Zili zomvetsa chisoni kwambiri, koma amayi ambiri tsopano akulowa mu chibwenzi popanda chikondi. Cholakwika chomwecho chimapangidwa ndi asungwana aang'ono omwe sadziwa kulankhulana ndi ubale ndi amuna. Amayamba chibwenzi ndi mnyamata yemwe samamukonda kwenikweni, koma amangomva chisoni ndi iye komanso ayi. Chifukwa chogonjera munthu, amayamba kukondana popanda chikondi ndi zofanana, akuyembekeza kuti m'tsogolomu padzakhala chikondi, ndi zofunikanso, ndi mgwirizano mu chiyanjano. Koma siziwoneka.
Ubale umene umayambira ndi kusamvetsetsa kapena kumvetsetsa kosavuta kumakhala pafupi nthawi zonse. Chisoni chochuluka, chomwe chinali pachiyambi, chimachoka ngati utsi, zimakhala kuti mnyamatayo sakufunikira konse, kuti ali wokwiya komanso wamantha, ndipo chokhumudwitsa ndi chakuti ndi mnyamata wosakondedwa muyenera kumapita kumasamba, kumpsompsona, kugonana. Kukhumudwitsidwa kumeneku kumabweretsa mkangano waukulu, momwe zonse zomwe zimakhumudwitsidwa ndi kukwiya zimasonyezedwa. Banja likuswa. Ngati mtsikana akuganiza chifukwa chake zonsezi zinachitika, ndiye kuti sadzabwerezanso zolakwitsa zake, ndipo sadzayambitsa chibwenzi chomwe palibe chikondi, ngakhale chidziwitso chodziwika, chiyembekezo chakuti zonsezi zidzawonekera pazokambirana. Koma ambiri amabwereza kulakwitsa komweko nthawi zambiri. Inde, chikondi sichidza msanga, chikondi pakuyamba kuona ndi chinyengo chabe. Kaŵirikaŵiri kuti chikondi chikhale choyamba pakuwona chikondi chokhazikika, chomwe chimayambitsidwa ndi kuyang'ana koyamba, kawirikawiri nkulakwitsa. Koma simungayambe chibwenzi ngati mulibe chidwi, ngati maganizo anu pa moyo ndi maubwenzi ali osiyana. Palibe chabwino chomwe chidzabwere. Mudzangokhalirana kukangana, kutsimikizira nokha mfundo yanu. Ndipo potsirizira pake zidzatsogolera kupatukana kosalephereka.
Ngati chirichonse chikuwoneka bwino ndi atsikana aang'ono, amayamba chibwenzi chifukwa cha kusadziŵa kwawo ndi naivety, ndiye chimawasokoneza atsikana achikulire ndi amayi achikulire kuti ayambe chiyanjano chotani? Akazi ambiri amalowa mu ubale wotere, kufunafuna mwa iwo, choyamba, kupindula. Zowathandiza kwambiri. Amayi ambiri amakhulupirira kuti munthu wolemera koma wosakondedwa angawasangalatse, akuyembekeza kuti ndalama ndi zikhalidwe za moyo wapamwamba zidzalowe m'malo mwa chikondi. Kawirikawiri, akazi oterewa amapezeka mu "khola la golidi" pamene pali chirichonse - ndalama, zovala zabwino, nyumba yabwino kapena nyumba, akupita ku malo odyera, kutchuthi kunja ... Koma palibe chinthu chofunika kwambiri - chikondi. Ndipo pali munthu wosakondedwa, wosakhudzidwa, amene sitingathe kuchokapo, chifukwa "adayesa" ndalama mwa mayi ndalama zambiri kotero kuti sangalole. Tsiku lililonse wosakondedwa amayamba kukwiyitsa kwambiri, ndipo mkwiyowu umadana ndi kuvutika maganizo. Pambuyo pake, palibe chikondi, palibe zofanana ndizo, chiyanjano ndi chopanda pake, imvi. Ndi pamene mkazi amvetsetsa kuti ndalama sizidzasintha malingaliro enieni.
Izi zimachitika kuti amai ayambe kukondana popanda chikondi chifukwa cha kugonana. Ngati mkazi sagonana kwa nthawi yaitali (aliyense payekha), ndiye kuti adzakhala wokonzeka kulowa mu chiyanjano ndi mwamuna wosakondeka ndi wosasangalatsa kwa iye wokha chifukwa amamukonza ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi.
Ubale wopanda chikondi ndi zofanana zomwe zidzatha posachedwa. Choncho, wina ayenera kupeŵa kuyamba mgwirizano umenewu, poyamba adzalangidwa ndipo adzapangitsa onse awiri kukhala osasangalala.