Zingakhale zosavuta kuti mutha kukukhumudwitsani: kumangokhalira kukhumudwa, kumangokhalira kuyang'ana ndikuwoneka mobisa kwa wozunzayo ... Taganizirani izi, kodi nthawi zambiri mumagwiritsa ntchito chokhumudwitsa ngati chida chokwaniritsira zolinga zirizonse? Katswiri wa zamaganizo adzakuthandizani kumvetsa zomwe ziri zolakwika, chifukwa chake zimayambira komanso momwe mungagwirire nazo.
Nkhuku yanga, pokhala akadakali wamng'ono komanso osadzimvera, pamene anakhumudwitsidwa ndi chinachake, adafotokozera achibale zimenezi zowonjezereka, kulembera mthunzi wa wolakwira. Choncho, ndithudi, tidawadziwitsa ochimwa.
Kenako maganizo anayamba: kodi vinyo ndi chiyani kwenikweni? Kufufuza kwa khalidwe la katsamba kungatenge nthawi yaitali, chifukwa sakanatiuza zomwe zimayambitsa kusakhutitsidwa mwachindunji.
Kawirikawiri, ngati zongoganizira zakhala zowona, nsapato zonse zikhoza kupulumutsidwa, ndipo ngati ayi, ndiye ... Koma iyi ndi nkhani yamvetsa chisoni kwambiri.
Nthawi zina zimandiwoneka kuti anthu ambiri amachitanso chimodzimodzi ndi amphaka okhumudwa. Ndipo iwo amene amadana nawo amakhala ofanana kwambiri ndi eni ake, amatha kuganiza mozama ndikukankhira mbali zina zokoma za mphaka mwachiyembekezo chochotsa chidziwitso chawo chosadziwika.
Nchifukwa chiyani anthu amakhumudwa nkomwe? Nchifukwa chiyani amai ambiri amatha kuchitapo kanthu, ndipo izi zimapangitsa chiyani?
Tiyeni tiwone zina mwa zifukwa zomwe zimachitikira zolakwira ndikupeza momwe khalidweli lirili lothandiza.
Chifukwa # 1: zokhumudwitsa zomwe zikuyembekezera
Pamene iwe unali kuwerengera pa chinachake, koma pa chifukwa china sunachipeze icho, ndi nthawi yokhumudwitsidwa.
Mwinamwake wolakwira sakudziwa nkomwe kuti mukupempha chinachake, koma ziribe kanthu, chifukwa yemwe anakhumudwitsidwa poyamba akulondola.
Mwachitsanzo, inu mukukhala mu lesitilanti, ndipo wotsutsana akuganizira mosamala mndandanda, kapena, moipitsitsa, ndi wina yemwe akuyankhula mwachidwi.
Inu mumayamba kukhala chete ndikupanga nkhope yokhumudwitsidwa. Mwinamwake, patapita kanthawi wolakwirayo ayamba kufunsa kuti:
- Ndi chiyani ichi ndi iwe? Chinachake chinachitika?
"Ayi, ziri bwino," mungayankhe, mosiya mwachinyengo.
"Koma ndikuwona chinachake chachitika!"
- Ndipo inu amene simukuganiza?
"Kodi ndakukhumudwitsani?"
Awonongeke! Kulingalira kwa nthawi yaitali kuyembekezedwa, mukhoza kuyamba kufotokozera mgwirizano!
Kotero, akazi amakonda kukwiya, chifukwa kunyozedwa kumaphatikizapo kumverera kwa kulapa ndi kulakwa kwa wolakwira. Ndipo kuti apange mlanduwu, iye, malinga ndi zochitikazi, ayenera kuchita zabwino.
Funso limabwera - Bwanji osangofunsa za zomwe mukufuna? N'zosavuta kunena!
Ndi mkazi wanji m'malingaliro ake abwino omwe angamupemphe mwamuna kuti amukonde kwambiri, kumusamalira kwambiri, pambuyo pake, kumvetsera kwa iye, chifukwa iye amanjenjemera pamene amalankhula pa foni?
Mwachitsanzo, Larissa amakhumudwa nthawi zonse ndi mnyamata wake ndi periodicity.
Ngati chiyanjanocho chidayamba ngakhale kukhala bata, Lara adadzazidwa ndi zowawa ndi mantha ake - ndipo mwadzidzidzi anasiya kukonda?
Ankafunika kulamulira nthawi zonse, komanso pamene zinthu zinatha, Larissa anayamba kuchita.
