Zokambirana za izi ndi nkhani zomwe malembawo amakhala nthawi zonse mosangalala, komanso zitsanzo zabwino za agogo ndi agogo athu omwe akhala pamodzi zaka zambiri.
Koma, nthawi zambiri tikamakula, maloto athu amatha ngati makadi osungira nyumba. Ndipotu, kupatula zabwino, mudziko palinso zoipa, ndipo pazifukwa zina izo ziri zambiri. Mwachidziwikire, okondedwa si nthawi zonse okha, koma nthawi yaitali sichimasangalatsa, kapena mosiyana. Pozindikira izi, pokhala tikulowa m'banja lovomerezeka, nthawi zambiri timakumana ndi vuto linalake: kukhala m'banja kapena ayi, ndipo ngati ndi choncho, mungakhale bwanji m'banja, ngati palibe chikondi?
Kumverera kwenikweni.
Kulankhula za chikondi chenicheni, simukuyenera kusokoneza chikondi ndi chikondi. Maganizo awiriwa ndi mbali yosiyana, koma ndi ofanana. Kawirikawiri, chikondi chimakhala chiyambi cha njira yakubadwa kwa kumverera kozama, monga chikondi. Kwa nthawi yoyamba chikondi pali nthawi ya maluwa, nthawi imene agulugufe m'mimba, magalasi pinki pamaso, ndi chirichonse chiri chowala ndi chokongola. Kutalika kwa chikondi kwa onse ndiyekha, koma nthawi zambiri kumatha mpaka chaka. Malingana ndi chiwerengero, ndi nthawi yomwe maukwati ambiri amapangidwa. Kuwonjezera pamalingaliro onse olimbikitsa kumabwera chizolowezi. Chifukwa chake, ngakhale kuti sitikuyenda monga poyamba, koma ndi chizoloŵezi timapitiriza kukhala ndi mahomoni onse oyenerera, kuti tizimverera bwino ndi munthuyo. Kawirikawiri panthawiyi timayesa kuyesa osati zabwino zokha, komanso zolephera za munthu yemwe ali pafupi. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, timawazindikira mosavuta ndipo sitiwagwirizanitsa ndiwopadera.
Pambuyo pa chizolowezi, gawo lotsatira ndi chidani. Osati pachabe iwo amanena zimenezo kuchokera ku chikondi kudana ndi sitepe imodzi. Kawirikawiri, chikhalidwe choterocho chimafika anthu pamene ali mu zaka 2-3 za ukwati. Kukonda chidani kumatanthawuza kusonyeza kusakhutira ndi chinachake, kutuluka kwa mikangano, kukwiya kochuluka, kukana makhalidwe abwino ndikuganizira zolephera za mnzanuyo. Zikuwoneka kuti n'zosatheka kukhala m'banja, ndipo ndi nthawi yothetsa chiyanjano. Panthawi imeneyi, mwayi waukulu kwambiri wosudzulana komanso kukangana kwakukulu. Amuna omwe ali ndi ana angathe kupirira nthawi yomwe amati ndi chidani, chifukwa sapereka nthawi yochuluka kusiyana ndi nthawi yawo komanso chidwi chawo, koma kwa mwana wawo wokondedwa. Nthawiyi ikhonza kuonedwa ngati gawo lomaliza la kusaya.
Kupeza chidani mofulumira kumakhala ubwenzi. Ngati palibe chikondi m'banja, koma pakati pa okwatirana kumeneko ndi ubale waubwenzi ndi wapafupi, zimakhala zosavuta, komanso zosangalatsa. Kusintha koteroko kumagwirizana ndi mfundo yakuti nthawi ya chizoloŵezi idatha kale, moyo wanu uli wokonzeka, ndipo tsopano mukuzindikira bwinobwino zomwe zikuchitika pozungulira. Nthawi iyi, banja likuwoneka kukhala lokhazikika mu chikhalidwe, ndipo izi ndizofunika kwambiri pazinthu zakuthupi. Okwatirana amalankhulana kwambiri, panthawiyi ana amakhala odziimira ndipo makolo ali ndi nthawi yokha. Ponena za nthawi yaitali, nthawi yomwe imatchedwa "Ubwenzi" mwinamwake imakhudza moyo wochuluka wa banja.
