Nthawi zonse, abambo ndi amai okwatirana, akufunafuna kugonana kumbali, pamene sakhala omasuka, kapena osakhutitsidwa ndi kugonana m'banja, pamene ali ndi nthawi yochuluka yowonjezera, ndipo palibe pomwe angayike. Amalimbikitsa kugonana kumbali ndi kuti mmodzi mwa okwatirana nthawi zambiri amapita ku bizinesi, kapena amagwira ntchito usiku, pamene banja limayamba kukangana nthawi zonse.
Pamene agonana, okwatirana, monga iye ndi iye, amaopseza kuti ubale wawo ndi wophunzira wawo. Pachifukwa chimodzi, izi ndi zolakwika, ndipo pazimenezo - zoopsa, zimapereka adrenaline mu ubale wawo kumbali.
Phindu la kugonana ndi anthu okwatira ndilo limene lapafupi kwambiri limasankha, nthawi zambiri, wokhazikika yekhayo. Mu ubale wotero, pamakhala chiopsezo chochepa chakumenyana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu pamene mukuzizira mu chiyanjano, pamene abwenzi onse awiri amasankha kupanga chiyanjano chabwino kuposa wina aliyense kuti adziwe za ubale wawo.
Okwatirana okha, mwamuna ndi mkazi, amadziwa kuti alipira malipiro ochepa pazochitika zogonana m'banja ndipo amayesa, ndi mphamvu zawo zonse, kuti atayika pa ntchito iliyonse yogonana. Simukusowa kukakamiza mkazi kwa nthawi yaitali ndikubwera ndi zifukwa zosiyanasiyana. Azimayi samapweteka kwambiri polephera kulankhulana ndi kugonana - mkazi amadziwa zonsezi ndikumvetsetsa ndipo amathandizira kuthetsa vutoli. Wokwatirana, mwamuna ndi mkazi, amachita zomwe amasangalala nazo, podziwa bwino kuti, ngati alephera, adzalowera pulogalamu yonseyi.
Akazi okwatirana sangachite zonyansa, zomwe ziri zoyenera komanso zoyera, chifukwa kuyambira pachiyambi onse amamvetsa zomwe ziri pano ndi momwe. Iwo, chotero, safunikira kudzipweteka okha ndi abwenzi awo, kuyendetsa khalidwe lawo ndi khalidwe lawo, kapena kukana chirichonse. Iwo amaperekedwa kwathunthu ku zokondweretsa kwambiri. Pankhaniyi, mutha kukondwera nthawi zosaiwalika za chilakolako.
Mkazi wokwatira sapatsidwa zambiri kwa iyeyekha, ndipo amafuna wina, kapena ayi, amamvetsera mwatsatanetsatane ukhondo wake ndikuuyika pamwambamwamba. Ambiri mwa anthu okwatirana, umoyo wawo wogonana umateteza, ndipo chifukwa chake musagwiritse ntchito mwayi umenewu peresenti, pamene achinyamata ambiri akunyalanyaza chifukwa cha kusowa kumvetsetsa ndi kusadziŵa zambiri, ndipo anzawo sakhala osamala kwambiri.
Wokwatirana naye amadziwa zambiri zokhudza kulera, ndipo izi zimakupatsani mpumulo musanawope mimba yosakonzekera. Ndiponso palibenso zofuna zogonana, zosiyana, zisudzo, ndi zina zotero.
Onse awiri mwamuna ndi mkazi, ali ndi msinkhu, amayamba kukhala aulesi pofuna zosangalatsa, abwenzi atsopano, ndiyeno kugonana pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi ndizo zomwe iwo akusowa.
Nthawi zina, kugonana pakati pa mwamuna wokwatiwa ndi mkazi, mkazi amakankhidwa ndi nsanje ya moyo wabwino wa banja wa bwenzi kapena bwana. Ndiyeno mkaziyo akuyamba "kupotoza mchira" pamaso pa mwamuna wake, samaima pa chirichonse, kuti ayese ndi chimwemwe ichi. Kuphatikizanso, okwatirana okwatira a amuna okwatirana, pafupifupi musatengere mwayi uliwonse.
Monga mwamuna, mkazi amalephera kukhala ndi thanzi labwino, mu ubale wapamtima ndi mwamuna wamba. Wokwatirana, mwamuna ndi mkazi nthawi zonse amagwiritsa ntchito mvula, poyamba komanso pambuyo, mosiyana ndi anyamata, omwe nthawi zambiri amachitanso kulikonse.
Muzinthu zakuthupi, kuchokera kwa azimayi aang'ono, azimayi akhoza kukhala ndi mwayi waukulu, koma amatha msanga momwe amaonekera. Chinthu china amuna okwatiwa. Iwo ali olimba kwambiri mu ubalewu.
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