Ambiri ambiri anamva lingaliro lofanana ngati lachiwiri, koma kutali ndi aliyense amadziwa tanthauzo la mawu awa. Kotero, ndi chiyanjano chotani, ndipo chikuwonekera motani mu ubale wa mwamuna ndi mkazi?
Chiwiri ndizophatikizapo zigawo ziŵiri zikuluzikulu. Zonsezi ndizokuti zigawo ziwiri izi ndizosiyana. Black ndi yoyera, yotentha ndi yozizira, zabwino ndi zoipa, chikondi ndi udani. Zonse zomwe zimabwera m'maganizo, komanso zotsutsa - izi ndi zoona. Komabe, timakondwera ndi chiyanjano, choncho taganizirani nkhaniyi mwatsatanetsatane.
Iye : wofulumira, nthawi zina wolimba, wamwano, wosaopa mavuto, wokonzeka kuyendetsa mitembo (osati kutenga kwenikweni) chifukwa cha zolinga zake, mnyamata yemwe sagwera mu thumba lake, akhoza kugunda ndi kumverera mu gulu lalikulu, monga nsomba m'madzi, kulankhula momasuka ndi osiyana anthu. Iye sadzaima pa mwambo ndipo adzangotumiza munthu yemwe sakonda ku gehena, popanda kuyesera kwachinyengo. Iye samamvetsa kumverera ndi chikondi nkomwe, iye sakudziwa momwe angamangire chikondi, koma lingaliro limodzi liri bwino bwino - lingaliro la mwiniwake.
Iye : msungwana wachikondi, amene amakonda kuwerenga mabuku, kukhala pampando wokhala ndi mipando yabwino, kujambula zithunzi zokongola, osasokonezeka, nthawi zina amataya. Iye sakonda kulankhulana koyenera ndi alendo, mwamsanga amatopa ndi achibale; amakonda wokhazikika ndipo sangalekerere mikangano, chifukwa nthawi zambiri sangathe kudziyimira yekha. Wokongola, wosadziwika ndi wosasangalatsa, mtsikana akhoza kusonyeza khalidwe lake kwa anthu ake "enieni" okha. Kudzipatulira kwa mikangano kuli wokonzeka kupereka kwa omwe sakonda. Zomwe zimakhala zojambula.
Iwo : Zikuwoneka kuti pali wamba pakati paziwirizi. Zokongola ngati zikuwoneka, koma anthu oterewa, osiyana moyambirira, akuyenererana.
a) Kupusa kwachinyengo kwa mnyamatayo, kulephera kufotokoza chikondi ndi chikondi chopanda chikondi chimapindula ndi luso la msungwanayo pomanga ubale wachikondi.
b) Zomwe sizimayankhula komanso zotsekedwa za mtsikanayo zimapangidwa ndi theka lake lachiwiri: aliyense amamvetsa momwe manyazi amachitira, anthu onse amakhala chete, ndipo ngati msungwana sakudziwa choti anganene, mawuwo amapezeka nthawi zonse.
c) Kodi amuna awiri ofooka adzachita chiyani mu chipata cha mdima pamene kuukira kwa Gopnik? Iwo adzakwapulidwa, iwo adzachotsa zinthu zonse ndipo adzawatsitsa iwo. Komabe, ngati munthu amatha kudziimira yekha ndi wokondedwa wake, Gopnik sungakhale wothira. Pamodzi ndi wotetezera wotero, mtsikana wodzichepetsa, wosadziwika nthawi zonse amamva ngati khoma lamwala.
d) Popeza mtsikanayo samayenda kuzungulira magulu ake ndipo samagwiritsa ntchito mphindi iliyonse ndi abwenzi ake, samayenera kukhala wamanjenje ndi wokwiya chifukwa cha nsanje (kumbukirani kuti mwiniwakeyo ali ndi chikhalidwe chokhazikika, inde?), chifukwa nthawi zambiri wokondedwa wake adzakhala kunyumba, ndi wokondedwa wanu.
e) Mnyamata woteroyo adzatsitsimutsa chiopsezo cha msungwanayo chomwe chayamba, ndipo sichidzalowa muchisokonezo chachikulu komanso chopweteketsa. Inde, ngakhale kuti ali ndi khalidwe laukali, sangapereke kwa iye kulumbirira, koma nthawi zonse akhoza kukwatira wokondedwa wake, pomwe akukondweretsa onse.
e) ... Komanso mosemphana ndi zina - pamene chiwonongeko chimayamba poyera pagulu, mnyamatayo amatha kuzimitsa moto woyaka moto, kusokoneza ndi kutonthoza njira zomwe mkazi wake amakonda, kupeŵa miseche yosafunikira kumbali ya mnyamatayo.
Zitsanzo zingaperekedwe zambiri, zokhudzana ndi chikondi komanso ubwenzi, ndipo zonsezi zimawongolera kuti anthu awiri, otsutsana kwambiri, amakondana kwambiri kuposa anthu awiri omwe ali ndi makhalidwe abwino. N'zoonekeratu kuti apa sichikuonedwa kuti ndi chikondi cha gulu la nyimbo kapena mtundu wa cinema, duality limatanthauzira kwambiri kuganizira, maganizo ndi maganizo. Zonsezi zimazindikira kuti muchitsanzo chapamwamba panalibe mawu onena za nyimbo kapena zokonda?
Kotero, ngati tilembera zonsezi: musathamangire kuswa ndi munthu amene, mwa makhalidwe a maganizo, ndi osiyana kwambiri ndi inu. Kusiyanitsa kwakukulu komwe mumakhala nawo mu khalidwe lanu, khalidwe lanu ndi zinthu zina zaumunthu, ndizofunikira kwambiri kwa wina ndi mzake, kuti mumvetse izi nthawi zonse sizingatheke.