Ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi, ali mwana, chifukwa cha izi, mwina pali zofunika zina zomwe mkaziyo ali nazo pa gawo lina la chiyanjano. Ndikukupemphani kuti muwone magawo onsewa omwe ali pansipa ndikusankha zomwe zimakuyenererani ndikupeza chifukwa ndi zomwe mungachite.
Kotero, siteji nambala 1 ndi "maluwa". Inu, monga msungwana wapamwamba, mwinamwake mukudziwa chomwe chiri, kotero ine sindingakhoze kufotokoza kwa nthawi yaitali. Gawo ili ndilo anthu onse omwe anali ndi chibwenzi chochepa. Ngati mwamuna amachitira mkazi ali mwana pa siteji iyi, ndiye, mwinamwake, zolinga zake sizingakhale zovuta. Amatha kukupatsani zokondweretsa, kutchula "mwana wanga" ndi abwenzi, ndipo inu mwanjira ina ndi zabwino ndithu. Koma! Mukangoyesa kupeza kapena kufotokoza lingaliro, perekani chinachake pa ubale wanu kapena perekani thandizo lanu, ndiye mumamva poyankha: "Chabwino, mukhoza kumvetsa izi! Msungwana wanga, musadzichepetse ubongo, bwino ndalama izi, pita ukagule chovala chatsopano ", ndiye muyenera kuganizira mozama. Mwachidziwikire, pa nkhaniyi muli chabe chidole, ndikusangalatsa nokha. Amunawo ali okwatira kwa omwe amalemekezedwa ndi kumvetsera, kotero muyenera kudziwa zolinga zake zenizeni kapena kuchoka.
Gawo lachiwiri - kutaya. Pano, monga lamulo, maubwenzi aakulu amayambira ndi mabungwe onse ogulitsa zinthu, minuses, lapping etc. Pa nthawi imeneyi, mumadziwa makhalidwe onse a wina ndi mzake. Ndipo ngati panthawiyi munthu akuyamba kukuchitirani mwana, ndiye ndikuyenera kukufunsani funso: Ndani ali pachibwenzi chanu? Ngati udindo wa wolamulira ndi wanu, ndiye maganizo awa a munthu amasokoneza. Mwina ndi momwe akuyesera kukufotokozerani kuti ubwino wake ukupweteka, kuti ayenera kulamulira awiriwa. Mwinamwake, iye amayesera kuti azichita mantha pang'ono.
Ngati mu chiyanjano chanu munthu wamkulu, ndiye kuti maganizo ake, monga mwana akuyamikirika. Kotero amakuwonetsani chikondi chake ndi chikondi chake, chisamaliro ndi malonjezo akubisa kuti adzakusamalirani. Koma ngati mulibe mafunso aliwonse owona kuti ndi oyenera kuti mufunsane nanu, ndipo ndemanga yanu iliyonse imatembenuka, mwachitsanzo, kukhala nthabwala, ndiye muyenera kulankhula naye ndikuyesera kufotokoza kuti popeza muli pamodzi, muyenera kumverana komanso kulemekeza wina ndi mnzake maganizo a wina ndi mnzake. Koma chifundo ndi chisamaliro ndizofunikira kwambiri, makamaka pamene zimachokera ku mbali yanu yokondedwa. Kotero musanayambe kumuimba mlandu chifukwa chokhala opanda chidwi pa inu panthawi iyi, yesetsani kutsimikiza kuti musapambanitse. Taganizirani izi - ndi zabwino kwambiri mukakonzeka kukhululukira chilichonse.
Gawo lachitatu - banja. Ngati nthawiyi ikukhudzana ndi chiyanjano chanu, ndiye ndikuvomereza kuyamikira kwanga. Kuti tipeze izi, mabanja angapo okha apambana. Ndipo ngati mwamuna wanu pa gawo ili la ubale akuwonetsani inu chifundo cha atate wake ndi chisamaliro chake, ndiye kuti ndi zabwino. Chifukwa mu chibwenzi chokhazikika chilakolako ndi chilakolako zimapereka ulemu, ulemu ndi chikondi, ndipo popeza mwamuna wanu ali ndi chikondi chosatha, ndemanga ndizovuta.
