M'nthaŵi yathu ino, malire pakati pa dziko lonse la abambo ndi amai akuchepa pang'ono. Kotero zikuwoneka kuchokera kunja. Koma pamapeto pake, aliyense payekha "amakoka bulangeti payekha." Makamaka imawonetseredwa mu moyo wokhudzana. Mkazi yemwe amalandira zochuluka kuposa mwamuna wake, amakhudza kudzidalira kwake; Wothandizana naye amene sathandiza pakhomo amakhumudwa ndi maganizo ake osanyalanyaza. Mipando yosasunthika, yopota usiku, jekete silinapangidwe mu chipinda ... Zovuta zazing'ono zimayambitsa chisokonezo padziko lonse ndi kukangana kwakukulu. Koma mungathe kuphunzira kulankhula chinenero chomwecho kwa oimira mapulaneti osiyanasiyana, mukufunikira kutsatira njira ina.
Zigawo ziwiri
Vuto lina la mabanja ambiri ndi kusamvetsetsana ndi kupatukana. Izi zimachitika kawirikawiri: Achinyamata ali bwino pamodzi, safuna kugawikana. Kenaka amasankha kukhala pamodzi. Koma nyengo ya maluwa imatha mofulumira. Zimakhala zopweteka kwambiri kuti ambiri a ife tisunthire ku chikondi ndikugawana maudindo kunyumba. Munthu aliyense ali ndi makhalidwe angapo omwe amadziwonetsera okha pa moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, ndi zomwe wophunzira wake amaphunzira pokhapokha atayamba kukhala naye. Polimbana ndi mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku, njira ya kutalika kwa wina ndi mzake imayamba. Akazi amazoloŵera kuti azidzudzula anthu onse: "Iye samayankhula nane, anasiya kupereka mphatso." Mkhalidwe wa mtunda muwiri, ziwiri ndizolakwa. Zotsatira zake, amayi akusintha udindo kwa amuna. Koma amuna akungodikirira zoyambirirazo, mawonetseredwe a chikondi. Azimayi ali ndi mphamvu zowonjezera izi ku mapewa awo osalimba.
Kodi mwini nyumbayo ndani?
M'zaka zaposachedwapa, akazi akhala akulakalaka kwambiri ndipo amayesetsa kukhala ndi chiyeso chofanana ndi amuna mu chirichonse. Amayi okongola amatha kuwona pamalo apamwamba a makampani aakulu osachepera eni ake zovala. Ndipo mu bizinesi, akazi amayenda ndi amuna. Zotsatira zake, akazi ena anayamba kupeza ndalama ziwiri kapena katatu kuposa amuna awo. Koma amuna sangathe kupirira mpikisano uwu. Zotsatira zake: kukhumudwa ndiko chifukwa chakuti mkazi ndi amene amalandira ndalama zambiri, ndipo mwamuna amatsamira kumbuyo "pa mfundo". Nchifukwa chiyani amuna sangathe kuvomereza chodabwitsa ichi ndikukhulupilirabe kuti amayi ali ndi udindo wokhala ndi ana komanso kuyeretsa m'nyumba, kupanga banja labwino? Yankho la funsolo ndilofikira ma genealo. Pa nthawi ya anthu a manda, akazi adakopeka ndi mwamuna ameneyo, yemwe anali wolemera kwambiri kuposa ena onse: iye ankasaka bwino, anali wopambana kwambiri pakati pa achibale ake. Akazi akale, adapambana, chifukwa munthu ameneyu akhoza kukhala ndi ana abwino kwambiri. Pa chiwerengero cha majini, izo zinalembedwa. Choncho, amuna amasiku ano ndi ovuta kupitila mu mpikisano, makamaka ndi akazi. Koma si majini okha omwe amachititsa kuti mpikisano ukhale wolimba mwa amuna. Asayansi a ku America adapeza kuti iwo ali amphamvu kuposa akazi, amakhudza kupambana ndi kupambana kwa wokondedwayo pantchito. Ichi ndi chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa testosterone mu thupi. Chifukwa cha iye, wamphongo anawonjezera chikhumbo chokhala woyamba pa chilichonse. Ndiponso, banja lake limakhudza lingaliro la njira ya banja la mwamuna. Ngati bamboyo anali wopereka ndalama, ndipo mayiyo anali kunyumba, zimakhala zovuta kuti asinthe ndi kuzindikira zochitika zina, chifukwa pulogalamuyi imayambira ali mwana, imatenga maziko.
Makhalidwe abwino:
- Musati mupangire zifukwa za kupambana kwanu.
- Musanene kuti mukumvetsa kuti ndi zovuta bwanji kwa iye tsopano, musamumvere chisoni: izi zimapweteketsa maganizo ake.
- Muthokozeni chifukwa cha chithandizo chake, chifukwa cha chakudya chokonzekera bwino.
- Funsani malangizo momwe angachitire bwino, kuthetsa mavuto ena - aloleni kuti adzione yekha kuti ali wamkulu.
- Zindikirani zochita zake pazithunzi, mwachitsanzo, kuti ndi munthu wabwino bwanji, kuti apachikidwa pa shelefu, ndi yamphamvu komanso yowona, ngati kuti mbuye weniweni adachita.
