Nchifukwa chiyani palibe nthabwala zopusa za apongozi ako? Inde, chifukwa ife akazi ndife anzeru ndi openya. Timamvetsetsa bwino kuti tifunika kukhala mwamtendere ndi "mayi" wachiwiri kuti tikhalebe mwamtendere ndi mgwirizano m'banja mwathu, ndipo chifukwa cha izi tikhoza "kumangirira pamtima" ndikukhala chete ngakhale chinachake sichingativomereze.
Nanga bwanji za amuna? Ambiri a iwo samadziwa momwe angasinthire. Nthawi zambiri amatsatira mfundo yakuti "tilole dziko lapansi lidzigwetse pansi pa ife." Ndiko kuti amayi omwe sali osowa angafune kusintha chifukwa cha mnyamata wina, ngakhale mwamuna wa mwana wake wamkazi. Komanso amayi ambiri amaona kuti zosankha za mwana wawo sizinapindule kwambiri Ndicho chifukwa chake tiyenera kutsimikizira mwa kuchita kuti wosankhidwa wanu ndi woyenera kugawana nanu chisoni ndi chimwemwe.
Kuti musayang'ane nkhondo yomwe ikuwonekera pakati pa anthu omwe mumakonda, muyenera kuchita chimodzimodzi: mwamuna ndi mayi.
Pangani zolinga
Musanayambe kuchita chilichonse kuti abweretse amayi anu ndi mwamuna wanu, sankhani zomwe mukufuna. Ngati mukuyembekeza kubwera kwadzidzidzi kwa malingaliro achibale, ndiye, mwinamwake, mudzakumana ndi vuto lalikulu. Inde, pali milandu pamene mkazi yemwe ali ndi mwana wamkazi wamwamuna wapeza mwana wamwamuna wokonda, koma komabe, izi ndizosiyana ndi lamulo.
Musati mufunse chikondi! Ndikokwanira kuti aliyense wa maphwando "asonyeze mgwirizano wosagwirizana." Kusalowerera ndale pakati pa apongozi anu ndi apongozi anu ndi njira yoyenera, mwinamwake m'kupita kwa nthawi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu adzamva kuti ali ndi mayi wachiwiri weniweni, komabe osati Zochuluka kwambiri pa izi, kuti musataye mtima. Padakali pano, tiyesera kuwawerengera pamodzi.
Pangani ubale wabwino
Njira yabwino yogonjetsa nkhondo pakati pa apongozi awo ndi apongozi awo mu nkhondo ndi kuteteza izo kuyambira pachiyambi. Choncho, nkofunika kwambiri kuyesetsa kukhazikitsa ubale wabwino pakati pa wokondedwa wanu ndi amayi anu kumayambiriro kwa moyo wanu waukwati (zedi - musanalowe m'banja). Sungathe kupanga izo panthawi? Kuli bwino mochedwa kuposa kale.
"Muzigwira ntchito" ndi mwamuna wake
Malingana ndi zolemba zamakono, amuna ambiri amakhulupirira kuti apongozi apamwamba ndi omwe amakhala ndi makilomita zikwi zikwi kuchokera kwa inu ndipo amabwera kwa masiku angapo pachaka. Ndi njirayi, ndizosavuta kukhalabe ndi ubale wabwino. Komabe, m'moyo weniweni nthawi zambiri zimachitika mosiyana. Yambani "chithandizo" cha okhulupirika! Yesetsani kubweretsa kwa mwamuna kuganiza kuti ayenera kugwira ntchito mwakhama kuti akwaniritse malingaliro ake enieni. "Sangakufunseni kuti mukangane ndi amayi ake?" Kotero simukufuna.
Choncho, mpongozi wake ayenera kudziwonetsa yekha ndi dzanja labwino kwambiri, achite zabwino kwa apongozi ake. Inde, inu mukudziwa bwino zofuna ndi zizolowezi za amayi anu. Yesani kupewa zovuta kapena zosautsa. Mwachitsanzo, musaiwale kudziwitsa mwamuna wanu kuti amayi anu amadana ndi daffodils, chifukwa amamuphatikiza naye kumanda. Kapena musamuletse iye kuti asagulire keke yaikulu, ngati mukudziwa kuti amayi anu ali ndi zakudya zambiri, ndi zina zotero.