Mwa njirayi, ndinali wokhudzidwa kwambiri ndi nkhaniyi ndipo ndinaganiza zopanga kafukufuku pa malo ochezera a pa anzanga ndi mabwenzi anga, onse pakati pa atsikana ndi pakati pa anyamata. Chifukwa cha zanga, mwina osati zolemba 100% zolondola, chithunzi chotere apa: pakati pa anyamata, 20 peresenti ya anthu omwe anandifunsa ine (kuphatikizapo mwamuna wanga) anayankha kuti malingaliro kwa mtsikanayo ngati mwana ndiwonetseratu chikondi chawo chachikulu , nkhawa ndi zosowa za mtsikana; 75 peresenti anayankha kuti iwo mwina amamuchitira mtsikana yemwe akufuna kuphunzitsa chinachake, kapena munthu mwiniwake, pepani, wopusa yemwe sankakonda kusewera mokwanira ali mwana. Pano sindingathe kukaniza yankho limene limafotokoza bwino anthu ambiri omwe afunsidwa kuti: "Ngati mwamuna akutanthauza mkazi ngati mwana, ndiye kuti si mwamuna. Kwa iye (M) ayenera kuchitidwa ngati G. Popanda abusa aliyense, ndipo maganizo ngati mwana ayenera kuwonetsedwa kwa (M) mnzake wapamtima, yekhayo atakhala pansi pa lamba. " Nazi choncho. Eya, otsala 5 peresenti adanena kuti mtsikana ndi wotani. Ndikufuna kudziwa nthawi yomweyo kuti anthu oposa 75 pa 100 alionse ndi omwe ali ndi zaka 20, 20 peresenti ndi 28, ndipo 5 peresenti ndi 18. Choncho, ndinatsimikiza kuti amuna okhwima ambiri amayamikira zachiwerewere kuposa achibale awo aang'ono.
Atsikanawo anayankha mofanana kuti pamene mwamuna amachitira mkazi ali mwana, ndiye amusamalira, amamukonda ndipo amanyamula udindo wake. Avereji ya zaka za atsikana omwe anafunsidwa ndi zaka 20. Nazi ziwerengero izi apa.
Chabwino, ine ndikuganiza kuti ngati inu mukuchitidwa ngati mwana, ndiye kuchokera apa inu mukuyenera kuti muzigwiritsa ntchito. Kuposa aliyense wa ife akhoza kudzitama ndi mfundo yakuti munthu wa moyo mkati mwake samangoyendayenda, amanyamula manja ake, amajambula, amachitcha mayina aulemu ndi zina zotero. Ndine wotsimikiza kuti ngakhale abwenzi anu ali ndi nsanje kwa inu, chifukwa amuna ambiri amatisamalira ngati achikondi, monga antchito apakhomo, omwe angachotsedwe kuti ayang'anire. Vuto lirilonse likhoza kuthetsedwa mwa kulankhula momasuka ndi hafu, mwamsanga ndikuyika mfundo zonse pamwamba pa "i" ndikuwonetsera poyera zomwe akunena. Kuonjezera apo, nthawi zambiri timazindikira zoipa kuposa zabwino, koma pazinthu izi - chisamaliro ndi kudzipereka zingatengedwe chifukwa cha kulemekeza ndi kusakhulupirika - "Zimene tili nazo - musasunge, kutayika - kulira." Chinthu chofunika kwambiri mu chiyanjano ndiko kufotokoza kusakondwera kwanu ndikukambirana ndi mnzanuyo. Khulupirirani wosankhidwa wanu, ndipo mu ubale wanu padzakhala chikondi ndi kumvetsetsa.