Pamene munthu wina wosayembekezeka anamuuza Larisa kuti sakanatha kudya naye madzulo chifukwa cha ntchitoyo, adakhumudwitsidwa naye pomwepo.
Nthawi iliyonse nkhani yomweyi inabwerezedwa - iye sanafune kulankhula naye, atsegula foni, ndipo ngati wamunayo akadamupeza, adanena kuti anali wotanganidwa kwambiri ndipo anasiya kulankhula.
Mnyamatayo sanamvetsetse zomwe zikuchitika. Anayamba kumva kuti anali ndi mlandu ndipo adatumiza maluwa a Larissa ngati chizindikiro choyanjanitsa.
Atalandira maluwa, mphatso ndi kunyozetsa wokondedwa mu chikwama, mtsikanayo adachepa ndipo anakhululukira "scoundrel".
Nthawi ina, pa nthawi ina, mnyamatayo anachita zinthu zosagwirizana. Iye sanaitanidwe ndipo sanafunefune misonkhano. Larissa anali ndi nkhawa.
Msungwanayo anavutika, koma lingaliro la kumuitana iye mwini, linkawoneka loopsya kwa iye: "Ngati ndimuimbira, adzaganiza kuti ndimamufunikira kwenikweni."
Ndikudabwa, koma bwanji ndikukumana ndi munthu yemwe sakufunika? Ndipo ngati nayenso safuna kusonyeza kuti amafunikira iye? Siwo mgwirizano, ndi malo owonetsera masewera!
Kawirikawiri, Larissa sanafune kudzifunsa yekha mafunso awa othandiza, koma anapitiriza kupsa mtima. Chotsatira chake, mnyamatayu anawonongeka kwamuyaya, akuima kuti amuthandize ndikudyetsa mkwiyo wa Larina.
Zifukwa zoterezi sizinangokhala ndi chilakolako chofuna kulandira malipiro.
Ndipotu, Larissa ali wodzikonda yekha kuti chilichonse chokhumudwitsa kuchokera kwa iye mwini chimawoneka ngati chonyansa .
Sizimamuchitikira iye kuti aganizire za china chirichonse. Anthu sangakhale ndi mavuto ndi nkhawa, kupatula munthu wake!
Ndiyenera kunena kuti amayi ena amatha kusunga munthu pa khola kwa nthawi yayitali pogwiritsira ntchito njirayi yachinyengo.
Mwa njira, amuna omwe ali ndi mphamvu yochuluka ya ntchito ndi kudzimvera amabwera ku mbedza. Kawirikawiri maluwa omwewo amachokera kwa mayi yemwe amachita zinthu mofananamo.
Mabanjawa samvetsa kuti pangakhale ubale wina. Dziwani kuti "amayi" ndi osavuta: ngati akufuna chinachake kuchokera kwa mwana wake, ndipo ali wotanganidwa ndi zochitika zake, nthawi yomweyo amakhala ndi vuto la mtima kapena kusokonezeka kwa mantha.
Ngati ali ndi nthawi, amamuimbira mwana kangapo pa ola kuti apeze momwe akuchitira, ndikudandaula za thanzi labwino, osayiwala kuwonjezera momwe aliri yekha.
Ganizirani nambala 2: kulephera kufotokoza malingaliro
Mtundu uwu wamakwiyi umapezeka nthawi zambiri. Taganizirani izi: Ngati tipempha munthu kuti tipeze chinachake, timalimbikitsanso, ndipo ngati tiyesa kukakamiza aliyense kuti achite chinachake (komanso nthawi zambiri popanda kufotokoza zikhumbo zathu), ndiye kuti timagwiritsa ntchito njira zolakwika .
Ndipo timachita izi chifukwa sitiri otsimikiza mumtima mwathu ndipo timaopa kusonyeza malingaliro athu enieni.
Zoe zinali zovuta kupeza chinenero chimodzi ndi abwenzi a chibwenzi chake. Iye sakanakhoza kujowina nawo kukambirana kulikonse, chifukwa iye sankagawana zofuna zawo nkomwe.
Nthawi zambiri ankafuna kukhala yekhayo, chifukwa ndi momwe ankakhalira mosavuta. Kodi mukuganiza kuti anamuuza momveka bwino izi? Ayi! Bwanji mukuchita manyazi!
