Ndi chinthu chimodzi, pamene muli ndi chibwenzi, mumakumana naye kwa nthawi yaitali. Chirichonse chikuwoneka chikuyenda bwino. Ubale wanu ukukula mofulumira. Inu muli pamodzi usana ndi usiku, palimodzi mukondwerera maholide, mumakhala maholide pamodzi kapena malo ogona, makolo amayembekeza chinachake chofunika kwambiri kwa inu, monga chikwati. Mukumvetsa kuti ubale wanu ndi mnyamata suli mkati mwa chiganizo ichi.
Kuphatikizana ndi mnyamata wa maloto anu ndilo loto loopsya kwambiri, lomwe silingathe kulota ndi tanthauzo. Ichi ndi chikondi. Ndipo pano pa malo akuchitika moyipa: kupandukira, kusakhulupirika kapena chinthu china chodabwitsa. Nkhaniyi imatha usiku wonse. Inde, ili ndi vuto. Zovuta, ndi zotsatira zosayembekezereka ndi zotsatira. Koma pali "koma" apa. Ndi ochita malonda, makamaka, amagawana. Inu nonse mumamvetsa kuti: Mnyamatayo ndi wochimwa, ndipo ndiwe wozunzidwa. Ubale ukupitiriza kukhala wopanda nzeru. Ndipo mumatsogolera zolinga zanu. Gawo ndi mfundo. Wina amasiya ndi mutu wonyada, koma anthu oganiza bwino ndi ochepa. Kawirikawiri, asanakwatirane, msungwanayo amapenda mozama za ndege. Pomwepo, adakali wonyada ndi wokhumudwa, amachoka. Gawoli lachidule ndi losavuta, ziribe kanthu momwe zingakhalire zovuta.
Ndipo chochita kwa iwo omwe sali pachibwenzi poyamba. Pazifukwa zina, iwo anapitiriza ndikukoka. Kugawa? Izi zimakhala chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri. Koma momwe mungachitire izi, momwe mungayanjane ndi mnyamata, ngati ubale ukugwedezeka ndipo sikumamupweteka iye? Ndizoopsa kuti nditenge udindo wotero. Ndi kosavuta kuti mnyamata asakhale ndi chidwi chopitirizabe "chikondi". Apa zonse zimathetsedwa mwamsanga ndi zopweteka kwambiri kumbali zonse ziwiri.
Koma zimakhalanso kuti ubale umenewu umakulemetsa. Pankhaniyi, asungwana ambiri amanjenjemera ndi kukhumudwa. Njira yomwe mumaikonda sikuti musasankhe chilichonse, koma choyamba kuti muthetse mavuto anu kwa wina: abwenzi, amayi. Kumvera malangizo awo "othandiza" ndi ... Ndipo chitani momwemo mwanjira yanu. Tsopano zakhala zotheka kugwiritsira ntchito malo a intaneti, kusefukira maulendo a akazi ndi nkhani zawo zakukhosi ndi kufunsa: momwe mungakhalire? Ndipo choyambacho chimayamba. Pa mbali ina ya polojekiti, anthu osadziwika bwino omwe, mwinamwake iwowo ndi ena amalephera, atapatula nthaŵi yogawira uphungu waulere ndi kunja, akungogwedeza ndi malingaliro.
Mukufunadi kuthandizira "kusiya mwamuna ngati ubwenzi uchedwa" - choncho funso lanu likumveka pazenera. Ndipo mumayesa anthu omwewo kuti afunsenso funso lomwelo, pang'ono ponena kuti: "Kodi ndiyenera kuchoka mwamunayo ngati chibwenzi chikuchedwa?" Musakhulupirire, koma kasupe "wopitirira malire" malingaliro sadzauma. Otsutsana omwewo adzayamba kukutsimikizirani za zosiyana, kutsutsana nokha. Popanda chikumbumtima. Sitidzafufuza chifukwa chake ndi chifukwa chake chikuchitika. Ili ndi mutu wosiyana, wokondweretsa kwambiri. Dziwani kuti kuwonjezera pa inu, palibe moyo umodzi wokha womwe ukhoza kupanga chisankho cholondola, kupeza mawu olondola.
Njira yokhayo yothetsera vuto ili ndi kukambirana. Momwe kukambirana uku kudzakhalire, ndi kwa inu ndi osankhidwa anu. Mwina mutha kukhala pansi patebulo ndikukambirana mofatsa mfundo zonse pamwamba pa "i". Mwina zokambirana zanu zidzachitika pazinthu zina. Zimatengera zifukwa zambiri, kuchokera pa msinkhu wa kulera, kutha kwa mphepo zamkuntho.
Chinthu chachikulu ndikudzipangira nokha kuti ichi ndi chokha chokhazikika pakali pano (izi ndiye kuti simudandaula, zimachitika mwanjira imeneyi). Ndiye ndikofunikira kukhala wolimba mtima ndi kutsimikiza mtima kutenga gawo ili, kuti abweretse chiganizocho kuti chiphedwe. Inde, ndikofunika kuti musinthe bwino, kuti zotsatira za zokambirana zanu zikhale zirizonse, ngakhale, mwinamwake zosadalirika. Yesetsani kutsimikizira nokha kuti chibwenzi chanu chidzakhala ndi ufulu wokwiya komanso kuti chokhumudwitsachi chidzakukhudzani - ndibwino kupereka njira zonse zomwe mungathe.
Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti kuyambira nthawi iliyonse nthawi zonse mumakhala njira yopulumukira. Vuto lililonse liyenera kuyesedwa ndi dontho la kudzikonda ndi chifundo, kumvetsetsa kuti, mwina, mungapweteke bwanji. Ngakhale ululu uwu ndi chifukwa cha chipulumutso. Mukhoza kudziyika nokha pamalo ena. Zina zonse zidzatulukira zokha: momwe ziyenera kukhazikitsidwa, pamene ziyenera kutchulidwa. Mvetserani nokha, mutafufuza ndi maganizo anu. Kudzipereka kwambiri ndi kudzidalira. Ndiye zonse zidzatha. Chirichonse, monga momwe iwe umakhalira.