- Musamuuze kuti ali ndi vuto komanso akulephera ntchito yake. Musanyoze ulemu wake.
Malingana ndi zotsatira za kafukufuku wa American Psychological Association, zinawoneka kuti akazi, chifukwa cha kusintha kwa khalidwe lawo ndi opanda mphamvu, mosiyana ndi amuna, kuyesetsa utsogoleri, adasunga ntchito zawo pa zovuta zosiyanasiyana. Mosiyana ndi amuna, iwo adagwirizana kuti azidandaula ndi / kapena malipiro.
Debriefing
Kuti mumvetse bwino wina ndi mnzake, nthawi zina mumangokhalira kulankhula momasuka, mutakhala patebulo. Uzani wokondedwa wanu zonse zomwe mwazipeza. Muloleni iye achite chimodzimodzi. Ndipo ndi zofunika kukambirana za mavutowa ali m "mimba yawo, osati chaka ndi theka pambuyo pake. Ndipo ndizofunikira kwambiri kusinthana ndi kutsutsana "amene ali ndi mlandu?" Kuti mupeze yankho "chochita chiyani"? Yesetsani kumverera kuti ndinu okondedwa kwenikweni kwa wina ndi mzake, ndipo kuti aliyense wa inu ali ndi mawu omwe angafune kunena kwa wina. Aliyense m'mtima mwake akuyembekeza kuti winayo amumvetsetsa, ngakhale chipolopolo cha zochita zamwano ndi mawu omwe amachititsa. Lankhulani mwakachetechete, musati mupite ku matanki apamwamba.
Makhalidwe abwino:
- Pitani pa tsiku. Perekani kwa wothandizana naye, pitani ku cafe, restaurant, kuti muyende. Kumeneko mukhoza kulankhula zakukhosi ndi kuthetsa mavuto anu. Uzani wina ndi mzake za zosangalatsa zanu. Mwinamwake inu kapena mnzanuyo mudzakondana wina ndi mnzake.
- Pita naye nsomba, ndipo mumulole apite nawe kuti akaphunzire masewera. Zosangalatsa zofanana zimabweretsa pamodzi.
- Nthawi zambiri amasangalala pamodzi. Pitani ku cinema, bowling kapena club, musaiwale za chikhalidwe - chiyanjano chowonetserako chiwonetsero kapena msonkhano ukhoza kuyambitsa phunziro losangalatsa la kukambirana.
- Perekani mzanu wanu mphatso, zodabwitsa. Ngati mukufuna kuti mnyamata wanu akupatseni maluwa, muuzeni za izo kapena zowonekera. Iye si telepath kuti adziwe zomwe mukufuna tsopano. Nawonso, perekani zinthu zachidwi kwa chibwenzi chanu. Kapena lembani makalata ang'onoang'ono ndi zofuna za tsiku labwino. Amatha kukhala m'thumba la jekete kapena thumba.
About Moydodyr
Kuyambira kale, ankakhulupilira kuti pamene amuna anali kusaka, amayi ankasunga nyumba. Zikuwoneka kuti nthawi zasintha, koma mapulani a banja sali. Mizu ya vuto ili imakula kuchokera m'banja. Ngati mayiyo akukakamiza mwana wake kuti aziyeretsa naye, m'banja lake sangathe kusiya mbale zosasamba. Ngati mayiyo amamuyeretsa nthawi zonse, kwa mwamuna mu dongosolo la zinthu, kuti m'nyumbayo dongosolo liyenera kuyang'aniridwa ndi mkazi. Ngati mumaganizira za izi, mzimayi ali wokonzeka kuchita chilichonse, kuti amuthandize yekha. Koma mukamakamiza munthu wamng'ono kuti achite chinachake - khulupirira ine, amachitenga ngati chikhumbo chanu kuti muwalamulire. Ndicho chifukwa chake amalephera kupereka mwatsatanetsatane malangizo anu onse.
Makhalidwe abwino:
- Chofunika kwambiri - musamukankhire munthuyo. Mupatseni udindo wothandizira kapena wothandizira pazogwirizana.
- Khalani pansi ndi mnyamata ndipo muzitha kujambula ntchito zonse za mnyumbamo, yemwe ndi ntchito yanji yoyamba.
- Ikani dongosolo la ntchito zapakhomo ndikupeza chilango cha kusamvera kwawo. Kumbukirani pa nthawi yomweyo yomwe mumapanga malamulo a banja lonse, ndipo musamachepetse ufulu wa munthu, choncho chilango chifukwa cha kuphwanya malamulowo chidzagwiritsidwa ntchito kwa inu mofanana. Kotero, inu muwonetsa mwamuna wanu kuti inu mumutenge mochepa kuposa iye.
Makhalidwe abwino:
- Kwa nthawi yoyamba, pita bwino kwa kanthawi kochepa, patapita sabata ndi theka.
- Itanani mnyamata wanu tsiku lirilonse, agawana zomwe mumaziwona.
- Ngati mwamuna wanu akufuna kuti tsiku lina apite yekha, musapange zojambula, zokhumudwitsa komanso kufufuzidwa.