Mmalo mwake, iye adapeza zizindikiro zoyamba zomwe Michael - yemwe amatchedwa mnyamata wake - adakokera kukambirana mwachangu, adayamba kuyang'ana ndikumufunsa za chinachake. Mwachitsanzo, mugule ayisikilimu.
Iye sanafune kuti asokonezedwe ndikupatsidwa kuti akagule kenaka kapena kugula ayisikilimu yokha - makamaka chifukwa chihemacho chili pafupi. Zoya, ndithudi, adakhumudwa nthawi yomweyo.
Pambuyo pake, Mikhail anasiya kukambirana ndi abwenzi ndipo anaika maganizo ake pa kufotokoza ubale ndi Zoya.
M'malo moyankhula momveka bwino kuti akumva osasangalala ndi anzake a Misha ndikumupempha kuti athandize nawo mbali, Zoya ankakonda kumukweza ndi mkwiyo.
Ndizosavuta kunena kuti "Simukundikonda" ndikumakhumudwitsa kusiyana ndi kufotokozera zomwe simunakonde mu khalidwe la wokondedwa wanu, zomwe zikuwonetseratu chikondi chimene mumayembekezera kuchokera kwa iye.
Chifukwa # 3: kudzichepetsa
Nthawi zambiri njira yothetsera mavuto mwachipongwe ikhoza kusonyeza kudzichepetsa.
Munthu - mmalo mofunsa za chinachake - amayamba kuganiza ndikuyamikira mwano nthawi zambiri.
Mwachitsanzo, Asya ndi mtsikana wochuluka kwambiri, yemwe kale ankaganiza kuti amuna ngati anthu owonda.
Choncho, mnyamata wake Sasha akamvetsera mwachidwi munthu wodutsa pang'onopang'ono, amakhumudwa nthawi yomweyo.
Zitsimikizo zonse za Sasha za chikondi chosatha sizichita pa Asya konse. "Simukufuna kundikwiyitsa, choncho ndikunama!" Akuwayankha.
Ngati mulibe kudzidalira, mumakhala ndi chilakolako chofuna kukhala ndi zifukwa zatsopano kuti mupeze zifukwa zowatsimikiziridwa ndipo, motero, chifukwa cha zolakwa zatsopano.
Zimakhala zovuta kulankhulana ndi anthu oterewa, chifukwa simudziwa zomwe angakhumudwitse nthawi yotsatira . Ngakhale kuyamikira kungayambitse chidani chakuya mwa iwo.
Kukambirana nambala 4: kuopa kukhala "nkhosa yakuda"
Kuwopa mkangano, mantha a kusamvetsedwa, kumapangitsanso anthu kukhala ndi njira yothetsera nkhani zosangalatsa.
Kukhumudwa ndi kophweka: pakuti, kudzipereka ndi kukhwima maganizo sikofunikira konse.
Kutsutsidwa anthu oterewa amanyamula mwa iwo wokha ndikudziphatika kwa zaka zambiri . Ndipo ngati vuto liyenera kuchitika, "chuma" chonsechi chimawoneka ngati chovuta.
Kodi ndiyenera kugwiritsa ntchito mkwiyo ngati chida?
Mwamwayi, nthawi yomweyo adakwiya kwambiri, munthu amayamba kuigwiritsa ntchito monga chida chake chosatha, ndipo ubalewo umakhala kusintha kwenikweni.
Inde, ndi zabwino kwambiri kulandira zoyenera (mwachitsanzo, kusamala, kutsimikiziridwa kwa chikondi, malaya atsopano a ubweya kapena mphete), koma sizomwe zimakondweretsa pamene kuwona mtima ndi chidaliro zimachoka pachiyanjano. Kulimbirana kawirikawiri kumachitira umboni kuti sitingathe kuyankhulana ndi mnzanuyo.
Ngati cholakwacho chimasanduka khalidwe labwino la thupi lanu, ndiye kuti anthu ayamba kunama kwa inu nthawi zambiri kapena kukhala chete.
Iwo amachita izi chifukwa akuwopa kukukhumudwitsani. Choncho, kudana kumakula pakati pa anthu. Ndipo chikondi mu chikhalidwe choterocho chimamwalira.
Kotero, musanayambe kukwiya, yesani kumbali ndi munthu wina ndikupeza zifukwa za khalidwe lake.
Lankhulani mozama - phunzirani kufotokozera kwa wokondedwa zomwe zikukukhumudwitsani inu mu khalidwe lake - chifukwa mwanjira imeneyi mumamupatsa mwayi wosintha chirichonse.