Kawirikawiri, amayi ndi agogo aakazi kuyambira ali aang'ono amauza ana awo kuti mwanayo ayenera kukhala wodzichepetsa. Kenaka kukula, asungwanawa sadziwa kuthetsa kudzichepetsa. Iwo sadziwa choti achite kuti awatchinjirize kuti asakhale ndi moyo.
Pa dzanja limodzi, palibe cholakwika ndi kudzichepetsa, makamaka kwa mkazi. Zimakhudzana ndi kulera ndi kulemekeza. Chikhalidwe chenicheni cha munthu chimakhala chilimbikitso ndi ntchito, ndipo mwa mkazi kusasamala, kudzichepetsa ndi chidziwitso. Komabe, kudzichepetsa kwambiri, kusatsimikizika kumakhumudwitsa kuti sizingatheke. Ndipo kodi munthu uyu ali ndi chiyani pamoyo weniweni?
Kuchokera pa kudzichepetsa achinyamata 55% amavutika, ndi angati akuvutika chifukwa cha kuyesa. Pokhala ndi zaka, anthu amakhala ochepa, koma ena ngakhale okalamba amakumana ndi mavuto pa kuyankhulana.
Anthu odzichepetsa sakhala ndi mwayi m'moyo wawo kapena pa ntchito zawo. Chifukwa iwo sangakhoze kudziyimira okha. Anthu otere sangathe kudzigonjera okha, ngakhale ali antchito abwino ndi akatswiri amalandira malipiro aang'ono ndipo sakuona ntchito iliyonse yakukula. Akuluakulu amenewa amakukondani ndi akuluakulu awo chifukwa sakhala chete, musafunse kuwonjezeka kwa malipiro. Koma palibe ulemu kwa anthu oterowo.
Kudzichepetsa kungatenge mitundu yolakwika. Anthu otere sangathe kumenyana ngati ali osayenerera, adzakhala chete pamene amanyenga ku sitolo. Pa nthawi yomwe muyenera kuyimilira ufulu wanu, zidzangokhala zosalala, zidzatumbululuka, sizidzatha kunena mawu poteteza nokha.
Kotero kudzichepetsa ndi khalidwe labwino, pamene liripo modzichepetsa, koma siliyenera kusokoneza moyo, kusangalala ndi kusangalala. Ndipo chifukwa cha izi, choyamba, muyenera kukhala ndi zokhumba zanu, ngakhale kuti ndinu odzichepetsa kwambiri.
Kuti muthe kudzichepetsa, muyenera kudziwa chifukwa cha manyazi anu. Kawirikawiri kumverera kwa manyazi kumachitika chifukwa mumaganiza momwe ena angakambirane ngati mukuchita chinachake cholakwika. Mukuganiza kuti anthu samakukondani, kuti muli oipitsitsa kuposa iwo. Mukuyembekeza kuti zinthu zikuyenda molakwika. Mukulimbana ndi nkhawa, choncho zinthu sizikuyenda monga momwe mungafunire.
Chifukwa cha kudzichepetsa kwanu, anthu angaganize kuti mulibe abwenzi, osaphunzira, ndipo amadzikuza. Koma kwenikweni inu mukuwopa kuyandikira, yambani kukambirana, mukuwopa kufotokoza maganizo anu, kusonyeza malingaliro anu. Mwa ichi mukudzipatula nokha mwa chisangalalo cha moyo. Koma zonse zingathe kuwongosoledwa poyika khama ndikudzigwira nokha.
Nazi malingaliro 10 a kuchotsa kudzichepetsa kwambiri:
1. Yesetsani kuyesetsa kuti musadandaule ndi zomwe anthu ena amaganiza za inu. Anthu sangakuweruzeni ndi mawonetseredwe akunja, koma ndi mtundu wa munthu weniweni.
2. Musati mufunefune ungwiro kuchokera kwa inu nokha, khalani nokha. Yang'anani zolephera zanu ndi machitidwe abwino.
3. Onetsetsani ena moona mtima, musawachitire zolinga zolakwika zomwe simungachite. Khulupirirani kuti anthu amakuchitirani mofanana.
4. Phunzirani kucheza ndi anthu, kumwetulira mobwerezabwereza ndikupatsana moni anthu ena. Phunzirani kuyankhulana nokha.
5. Yesetsani kudzichitira nokha, ngati mumanena chinachake cholakwika. Musamamvetsere, pitirizani kuyankhula.
6. Khalani ndi zolinga zenizeni, phunzirani kukambirana ndi ena, kambiranani ndi anthu osadziwa molimba mtima ndi kukhala omasuka.
7. Ngati mukufunikira kulankhula ndi omvera ambiri, konzekerani pasadakhale kuti zitheke. Valani ndi kukoma, kuti musamve bwino za izi. Anthu adzakondwera kukuyang'ana. Kulankhulana momveka kwa omvera, kuwawatsimikizira kuti mukuwauza chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kwa iwo.
8. Phunzirani kukambirana ndi oyankhulana, kuyamikira, funsani maganizo anu.
9. Dziyang'ane nokha pagalasi ndikudzifotokoze nokha kuchokera kumbali yabwino. Tawonani, simukusowa kusintha zina mwa inu nokha, mukhoza kusintha tsitsi lanu. Funsani wokondedwa amene mumamukhulupirira. Ntchito yaikulu ndikutengera makhalidwe ndi makhalidwe abwino.
10. Lankhulani nokha, ngati ngati munthu wina. Lembani zolephera zanu ndi woweruza kuti ena amalephera kwambiri kuposa inu. Koma amadzidalira kwambiri kuposa anthu. Mukatha kulemba ulemu wanu wonse, ndipo mutsimikiza kuti muli bwino kuposa ena ndipo simukuyenera kukhala odzichepetsa.
Kufikira kwina, kudzichepetsa kulipo mwa munthu aliyense. Koma musamupatse mphamvu payekha. Kuposa kudzibisa nokha, ndi bwino kumasuka nokha ku manyazi ndikusangalatsana ndi anthu ena. Tikuyembekeza kuti njira zathu khumi zothetsera kudzichepetsa kwambiri zidzakuthandizani.