake, kukana kuti munthu adziwe chizindikiro chake pa khungu la wokondedwa wake, sichiyenera kutero, kumangidwe ake kapena chilakolako chake chofuna kudziletsa. Iye amadera nkhawa za mwamuna kapena mkazi wake. Kuti samanyalanyaza chilakolako chake chomukondweretsa. Choncho, m'malo mwake akhoza kumangomunyengerera ndikugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yochuluka yokhala ndi ndewu, kumuthandiza kumvetsa kuti sakufuna kuchita zolemba.
Kuchita izi, ndikwanira kuvomereza kutsanzira zizindikiro: zikhoza kutchedwa kuwonongeka, gawo loyambirira kapena zoyenera, - kwa mtsikana aliyense, dzina lake lidzakwaniritsa. Chiwerengero chomwe chikugwiritsidwa ntchito ndi henna chimatsukidwa mu masabata awiri, omwe msungwanayo adzakwanira kuti amvetse kuti sakufunikira cholembera. Kumvetsa izi kungabwere paokha, ndipo kungakwiyitse ndi ndemanga za wosankhidwayo. Kungopereka ndemanga zolakwika zokhudzana ndi chithunzichi ndizofunika kukhala osamala komanso osamala. Kukhalapo kwa chithunzithunzi cholingalira sikulepheretsa chidwi chochuluka cha kugonana kwachikazi. Ngati kumvetsetsa sikukuwonekera, ndiye kuti mungathe kumuletsa mtsikanayo pa zojambula zina, koma ndibwino kuganiza ngati ndibwino kuti amuteteze, ngati atakhala ndi chilakolako. Mwinamwake izi ndizochitika zenizeni za chokhumba chenicheni, kulephera kwa chomwe chingapange wokondedwa, ngakhale pang'ono, koma wosasangalala?
Ziphuphu.
Atsikana ndi osiyana. Nthawi zina amachita ngati ana. Ndipo ngati zili choncho ndiye kuti mumangomusokoneza ndi chidwi choposa chithunzi. Monga njira yosokoneza, mungagwiritse ntchito chilichonse: kuchokera ku kuyamikira, ku mphatso ya chic. Kupereka kokha ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi zikhulupiliro zenizeni, komanso kuti musapatse dzina la mtengo wokana. Apo ayi, kumvetserana kwake kungapangitse mwa iye komanso funso lomwe am'chotsera m'malo mwake ndi cholembera, ndithudi amayankha - palibe.
Inde, ndi awiri angati awiri, mbali zambiri zogwirizana pakati pawo. Pali kusiyana kwinakwake, ndipo alibe chomuletsa. Mu abwana ena onse oponderezana - ndiye amachitira nkhanza mogwirizana ndi chikondi chake choyenda ndi abwenzi, ndiye amamenyera zolakwa zake, akutsatira mawu okhumudwitsa ndi zoletsedwa ndi zoletsedwa. Anthu amamanga ubale wawo m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Makhalidwe omwe ali othandizira aliyense wa oyankhulana angakhalenso osiyana. Choncho, kuletsa chilembo sikungokhala kokha kupyolera mwa anthu omwe akufuna, koma ndi kudandaula. Mwachidule, mawu a chiwonongeko ndi a mtundu "kaya ife, kapena tattoo".
Pamene zida zolemetsa zimalowa mu nkhondo.
Nthawi zina, ngakhale kutengeka, kulimbikitsa, kapena kulandira chiphuphu, kapena kuwopsyeza thandizo. Ndipo sakufuna kutaya wokondedwa wake. Apa iye ali ndi njira imodzi yokha. Zowonjezereka, ziwiri, koma chachiwiri - kupereka kwa mtsikanayo ndikulola kulemba zizindikiro. Ndipo njira yotsatila pa chisankho chopambana ichi iyenera kuphatikizapo kukhumudwitsa awo omwe amawalemekeza. Kapena amene amawopa. Choyamba, poyamba, mungathe kuopseza kuuza makolo anu za zolinga zake. Koma sikuti nthawi zonse makolo achikulire amachititsa kuti zizindikirozo zisasokonezeke. Chifukwa chake, aliyense amene angamvetsere amamvetsera: Abale, atsikana, abwenzi ake, makolo (kuphatikizapo iye) akhoza kupita ku sukuluyi. Mungathe kukopa ngakhale fano kuti chikopa cha akazi chiyeretsedwe - ngati izi, mwachitsanzo, ndi nyenyezi yapakhomo osati yapamwamba kwambiri. Zoona, muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama zambiri.
Ngati malo ambiri a mtsikanayo akuthandizira chisankho chake, mukhoza kuyesa kusintha maganizo awo powauza omwe ali pachiyambi. Pafupifupi aliyense amadziwa kuti olakwa ndi odwala a zipatala anayamba kuwatengera. Kuphatikizanso, poyankhulana ndi abwenzi anu okondedwa, mutha kugwiritsanso ntchito kutsutsana pogwiritsa ntchito kuti zojambula ndizo za atsikana omwe alibe china chilichonse choyenera.