Mkwiyo umachitika m'moyo wa munthu aliyense. Zimakhala zovuta kupeza munthu amene sangakhumudwitse winawake. Kawirikawiri amayesa kutsanulira zolakwa zawo ndi achibale awo, komanso kapu ya khofi ndi abwenzi. Inde, kuthetsa zovutazo sikungatheke. Ngakhale kuti mungathe kuchotsa mkwiyo wamakono wakale ndipo simungasonkhanitsenso chilichonse chatsopano. Aliyense adzanena kuti zodandaula zili zosiyana. Kawirikawiri mumamva mawu monga: "Ndinapweteka kwambiri kapena ine pang'ono pokha anakhumudwitsidwa. " Ngakhale mawu osalongosoka omwe alibe cholinga, akhoza kukhumudwitsa munthu kwa zaka zambiri. Ngakhale mawu omwe ananenedwa ndi mwana wamng'ono akhoza kuvulaza munthu.
Mwachitsanzo, nthawi zambiri, ena sangamvere mawu omwe amachitira mosadziwika, ndipo ena akhoza kuvulaza moyo. Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani njirayi ikupezeka? Ngati izo ziripo, ndiye ziyenera kudziwika kuti ndizofunikira. N'chifukwa chiyani mawonekedwewa ndi ofunikira? Kukhumudwa kumapwetekedwa mtima. Kwa munthu amene akufuna kudzisintha yekha, kutukwana ndi barometer ya konkire, kuti adziwe mbali "zofooka". Aliyense akhoza kukhumudwitsa kapena kungokhumudwa. Mwachitsanzo, mungathe kukhumudwitsa mawu okhudza "kuchepa pang'ono" kapena wokhala ndi luso labwino. Aliyense ali ndi zingwe zambiri zovuta. Iwo amachotsedwa mwadzidzidzi akavulala. Ndikofunikira kuti tifotokoze kuti munthu amene amalankhula mawu awa akuganiza kuti akhoza kukhumudwitsa kapena ayi. Mwinamwake munthu uyu sakufuna kukhumudwitsa ndi kusokoneza maganizo.
Tsekani anthu, achibale, anzanu mukudziwa za malo ovuta. M'nthaŵi zakale iwo anati: "Chilichonse chimakhala poizoni, monga chirichonse chingathe kukhala mankhwala." Inde, zonsezi zikhoza kutchulidwa ndi mkwiyo, nayenso. Ngati mutalola kuti kulakwitsa kukule, pangani "njoka ya njovu", ndiye kuti kulakwitsa kudzakhala poizoni, ndipo ngati mukuwona kunyozedwa ngati mawu, kungakhale mankhwala. Ngati chigamulo cha malonda chikukhala mwa munthu kuyambira ubwana, chidzafalikira ku chiyanjano ndi mwamuna, ndi makolo, ndi ogwira ntchito. Kuwona nkhope yosokonezeka, iwo akufuna kuthandiza ndikungokhala osakhwima. Akazi oterewa amapita kwa dokotala-katswiri wa zamaganizo kwa zaka zambiri, akuwuzani momwe iwo sakuwonekera bwino ndi ena. Komabe, iwo eni eni sazindikira kuti fanoli lidasankhidwa ndi iwo okha. Pa zomwe munthu uyu sakudziwa momwe angakhalire mosiyana. Ndizimenezo mavuto onse amayamba. Anthu ayamba kumvetsa kuti fano ili ndi malo abwino kwambiri. Chifundo chawo nthawi yomweyo chimatha.