Koma ubwenzi ukadzabwera chomwe chingatchedwe chikondi chenicheni.
Kotero, musachedwe kunena kuti palibe chikondi, mwinamwake simunayambepobe?
"Palibe chikondi."
Inde, izi zimachitikanso kuti ukwati, womwe umapangidwira pachitetezo cha chikondi, umakhala kulakwitsa, ndipo kumverera kumapita mwamsanga pamene mphukira ya pinki imachokera. Ukwati woterewu umangotayika, chifukwa posakhalitsa mmodzi wa okwatirana adzapeza zinthu zowonetsera, ndipo sizingatheke kukhala ndi munthu yemwe alibe chidwi ndi inu. Zopanda phindu zimatchedwanso kuti ukwati ndi wokhazikika. Kuleza mtima kuli pafupi ndi munthu wosakondweretsa, anthu ochepa ali ndi okwanira. Koma pali zosiyana, zomwe zimatsimikizira ulamulirowo. Ngati banja lanu lidayamba kukhala lokwatirana, ndi bwino kupatsana ufulu mwamsanga kusiyana ndi mtsogolo komanso kuti musabweretse mavuto.
Kawirikawiri, amayi ndi abambo ambiri amaimitsidwa ndi kupezeka kwa ana, kapena maganizo a anthu. Koma ngati mumvetsetsa, ana anu sangathenso kutentha, powona kusasamala kwanu tsiku lililonse. Choncho, kukhala m'banja popanda chikondi, ana sayenera. Aloleni iwo adziwe bwino kuti pali bambo ndi mayi omwe amawakonda, ndipo amamva chikondi chanu, ngakhale atakhala osiyana. Khulupirirani kuti akamakula, adzakumvetsa ndikukuthandizani. Ndipo anthu onse ndi chisamaliro sichiyenera kulipidwa, aliyense ali ndi moyo umene ulibe mavuto ochepa, kotero mumakonda kuthetsa mavuto anu, chifukwa ndi opindulitsa kwa inu.
Chifundo.
Nthawi zina zimakhalapo pamene mmodzi mwa okwatirana sakumverera kukhala wapadera maganizo kumapitilirapo m'banja, komatu mwachifundo kwa theka lachiwiri. Monga, nthawi yochuluka pamodzi, ndi momwe iye (iye) wopanda ine, ndikupitiriza kupirira, mphamvu zambiri ndizokwanira pakugwira ntchito, zokondweretsa, makampani, osakhala ndi chimwemwe chonse cha moyo. Ubale woterewu ukhoza kufanizidwa ndi sutukesi popanda chogwiritsira ntchito - ndipo ndi kovuta kupirira, ndipo kuuponya ndikumvetsa chisoni. Ndi khalidwe lotere, mwamuna kapena mkazi wachikondi amasonyeza, monga momwe, mawonetseredwe apamwamba, poyerekeza ndi mnzanu wokondedwa. Koma pa gawo lachimake zonse zimawoneka zowawa. Kodi munayamba mwawonapo chikondi chopanda chikondi? Kotero, kodi kuyambitsidwa kokondweretsa kupweteka kwauzimu kungathe kukhalapo pa mndandanda wa zolinga zabwino?
Choncho, ngati palibe malingaliro, ndi bwino kuganizira bwino, ndikupanga chisankho chimodzi choyenera. Inde, mungathe kuganiza za "njira imodzi ndi imodzi", momwe mungapitirizire kukhala m'banja, ngati palibe chikondi, koma kodi ndikofunika? Timapatsidwa moyo umodzi, ndipo sitingathe kudzipereka tokha. Ngati palibe chikondi, ndi bwino kukhalabe bwino, koma patali kusiyana ndi kukhala pafupi ndi kudana.
Kumbukirani kuti uwu ndiwo moyo wanu, ndi momwe mungasankhire nokha.