Nchifukwa chiyani timadzifunsa ngati mkazi nthawi zonse ayenera kunena zoona? Zowonjezereka, chifukwa tikuopa kutayika wokondedwa. Sikophweka kwa mkazi aliyense kunena zoona. Ena amakhulupirira kuti ndi bwino kukhala chete, kapena kuti ndibwino kuti bodza likhale lopulumutsa. Pa nthawi yomweyi, amayi ena ali olunjika kuti nthawi zonse amanena zoona zokhazokha ndipo samakana chilichonse. Chifukwa chake, amavutika. Ndiye mumapeza bwanji malo apakati?
Choyamba, tiyeni tiwone zomwe mtsikana akufuna kuti adziwe zoona komanso zomwe zikuchitika. Chinthu choyamba chimene anthu ambiri amaganiza ndi chiwonetsero. Nthawi zonse zimakhala zobvuta kuzibisa kwa wokondedwa nkhani zimenezi. Makamaka mkazi. Pankhani iyi, ndi bwino kufufuza chifukwa chake mtsikanayo anachita chimodzimodzi? Ngati izi zili chifukwa cha mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo, ndiye kuti ayenera kuyankhula zoona kuti apweteke. Ngati ichi chikachitidwa pa cholinga ichi, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kunena zoona. Ngati izi zidachitika chifukwa cha malingaliro okhudzidwa, chikondi cha kanthaŵi kochepa, chomwe chinapitilira, ndipo mkaziyo amamveka bwino kuti amakonda chibwenzi chake, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kukhala chete. Inde, ngati sakufuna kutaya mwamuna. Inde, chikumbumtima chidzamuzunza nthawi zonse, koma, munthu ayenera kuganiza asanachite izi. Ndipo tsopano ndichedwa kwambiri "kulumphira." Ndikofunika kuyanjanitsa ndi kulipira kwa mtundu uwu. Bwanji osanena zoona pazochitikazi? Chifukwa, mwinamwake, zikhoza kuwonongeka. Amuna samakhululukiranso kusakhulupirika, komanso kuti amasintha nthawi zambiri. Ziribe kanthu momwe zimamvekera zopanda chilungamo, koma izi ndi zamaganizo a amuna. Iwo ndi eni ndipo sakufuna kugawana nawo ndi wina aliyense. Ngati mnyamatayo atulukira kuti mtsikana wamusintha, adzalitenga ngati wonyoza, ngati akupereka chinyengo komanso sangathe kukhala mwamtendere ndi mkazi woteroyo. Inde, pali nthawi pamene anyamata amakhululukira ndikuiwala zomwe zinachitika, kapena kuyesera kudziyesa. Koma, mwazigawo zazing'ono, khalidwe ili limatenga gawo lochepa. Mwachidziwikire, nthawi zonse amakhala ndi mwayi kuti mnyamata adzalandire kuchokera kwa wina ndipo zonse zidzakhala zoipitsitsa. Apa mtsikanayo akuyenera kumvetsetsa yekha momwe njirayi ingathere, komanso momwe mungachitire.
