Choyamba, muyenera kukhala otsimikiza kuti mnyamata wanu wakale akungoganizira za inu, usana ndi usiku, mphindi iliyonse ndi mphindi iliyonse ya moyo wake, malingaliro ake onse amagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi inu, kukumbukira zakale, momwe mudakumana ndi oyambirira nthawi. Ndipo chifukwa chiyani amapewa kukumana nanu, mumapempha? Chifukwa chakuti ali wotanganidwa, ali ndi zambiri zoti achite, chifukwa amapeza ndalama kuti akhale ndi tsogolo lanu labwino. N'chifukwa chiyani sakufuna kulankhula nawe pa foni? Inde, chifukwa muli pa nthawi yovuta kwambiri. Pakalipano akupulumutsa dziko lapansi, kuyesa kuthetsa bomba, kupulumutsa anthu kuchokera kuphulika kwa atomiki. Nchifukwa chiani amayankha makalata anu onse osakondweretsa komanso osawerengeka? Inde, chifukwa sakonda kulemba makalata akuluakulu pa chilichonse. Iye ndi munthu wochitapo kanthu. Ndipamene mukakumana, ndiye kuti adzakuuzani zonse zomwe amaganiza, mu mitundu yofatsa komanso yachikondi adzakuuzani za momwe anavutikira nthawi zonse popanda inu. Kotero, iyi ndi gawo loyambirira la uphungu woipa: utali wotani kuti mukhalebe ndikumverera kwa chikondi.
Nchifukwa chiyani mnyamata wanu wakale amachita zonse zomwe akufuna? Chifukwa iye ndi mfulu, iye si kapolo wanu. Lungamitsani zochita zake zonse. Iye ndi mwamuna ndipo ali ndi ufulu kuyang'ana akazi ena, kumwa mowa, kumenyana, kuyenda zovala zonyansa, kusiya ntchito, kusakwaniritsa malonjezo. Kotero chiyani? Iye ndi munthu! Iye akhoza kuchita chirichonse. Zochita zake sizikusokoneza ubale wanu.
Chinanso chimachokera kumndandanda wowopsya: Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale ndi chikondi chokhalitsa? Mtundu uliwonse wa chisomo chake umawoneka kuti ndi mwayi woyambitsa ubale watsopano. Nthawi iliyonse yabwino mu khalidwe lake ikhoza kuonedwa ngati chizindikiro chokomera mtima. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mnyamata wanu wakale samakana kwathunthu kuyankhulana konse ndi inu. Ngati angakuitane, akuitanani ku filimu, kapena mukapite kukagula, ngati akubwera kudzakuchezerani nokha, mukudziwa chomwe, mutenge ngati chizindikiro chabwino. Izi zikutanthauza kuti posachedwa zinthu zonse zidzasintha mu ubale wanu kuti zikhale bwino, mutha kukhala pamodzi kachiwiri, adzakugwirani m'manja mwake, kukupatsani maluwa, kulankhula mwachifundo ndikukhala chinthu chomwecho kwa inu.
Malangizo ena owopsa: momwe mungapitirizire kukonda nthawi yaitali. Musayang'ane konse kuti muwerenge ubale wanu. Musaganize ndi zomwe zinali pachiyambi cha chiyanjano chanu ndi kumene ali tsopano. Sikofunika kukumbukira kuti chirichonse chinali chokoma ndi chokoma kumayambiriro, pamene anakupatsa maluwa, kuvala mmanja mwake, ndikuganiza kuti tsopano akukupukuta mapazi, nthawi zina amabwera kukwaniritsa zosowa zake zogonana . Ayi, ayi, ndipo palibe. Musaganize ngakhale pang'ono!