Kukambirana ndi amayi
Ngati amayi anu ali otsimikiza kuti "munthu uyu si mnzako ndipo mukuyenerera zabwino," yesetsani kusonyeza zosiyana ndizo: mumadziwa bwino ubwino ndi zovuta za munthu wanu. Yesetsani kumvetsera nthawi zonse zomwe mwapongozi wanu akuchita, ndizosathandiza kuti muzichita bwino. .
Mwachitsanzo, wosankhidwa wanu sadziwa bwino luso lojambulajambula, si bwino kusunga kukambirana. Koma iye ali ndi manja agolide. Muuzeni kuti amayi anu ali ndi pompu yayitali kapena muyenera kumanga masamu mu bafa.
Mwinamwake, mosiyana, mwamunayo sanakhalepo ndi nyundo mu moyo wake. Koma iye, monga amayi anu, amakonda kujambula ndipo amakonda malo owonetsera. Bwanji osaitana apongozi ake kupita ku chionetsero kapena ntchito yabwino? Ndikhulupirire, adzakondwa kwambiri.
Mwinamwake mumamukonda mwamuna wanu, koma musamupatse nthawi yanu yonse yaulere. Musaiwale za kuyankhulana ndi makolo! Taganizirani, ngati amayi anu akuiwalika, ndiye kuti ndizolakwa kuti asakuganizireni, koma munthu amene "adamuba" mwanayo.
Zimakhala kuti nsanje ya amayi anga imatchulidwa, nthawi zonse samakuganizirani. Kawirikawiri izi zimachitika kwa amayi osakwatira omwe apatulira moyo wawo wonse kwa mwana mmodzi yekha, koma tsopano amadziona kuti alibe ntchito kwa wina aliyense. Mwina kubadwa kwa mdzukulu kapena mdzukulu kumathandiza kuthana ndi vutoli. Koma, kuwonjezera pa izi, mukhoza kuyesa amayi anu kuchita nawo kanthu kena. Ndipo kodi iye sanapange mtanda pamtunda wake? Mupatse iye ndondomeko yabwino ya ulusi ndi chimango. Kudziwa? Funsani kuti akumangirireni thukuta. Ndipo mpongozi wanga wokondedwa nayenso.
Moyenera timakangana
Palibe mabanja omwe aliyense amakhala wokondwa ndi chirichonse. Nthaŵi ndi nthaŵi chinachake chimatikhumudwitsa. Ndipo, ndithudi, pakati pa apongozi anu ndi apongozi awo, mikangano imabweranso. Sikoyenera kuyembekezera kuti ali akulu ndipo adzamvetsetsa okha. Ngati mutalola zinthu kupita okha, palibe chabwino chomwe chidzabwere. Choncho, ife, akazi ndi ana aakazi mwa munthu mmodzi, tiyenera kusonyeza zozizwitsa za kuleza mtima, nzeru ndi luntha kuti tisunge mtendere m'banja.
Ngakhale kuti mpikisano wotsegukayo idapewedwera, zolakwika zatsalabe. Choncho, sitimasuka ndipo sitiiwala malamulo ofunika kwambiri omwe sangathe kuphwanyidwa.
1. Musatenge mbali. Mulimonsemo, mmodzi wa anthu okondedwa kwa inu adzakhumudwa.
2. Ngakhale payekha, munthu sayenera kumuthandiza mwamunayo momveka bwino za apongozi ake komanso mosiyana. Mu chikhalidwe chosangalatsa, munthu akhoza kunena chinachake chimene iwe sungakhoze kuiwala ndi kukhululukira kwa nthawi yaitali.
3. Ngati mudakhumudwitsidwa, musalole kudzudzula mwamuna wanu pamaso pa amayi anu komanso mosiyana. Mudzavomereza zofooka za amuna ndi amayi, koma safunikira kudziwa malingaliro anu pa izi!
4. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri chomwe timakumbukira nthawi zonse ndikumakumbutsa amayi ndi abambo athu okondedwa kuti palibe aliyense wa ife amene ali wangwiro ndipo sangasinthe. Koma inu mumawakonda iwo onse pa zolakwitsa zawo zonse. Ndipo chifukwa cha izi ayenera kulemekeza maganizo a wina ndi mzake.