Ndi choonadi chiti chomwe chikanakhozabe kulankhula amayi? Mwachitsanzo, zoona kuti mmodzi mwa abwenzi kapena abwenzi ake omwe amamudziwa mosamalitsa za iye amachitapo kanthu kapena amachititsa chidwi. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kudziwa kuti chilichonse chilipo ndipo zingathe kupweteka wokondedwa wanu. Musaiwale kuti anzanu amakangana komanso amakhala ndi maganizo okhutira. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti sakondana wina ndi mnzake. Ndipo, ngati mumauza mnyamata za yemwe ndi zomwe adanena kamodzi, zikhoza kuwonongera chibwenzi chifukwa chachinyengo. Kapena, msungwanayo adzaonedwa kuti ndi miseche amene ayesa kukangana zonse, zomwe sizinanso zabwino kwambiri pa chitukuko cha zochitika. Choncho, ngati mayi akuzindikira kuti mawu ndi makhalidwe a abwenzi, kwenikweni samamuopseza, ndibwino kukhala chete. Adzasankha mgwirizano wawo. Choonadi chiyenera kunenedwa pokhapokha poonekeratu kuti "abwenzi" akukonzekera chinachake kapena akutsanulira matope pamnyamata, kuchititsa manyazi ndi kunyoza ulemu wake. Pankhaniyi, khalidwe lawo likhoza kuvulaza makhalidwe, komanso ngakhale mthupi. Koma, ngati mwamunayo sakudziwa kalikonse ndipo alibe chidaliro mwa iwo, palibe chifukwa chowonetsera kuti akulakwitsa. Zikatero, anthu amakwiya ndipo samva choonadi. Ndi bwino kungomupempha kuti amvetsere ndikumvetsera, kuti wamva chinachake, koma usaganize kuti ndi chifukwa chiyani anthu amachita mwanjira imeneyi. Musamaweruze abwenzi a mnyamata. Anangoyamba kutumiza uthenga wina kuti amvetse ndi kuchimba.
Ndi choonadi china chiti chomwe chingasokoneze ubalewu? Mwinamwake yemwe akukhuza zolephera za mnyamata. Inde, aliyense wa ife sali wangwiro, koma, pali zinthu zomwe ziyenera kusintha. Pano pali akazi ndipo amayamba kangapo patsiku kuti akauze achinyamata choonadi chokhudza kuuma kwawo, kukonda kwambiri, kusayang'anitsitsa ndi makhalidwe ena oipa. Ndipo amuna amakwiya, amakhumudwitsidwa, amawopsya, ndipo nthawi zina amathetsa chiyanjano. Koma, momwe tingachitire pa milandu iyi, chifukwa timalankhula zoona, kuti tisakhumudwitse, koma kuthandiza munthu. Pano muyenera kukhala ndi chiwerengero chokwanira. Ndi chinthu chimodzi tikangolongosola zolakwitsa ndikuyesera kuti tiwongolere, ndi zina - pamene timabwereza kuti mnyamatayo ndiye, wopusa yemwe sangachite chilichonse kapena kanthu. Muyenera kumverera kusiyana konse ndipo musapite patali. Sizothandiza kunena zoona za mtundu umenewu ndi achibale ake, mabwenzi ake komanso anzake, ndipo makamaka, nthawi zonse. Dziwani kuti mwanjira imeneyi mumangomudetsa pamaso pa anthu okwera mtengo. Koma, palibe amene akunena kuti palibe chifukwa cholangizira ndi kufotokoza zolakwa. Mwachidule, muyenera kuchita izi mosasamala, osatembenuka kukhala "mkazi wokonzera". Musanene nthawi zonse, mwachitsanzo, "Bwanji osaphunzira, kodi ndinu wopusa?" ". Ndi bwino kunena kuti: "Sindikumvetsa chifukwa chake munthu wanzeru komanso woyenera sakufuna maphunziro apamwamba? Mungathe kukwaniritsa kupindula ndi phindu, kotero bwanji simukuyesera? Ndimakukondani ndipo ndikunyada inu, koma ndikufuna ndikunyengeni kwambiri. "
Mungathe kunena zoona m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Nthawi zina mawu awa akhoza kuwalimbikitsa, ndipo nthawi zina - amanyozedwa ndi kuponderezedwa. Ndikofunikira kuti mumvetsetse pakati pa choonadi ndi kunyoza. Kuwongolera mopambanitsa, monga chinsinsi chochuluka, sikudzabweretsa zabwino. Choncho, nthawi zambiri amai safunikira kunena zoona kwa munthu wokondedwa, komanso ngati angalankhule, m'njira yoti asakhumudwitse, koma amamvetsera ndikukonza zolakwa.