Vuto lina lopweteka: Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale ndi chikondi chokhalitsa? Musayesetse kupeza kuchokera kwa anzanu komanso mabwenzi anu, mwachizoloŵezi mnyamata wanu wakale akuphwanya mtsikana kapena, mosiyana, momwe amasonyezera chidwi chake. Ndipo momwe amasamalirira atsikana, kaya amapatsa maluwa, kaya amatsogolera kuresitilanti. Musachedwe nthawi yomwe adzakuuzeni kudzera mwa anzanu kuti zonse zatha ndipo simudzawonekeranso m'moyo wake. Nchifukwa chiyani mukusowa izi zonse? Dziwani kuti kuti mukwaniritse chikondi ndi chidwi cha mnyamata, munthu ayenera kukhala wolimbikira, penyani pakhomo, wodzaza ndi masamu, mayitanidwe ndi mphatso. Kupanda kutero, ngati mutasiya kuyesa kwanu kuti mubwezeretse malingaliro ake ndi inu, mudzakhalanso okhudzidwa ndi mkwiyo, misonzi idzawonekera m'maso mwanu, mudzakhalanso ndi maganizo. Chifukwa chiyani? Ndi bwino kukhala wogwira ntchito ndikupeza mwamuna! Kupanda kutero, iwe udzakhala kosatha uli yekha ndi chisoni chako ndi kumverera. Ayi, si choncho. Si kwa inu, ndibwino kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu yanu pobwezeretsa munthu. Iye akhale woipa, osati wachuma, sakusakondani inu, koma pambali panu mudzakhala munthu! Kotero, ife tipitiliza kufufuza zotsatizana zazingaliro zovulaza: ndi nthawi yayitali bwanji kusunga kumverera kwa chikondi. Chowonadi ndi chakuti kudalira pa ubale ndi amuna, akatswiri ambiri aza maganizo amaganiza mofanana ndi kudalira mankhwala. Pamene maubwenzi omwe anali okondedwa kwa inu atha, pamene wokondedwa wakuponyani, zikuwoneka ngati kukana mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Muli ndi "kuphwanya" kwakukulu, zomwe zizindikiro zake ndizo: misonzi, maganizo okhumudwa, pamene malingaliro anu onse amangokhala nawo. Koma, imani. Ndipo kodi mukufuna kuchotsa zowawa izi, kuchokera ku moyo wotchedwa wobwezera kwa wokondedwa wanu woyamba? Ayi? Ndiko kulondola, ndi bwino kutambasula chisangalalo chogawanika mpaka kumapeto, kumwa mowawidwa ndi kukhumudwa ndi kupweteka kwa mkwiyo. Kotero, pamene mumaganizira kwambiri za munthu wanu wakale, nthawi yokoma yomwe mwakhala pamodzi, momwe mumamvera, ndikukumbukira, chikondi chokhalitsa sichidzakusiyani. Choncho, pitirizani kuganizira za tsiku lililonse. Sungani maganizo awa pakati pa mutu wanu. Ngati mutatsatira malingaliro onse, ndiye kuti mudzatha kukhala osasangalala kwambiri kwa nthawi yaitali, kudandaula za chikondi chosakwaniritsidwira, chifukwa chosiyidwa. Choncho, malangizo owopsa: momwe mungasunge chikondi chautali chingakuthandizeni!
Ngati wachinyamata wanu sakuganizira, pitirizani kukhala naye paubwenzi, kuyankhulana pa ICQ, pafoni, ndi makalata, ndi chirichonse, kungolankhula. Mukungofuna kumva mau okoma ndi okondedwa, werengani mauthenga omwe adalemba. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, mukhoza kudzikumbatira ndi chiyembekezo cha tsogolo labwino, kapena mutha kuganizira mozama nkhani yomwe iyenera kupita mofulumira paulendo wautali, ndipo mulibe mwayi wakuwona nokha. Musaganize ngakhale kuchotsa ocheza nawo! Siyani chirichonse: ndipo nambala ya foni nambala ya ICQ, nambala ya Skype, sungani tsamba lake kwa anzanu a m'kalasi ndipo mumacheza ndi osankhidwa, kotero inu nthawizonse mumakhala ndi mwayi wowonera chithunzi cha wokondedwa wanu. Ndi khalidwe lamtundu umenewu limene silingalole chikondi chanu kudutsa.
Mukamayankhula ndi mnyamata wanu wakale, chitani zosachitika. Funsani malangizo ake, muuzeni zonse zomwe mwakumana nazo, malingaliro anu, zomwe munakumana nazo. Ngati mwadzidzidzi mtima watsopano wa mtima wanu ukuwonekeratu, onetsetsani kuti mumamuuza mnyamata wanu wakale za izo. Funsani maganizo ake, malangizo, amuthandizeni kusankha chovala. Choncho, kukhala ndi nkhawa nthawi zonse komanso kuvutika maganizo, simungathe kupanga ubale watsopano. Ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani mumawafuna? Khalani ndi moyo wakale!
Ngati wachikulire wanu sakuganizira kukumana nanu, onetsetsani kuti mugwiritse ntchito izi. Kambiranani naye nthawi zonse momwe zingathere. Ngati mukudziwa malo omwe amapezeka nthawi zambiri, onetsetsani kuti mulipo. Bwerani ndi zifukwa zosiyanasiyana kuti mukumane naye. Izi zidzakuthandizani kuti mukhalebe ndi chikondi chanu nthawi zonse. Musanyalanyaze pempho la kugonana pa mbali yake. Bwanji? Izi zidzakuthandizani kukumbukira zomwe mudakondana nazo. Musamaganize kuti akungokugwiritsani ntchito. Sangalalani nazo! Khalani naye bwenzi lake lachinsinsi lachinsinsi. Pambuyo pake, iye ndi mwamuna, nthawi zina amafunika kuthana ndi zilakolako zawo zogonana, choncho mumuthandize. Chowona kuti akufunabe kuti adzakupatsani chiyembekezo cha tsogolo lowala komanso lamphamvu mu ubale wanu.