Mwachitsanzo, kumayambiriro kwa moyo waukwati, kupweteka milomo kumamuwoneka wokongola kwambiri, koma masewerawa ndi okhumudwitsa pang'ono. Munthu akamasiya kupepesa. Ndipo anthu omwe samakhumudwitsidwa, koma amangodziyesa, amatha kusiya kukhulupirira. Ndipo ngati iwo akusowa thandizo, iwo samachipeza icho. Anthu onse ali ndi choonadi chawo ndi mkwiyo wawo. Kutsutsidwa kawirikawiri sikukhala chikhulupiliro choyenera: Mwachitsanzo, ganizirani kuti anthu onse ali ngati iwo, ndipo ngati ayi , iwo akungokhala odabwitsa. Iwo amaganiza kuti aliyense ndi ovuta kuwamvetsa, momwe iwo eni aliri . Ndipo ngati mumvetsetsa, muyenera kuthandizira. Ngati safuna kuthandiza, angaganize kuti akhumudwa. Simungathe kuyembekezera kuti anthu aziwerenga maganizo. Mmodzi ayenera kuganiza kuti mau a anthu amachokera ku zofuna zake, zolinga zake ndipo sadakhumudwitse aliyense. Simukusowa kupeza zovuta, koma fufuzani njira zoyankhulirana. Pali mtundu wa zotembereredwa zomwe sizili zosavuta kuiwala. Pali zilakolako zakale, makamaka akachitidwa ndi achibale kapena abwenzi, nthawi zambiri zimakhala m'maganizo. Chigamulochi chikhoza kuchitika kale, ngakhale wolakwirayo adatha kusintha, koma kumbukiranibe. Ndipo kawirikawiri anthu amakumbukira chisoni chifukwa cha nthawi yaitali kusiyana ndi zokondweretsa. Ndipo, ndithudi, sitimakumbukira zokhazokha izi, koma mwa mwayi, timayesa kukumbutsa wolakwirayo.
Chimudzu ndikumverera. M'menemo maganizo ambiri amabisika. Anthu omwe amadzidandaulira kwa zaka zambiri amagwira ntchito mwathunthu . Kutemberera kumagawidwa mu magawo awiri: maganizo ndi zomveka. Mkwiyo wokwiya sumalola kukhala ndi moyo, nthawi zonse moyo uli wodzaza ndi nkhawa, sichikondweretsa ngakhale. Kuchokera pa zonse izi muyenera kuchotsa, kukhala bwino. Ndipo gawo lovomerezeka la chipongwe ndizochitikira pamoyo wokha. Kudandaula kotereku kumasonyeza momwe mungachitire zofanana. Ngati mumakhululukira chinyengo, ndiye kuti maganizo amatha, ndiko kuti, munthu akamakumbukira moyo wapadera sakhala ndi maganizo olakwika. Komabe, kunyalanyaza mwachilungamo kumakhala kwamuyaya. Kawirikawiri amati: "Khululukirani, koma simunaiwale." Inde, palibe amene amaiwala cholakwa chilichonse.
Aliyense angathandizidwe kulimbana ndi zolakwa. Ndikofunika kulingalira chifukwa chake mupitirize kukhumudwitsa. Tiyeneranso kukumbukira kuti munthu akhoza kulangidwa kamodzi kokha. Ngati anthu amakumbukira cholakwacho, amanyamula nawo. Mungathe kumenyana ndi maganizo a maganizo. Zidzatenga mphindi 30 ndipo muyenera kukhala nokha. Muyenera kukhala ndi mpumulo wabwino ndikupumula, ngakhale mutha kutseka maso anu. Ndiye kumbukirani kulakwitsa, komwe kunali koopsa kwambiri. Maganizo pang'ono, komwe gawo la thupi liri ndi mkwiyo ndikuyankha mafunso ena. Mwachitsanzo, kodi kukula kwake ndi chiyani, kutentha kotani, chokhudza chiyani? Ndipo pambuyo pa izi zonse muyenera kulingalira mtundu wa mawonekedwe olakwikawa. Zoonadi, ntchitoyi iyenera kuchitika kangapo kuti cholakwacho chilepheretse kuzunzidwa. Njira iyi ingagwiritsidwe ntchito polimbana ndi zolakwika zonse.
Tsopano mukudziwa zomwe zimawakwiyitsa ana ndi momwe angathandizire ana kumenyana ndi zolakwa.