Banja limathera nthawi zambiri palimodzi, ndipo palibe mitu yomwe iwo sangawakambe. Komabe, monga okwatirana, achinyamata omwe sagonana nawo samalankhula za kugonana, kapena nkhaniyi siyinayankhidwe. Ndipo pakati pa anthu, mawu akuti "kugonana" amaloledwa ndi mfundo zotere monga "zowonjezera" kapena "nkhani yeniyeni". Ngakhale pakati pa anthu ndi nkhani zokhudza kugonana, komanso pazinthu zina za moyo musakhale choletsedwa. Koma atsikana angathe kugawana zinsinsi zawo zakuphatikizana ndi abwenzi awo, kusiyana ndi mnzawo kapena mwamuna wawo. Pali nthano kuti zokambirana zoterezi zimabweretsa chiwonongeko cha mgwirizano.
Maubwenzi ogonana ndi ovuta komanso ovuta. Kugonjetsedwa pambali imeneyi kungabweretse mavuto aakulu. Kugwirizana kugawana nawo mavuto awo ogonana kungakhudzidwe kwambiri. Anthu ovutika akudandaula, migraines ndi mavuto ena azaumoyo. Pogwiritsa ntchito njirayi, bungwe la World Health Organization - WHO linayambitsa mavuto okhudza kugonana mu kulembetsa matenda aakulu.
Chikondi ndi chisangalalo chabwino chomwe chimapangitsa kudalira anthu. Choncho, maubwenzi awiri achikondi angakhale matenda enieni. Zingayambitse mavuto osiyanasiyana. Mavuto oterewa angathe kuthetsedwa pokhapokha pokambirana ndi kukambirana.
Ndikofunika kudziwa kuti si chikondi chilichonse komanso kumverera kwa kugonana komwe kungakhale kathanzi. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti chikondi chodziwika ndi chilakolako cha kugonana chimachokera ku zofanana ndi kulemekezana. Muzochitika zoterezi, okwatirana ndi okondedwa ayenera kuthandizana, kuyankhula pa mutu uliwonse ndi kupeza makhalidwe omwe alibe. Kuti zinthu izi ziwonekere, sikuti zimangotenga nthawi yambiri pamodzi, komanso kuyankhula momveka bwino.
Kumayambiriro kwa chiyanjano cha chikondi, anthu achikondi amamva kuti akukweza mtima kwambiri, amasiya kuchoka pamtima. Ngakhale okonda atagona pang'ono, idyani pang'ono, amamverera mokondwa kwambiri komanso mwamphamvu. Koma gawo lililonse la maubwenzi limatha.
Madokotala akhoza kutsimikizira kuti chikondi ndi poizoni. Mu thupi la munthu wachikondi, zinthu zapadera zofanana ndi zokopa zimayamba kukonzedwa. Zomwe ali nazo zimakhala zofanana ndi mankhwala - ndi serotonin ndi phenylethylamine. Zinthu zimenezi zingayambitse kupweteka ndi adrenaline. Pa mfundo zina mu chiyanjano, pakhoza kukhala kumverera kwachisoni ndi wokondedwayo. Pano pazochitika zotere ndikofunika kulankhula, koma ngati amuna ali okonzeka kuyankhula, atsikana sakufuna kulankhula za nkhani zachinsinsi.
Kuyankhula pa nkhani zokwanira kungathetse mafunso ovuta kwambiri. Atangokambirana kumene, msungwanayo akuyamba kuwonetsa zabwino, kuwonjezera apo, nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta komanso zoipa. Okonda pabedi amayamba kukhala ndi maganizo atsopano. Mwamuna amayamba kusamala ndipo amachita ngakhale kugonana. Atsikana amachotsa zovuta zawo zonse. Pambuyo pokambirana momasuka zambiri zakhala zikugwiriridwa kale pabedi. Atsikana amayamba kuchita zinthu zomwe sizinachitike ngakhale ndi okondedwa okongola. Kumbukirani kuti kupeĊµa kukambirana momasuka, kungachititse kuti chikondi chisatheke kapena achibale awo, omwewo amayamba kuyang'ana chinthu china.
Atsikana amasankha okhawo ogonana nawo, ndiyeno ma satellites a moyo, omwe ali ndi makhalidwe omwe ali maloto awo. Pambuyo pa misonkhano ina, angapeze kuti mnzanuyo si mwamuna wa maloto. Zikatero, atsikana amayamba kuchita mosiyana. Atsikana ena, atataya magalasi awo owala, amakhala osamala mu ubale wawo. Ena amayamba kuyang'ana mochulukirapo, nkukhala okhaokha ndikuyesera kuti asamunyamule munthuyo ndi zikhumbo zawo. Ndipo atsikana ena ndi asayansi ena amalimbikitsa kukambirana ndi wokondedwa wawo.
Asayansi apeza kuti kukanika kuthana ndi mavuto kapena kusiya chigamulo chawo panthawi ina sikungathandize pachiyanjano. Ndipotu, nkhani zambiri zogonana zingathetsedwe kokha pothandizidwa ndi mnzanuyo.
Wasayansi wa ku America wa ku New York, Sarah White amachititsa odwala amanyazi makhadi. Kawirikawiri amatsegula miyoyo yawo kwa akatswiri a maganizo. Pano pali dokotala wina wazaka 24, dzina lake Sarah White, amene anaganiza kuti adziike yekha patsogolo pa odwala ake. Choyamba, katswiri wa zamaganizo amakomana ndi ovala zovala. Pa nkhani yawo, akuyamba kuchotsa zovala zake. Pamapeto pake, amachotsa zopaka zake ndikuyala miyendo yake. Malinga ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku America, chiwerewere chimapangitsa anthu kukhala omveka bwino. Kukambirana kopanda pake kumatenga oyendetsa nawo pamtima. Gawo limodzi la nude mankhwala likuyankhidwa pa $ 150. Mwa njira, ambiri a kasitomala a Sarah White ndi akazi. Ngakhale akatswiri a zamaganizo amavomereza njira imeneyi yamaganizo monga zolaula, bwanji amanyazi atsikana okhawo sakudziwa izi. Msungwana akhoza kugwira ntchito ya wodwala, ndipo udindo wa dokotala wamaliseche udzafika kwa munthuyo. N'zotheka kuti njira iyi ndi yotsutsana, koma njira iyi idzawathandiza atsikana kugonjetsa manyazi awo achilengedwe ndi kukambirana momasuka za kugonana.
Atsikana safuna kulankhula momveka bwino, kutsata tsankho. Koma ndiyenera kulankhula momasuka. Nthawi zina mumangoyamba kukambirana, mwinamwake mwamuna wakhala akufuna izi kwa nthawi yaitali ndipo ali ndi nzeru zothandizira bwenzi lake. Ndimodzi yekhayo amene akufunikira kupeza mphamvu mwa iyemwini, ndipo atsegule poyamba. Atsikana sayenera kuopa kukambirana kwambiri. Ndikofunika kunena za mavuto anu onse kapena zokhumba zanu. Sitiyenera kukhala mavuto pakati pa anthu achikondi omwe amawadandaula. Inde, ndipo mnzanu sangapweteke kuti adziwe zomwe angachite molakwika. Ndi bwino kugawa izi ndi theka lachiwiri kusiyana ndi mnzanu.