Nthawi zonse mum'yang'anire kuti akakumane naye, mwachisawawa kapena mwachindunji. Kodi mwakumana nawo? Eya, chikondi chako chatsitsidwanso ndi kukhalapo kwake. Ndicho chimene mukufuna. Kulankhulana ndi anzanu omwe mumawadziwa, ndi abwenzi ake, ngakhale ngati simukuwakonda, kudzakupatsani mpata wokhala pafupi naye. Ngakhale simukumana mwadzidzidzi ku kampani, koma mudzaphunzira za iye, za zomwe zikuchitika m'moyo wake, kuti mudziwe ngati akukondanso, phunzirani za mwayi wake kuntchito. M'tsogolomu, mungagwiritse ntchito kumanga ubale wanu. Ganizirani kawirikawiri za momwe mwakhalira pamodzi. Pewani kukumbukira kwanu, tsitsirani masiku anu abwino, misonkhano. Taganizirani izi nthawi zonse, kugona ndi kudzuka ndi maganizo ake. Ikani chithunzi chake pafupi ndi bedi kuti pamene mugona, muwone nkhope yake, ndipo pamene mudadzuka, chinthu choyamba chimene munachiwona chinali nkhope yake. Onetsetsani kuti mupulumutse mphatso zake zonse, komanso zizindikiro zabwino zomwe mungamukumbutse, za ubale wanu. Pangani malo osungiramo zinthu zakale kuchokera mu chipinda chake. Konzani zinthu zonse zazing'ono, zithunzi zanu, mphatso zake pamasamulo ndi kuyang'ana pafupipafupi. Chitani izi kuti kukumbukira kwake kuli ndi inu nthawi zonse.
Khalani pamalo omwe mudali palimodzi kuti mukhale ndi chikumbumtima cha kukumbukira, kulirira momwe mwakhalira kuno, mudzipweteketsenso nokha. Nthawi zonse dikirani kuitana kwake, kusokoneza foni ndi imelo. Fufuzani foniyi maminiti awiri. Chabwino, pali chozizwitsa m'moyo. Ndipo mwadzidzidzi adzaitana, chifukwa akusowa thandizo lanu kapena alibe wina woti azigona naye. Bwerani kunyumba kwake kuti muyang'ane mawindo ake mobisa, kumbukirani ndikuganizira zomwe akuchita tsopano, kaya akuganiza za inu. Pezani bukhu lapadera - ndondomeko yomwe mungalembere nthawi yonse ya chiyanjano chanu, mphatso zake, zizoloŵezi zake, zomwe amakonda komanso sakonda, lembani zonse zomwe adakuuzani. Izi zidzakupangitsani kumverera mwachikondi kwa nthawi yaitali. Yankhulani monga adanena, mubwererenso, ngati ali ndi "mawu" kapena "mawu" apadera, onetsetsani kuti mukuwakumbukira ndipo nthawi zonse mumalankhula. Khalani ndi zofuna zake. Ngati amakonda kukonda nsomba, inunso mukhale nsodzi yovuta, ndibwino kuti mumve kuti mukudwala nsomba ndipo mumadana udzudzu, koma nthawi yanu inali yokondwa kukhala pansi kwa maola osadziwika bwino ndikuyang'ana pamadzi.
Musasangalale, musamapita kumisonkhano ndi amuna ena, koma bwanji ngati wina akukukondani? Ndibwino kuti mutseke nokha panyumba ndikukhala mwamtendere m'masautso anu. Gawani maganizo ake, amakhulupirira kuti pinki ndi yonyansa kwambiri? Choncho idyani chipinda chanu chakuda chakuda, musamveke zinthu zobiriwira, choncho, zikhale zotani. Nthawi zonse yesani ubale wanu, dzidzimvere nokha, yendetseni nokha kwambiri. Mukhoza kupitiriza kwamuyaya, ndipo inu nokha mumadziwa malangizo oipa onse: Ndikutenga nthawi yaitali bwanji kuti mukhale ndi chikondi. Ngati mukufuna kuthamanga mofulumira ndi maubwenzi akale ndikuyamba zatsopano, chitani chilichonse chosiyana. Khalani okondwa!